Catguy Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I've got an even BETTER one for you. Had a guy hit me up on Skout a few weeks ago. It went well, but I got the bad boy, player vibe, so I held off on meeting him. When you get the bad boy, player vibe end all communication. Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I've got an even BETTER one for you. Had a guy hit me up on Skout a few weeks ago. It went well, but I got the bad boy, player vibe, so I held off on meeting him. Continued on, and had a date a week ago last Friday with someone else. Skout boy started pushing the meet, so I told him it couldn't be Friday because I had a date. If he's a player, why would that matter, right? So he says, "So you've got at least one other date lined up right?" Yeah. So why does that matter? If you want to hit it and quit it, why does it matter? Then says "So if I don't hear from you Saturday you don't need me anymore right?" Wow. Went on an abysmal date that Friday (long story, another thread, lol), and he hit me up on Skout at 2:30 am--what's up kind of thing. So if I answer you at 2:30 am that means I'm not screwing my date? Whaaaa...I was friggin' sound asleep at 2:30. Alone!! I see the Skout message the next day and try to reply. But...I've been blocked! Also unfriended on FB! Really?? I just let it go. This Friday, 2 days ago, he hits me up on Skout again and we talked (eventually moved from Skout to texting) and we talked for 8 straight hours. Ok. Maybe there might be something there after all. We planned to meet last night. He blew me off!! Whaaaa...maybe player, but thinking maybe not so I apologized about having the date the week before. Didn't think it would bother him and was thinking that he was acting all butthurt about nothing. He was like, it's ok baby. Just to confirm, I texted him yesterday at 5:30 and asked if we were still on. Complete...radio...silence...haven't heard a word. So...what?? He perceives that I hurt him (bad boy/player vibe-is that even possible?) so he has to reinitiate contact so he can hand me MY ass?? Whaaaa.... I really really hate this thing called dating.... I don't think he's a player, but he's definitely being overly emotional about things. At the age he probably is (I'm guessing at least in his 40s since you stated that that's the age you're interested in), he should either not be feeling like that anymore or know that it doesn't work and doing his best to conceal it. Link to post Share on other sites
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 This thread is a hoot! Sorry I know you're venting your frustration, but it's hard not to laugh at some of the nonsense that guys try. It reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where Elaine is complaining to Jerry about how dumb it is that construction workers think catcalls and wolf whistling will get them a date. Jerry responds that men have racked their brains, and that's the best idea they could find. Not all sites are created equal. Pick based on what you're looking for. Then just have fun and laugh at the absurdity along the way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 This thread is a hoot! Sorry I know you're venting your frustration, but it's hard not to laugh at some of the nonsense that guys try. It reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where Elaine is complaining to Jerry about how dumb it is that construction workers think catcalls and wolf whistling will get them a date. Jerry responds that men have racked their brains, and that's the best idea they could find. Not all sites are created equal. Pick based on what you're looking for. Then just have fun and laugh at the absurdity along the way. Two of my friends do this IRL. One of them gets girls so I'm pretty sure he's just messing around. The other one gets upset and then gets angry at the girls. I don't understand what he's expecting to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Catguy Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I would NOT say flooded. Absolutely not. That seems to be a misconception on this forum--that women are flooded with messages. Not really true. It just seems that the messages received aren't from guys that I'd have one thing in common with IRL. OLD is def more frustrating than IRL. Meh. I gave it a shot. It sucked. /story. Men send most of the initial messages. There are men and the very occasional woman who spam the site sending messages to everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I don't understand the point of this thread or why you're complaining, OP. You just sit there and do nothing and get flooded with hundreds of messages by quality guys and not-so-quality guys. The only work you have to do is sift through the messages (*Gasp* oh no! Poor you!). This is such a tragedy. You my sincerest condolences, OP. What a tough spot you're in. I always get envious when I read that women receive hundreds of messages. Why don't I receive hundreds of messages, maybe I'm too ugly? I receive enough, can barely keep up with the ones I have in line, but definitely not hundreds, that would be nice, maybe could super cherry pick then. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Catguy Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I always get envious when I read that women receive hundreds of messages. Why don't I receive hundreds of messages, maybe I'm too ugly? I receive enough, can barely keep up with the ones I have in line, but definitely not hundreds, that would be nice, maybe could super cherry pick then. Messages are so rare I do a double take when I get a message, so there! Link to post Share on other sites
debber01 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I don't think he's a player, but he's definitely being overly emotional about things. At the age he probably is (I'm guessing at least in his 40s since you stated that that's the age you're interested in), he should either not be feeling like that anymore or know that it doesn't work and doing his best to conceal it. Haha. He's 34. I'm 49. Def a cougar/cub dynamic involved as well. Just thought that at 34 he'd be a bit more...mature...he acts like he's a butthurt 18 y/o kid. Meh. He handed me my as* anyway so that's that. Lol. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 At 49, I wouldn't even talk to a 34yo man, honestly.Wasting your time with these. Link to post Share on other sites
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Two of my friends do this IRL. One of them gets girls so I'm pretty sure he's just messing around. The other one gets upset and then gets angry at the girls. I don't understand what he's expecting to happen. There is a lid for every pot. Professional men don't catcall, but don't lack for dates either. They just attract a very different type of woman to date them with the signals they use to show interest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Haha. He's 34. I'm 49. Def a cougar/cub dynamic involved as well. Just thought that at 34 he'd be a bit more...mature...he acts like he's a butthurt 18 y/o kid. Meh. He handed me my as* anyway so that's that. Lol. What are you looking for out of dating? It might be worth tailoring who you respond to based on that. Link to post Share on other sites
debber01 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I always get envious when I read that women receive hundreds of messages. Why don't I receive hundreds of messages, maybe I'm too ugly? I receive enough, can barely keep up with the ones I have in line, but definitely not hundreds, that would be nice, maybe could super cherry pick then. Totally agree girl. I receive 'enough' as well, but it's either ages 18-25 (flattering, but creepy--I'm friggin 49!), ages 62-80 (seriously got a message from an 80 y/o--u just can't make this shi* up!), or my age range (I'll do 35-55-can't be too picky at my age) and those seem to be the freaks. Guess maybe I have to try 30 or 60 and nothing in between! Lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 So essentially 15 years younger, but only 5 years older? Curious why you chose an age range that skews that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Catguy Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Women can help themselves by sending out initial emails or winks. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 OLD is a great idea in theory. In practice? Meh. Not so much. I'm the one that has had the sexual innuendos over and over and over. But tonight takes the cake. 80 years old. Really. Seriously. Not trolling. 80....f*cking...years...old....wow. <face palm>. This is definitely a new low. :sick:I'm not even beginning to be able to fathom THIS one! Wow... Yes, I think that's what online dating is all about - it is/was good in theory but in practice is rather lame. But it's lame because you are given access to all kinds of people you would not have otherwise met if there was no such thing as online dating. It has kind of screwed up our lives as well, but that's one of the introductions of technology to the world, isn't it? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
creighton0123 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 My oldest was 92. Not trolling. Sent me a picture of his erect appendage... Don't give up! Just hit delete and move on... Wow. Good for him. Link to post Share on other sites
debber01 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 What are you looking for out of dating? It might be worth tailoring who you respond to based on that. Agreed. I'm just a 35 y/o trapped in a 49 y/o body! Not fair. <shaking head> I like younger men, as a rule. I still like to ride the biggest baddest rollercoasters. Can't see a 45-55 y/o man doing that, unless I get really really lucky to find one. I want to skydive--it's on my bucket list. Haven't found a man yet over 40 that wants to do that! Young at heart, young in mind, just old in body . And, well, let's address the obvious elephant in the room. Sex is uber important. Very very often. I might be lucky to get once a week, and likely with the little blue pill, with a man my age. And I just...need more than that. So my physical needs skew younger, as well as my interests. But emotionally, I skew older. Quite a conundrum! Link to post Share on other sites
debber01 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Women can help themselves by sending out initial emails or winks. Winking at Catguy! Lolol. Link to post Share on other sites
trevzilla Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Hmm, had 3 attractive women contact me in 3 days, the planets must have been aligned or something. Hoping to line up a date with one next week. She loves hiking, so that would be cool. She said that she's extremely busy with her daughter and listed herself as casual dating no commitment, that being said she seems somewhat normal and nice so far. Probably just being honest and up front which is fine with me. I'm not a clinger at all and like my free time, so it might actually work for me if we click. Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 There is a lid for every pot. Professional men don't catcall, but don't lack for dates either. They just attract a very different type of woman to date them with the signals they use to show interest. The one guy I listed that gets girls doesn't get them by catcalling. He's a very good conversationalist. I think he just does that catcalling for fun. Like I said, the other guy doesn't get girls. My point basically was that it doesn't work. It suggests low confidence and a lack of experience. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
debber01 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 So essentially 15 years younger, but only 5 years older? Curious why you chose an age range that skews that way. Thanks CP. Addressed that in a post further on. I still enjoy doing edgy things--as in rollercoasters for example. Not edgy for the 16-35 crowd, but usually off the table for the 45 & up crowd. Not saying everyone. Just generalizing. I want to skydive--its a bucket list thing. Probably not going to appeal to a 50's ish man. I'm also a car guy. I love fast, hot cars. Wow. Just had an epiphany. I can now honestly answer your question--I am about 35 in real life age, and for some reason, have been stunted at that age. I just don't see a rocking chair in my near future. Again. Not trying to piss anyone off! It's a stereotype/generalization & YMMV. But it explains maybe why I'm attracted to younger rather than my age/older. Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Yes, I think that's what online dating is all about - it is/was good in theory but in practice is rather lame. But it's lame because you are given access to all kinds of people you would not have otherwise met if there was no such thing as online dating. It has kind of screwed up our lives as well, but that's one of the introductions of technology to the world, isn't it? Yeah. Most girls I know are unhappy with it. Most guys I know just use it to meet women for sex. I do too, actually. For some reason, I can't take the women on there seriously. I don't know why. Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Thanks CP. Addressed that in a post further on. I still enjoy doing edgy things--as in rollercoasters for example. Not edgy for the 16-35 crowd, but usually off the table for the 45 & up crowd. Not saying everyone. Just generalizing. I want to skydive--its a bucket list thing. Probably not going to appeal to a 50's ish man. I'm also a car guy. I love fast, hot cars. Wow. Just had an epiphany. I can now honestly answer your question--I am about 35 in real life age, and for some reason, have been stunted at that age. I just don't see a rocking chair in my near future. Again. Not trying to piss anyone off! It's a stereotype/generalization & YMMV. But it explains maybe why I'm attracted to younger rather than my age/older. LOL rollercoasters were edgy to me when I was like 7. Link to post Share on other sites
debber01 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 LOL rollercoasters were edgy to me when I was like 7. But it's a feeling, HBDC. It's that thrill of letting go and having to trust, I think. That's the thrill of skydiving. it's a high. It's a thrill. Put yourself in danger but survive. Ha. I guess the same could be said for OLD, eh? Guess that ended THIS thread! Lol. Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 But it's a feeling, HBDC. It's that thrill of letting go and having to trust, I think. That's the thrill of skydiving. it's a high. It's a thrill. Put yourself in danger but survive. Ha. I guess the same could be said for OLD, eh? Guess that ended THIS thread! Lol. Skydiving isn't really all that crazy. I've done it a bunch of times both in tandem and solo. Ever gone base jumping? Bungee jumping? Ever drive a Lamborghini at 120? Now those are rushes. Link to post Share on other sites
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