BluEyeL Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 (edited) I think the first date was too long and you are keeping too much texting contact after. You never know, he might ask you out again though. Edited April 22, 2013 by BluEyeL Link to post Share on other sites
bobsmith76 Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I always thought men send out 3 times as many messages as do women, according to this guy, men send out 17 times more messages. http://jonmillward.com/blog/attraction-dating/cupid-on-trial-a-4-month-online-dating-experiment/ But some women are getting all of the messages. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Just demonstrates the different reasons why people message. The prettier girls got most messages, especially the one that could demonstrate her body type. I bet most men didn't even look at the profiles. The standard profile that all the fictional characters used was incredibly bland, obviously trying to appeal to everyone. I would never message or reply to a guy who had something like that put up and didn't state whether he wants/already has children, etc. I'd assume he wasn't looking for anything more than a hookup. Men don't care because they want to get laid. Mystery solved. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Men don't care because they want to get laid.Mystery solved. Can you solve the mystery of why women give sex to the guys who only want sex? Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Can you solve the mystery of why women give sex to the guys who only want sex? It depends. Sometimes they only want sex themselves, more often than not they are tricked into having sex by the promise of a relationship. Didn't think it was a mystery. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
FlyerFan54 Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 You've gotta grab their attention. Find a small detail in their profile that most people would overlook, and ask them about it. The major details, they've been asked about 100 times. I find the women complain because they're too picky. OLD is ridiculous, but it works if you find a way to grab their attention. And if any woman is looking for the perfect man, OLD is definitely not the place she wants to be. Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Messages don't mean anything if it's just some joe schmoe with a gut asking you how your day was. That's about 95% of them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I dont think most women have the huge egos that men have. We actually care about quality of partners not the quantity. Men are more into quantity due to them wanting to "spread their seed" genetically and not having to deal with the 18 years of consequences after they ****. Sorry, women are pickier about who we date generally and if we werent the human race might not have survived. If men were the ones carrying children, youd be more cautious about who you let into your vag as well. Guys writing me creepy and womanizing messages that are purely based off of my looks and have nothing to do with me as a person does not stroke my ego at all. When I did OLD 90% of my messages were of this type or the generic "Hi" "How are you" "Youre pretty" that men send to 100 women a day online. The reverse would totally stroke a guy's ego. As ES on here would say "A guy wanting to sleep with me is in no shape or form a compliment. Most guys would fu*k a jar of Vaseline." Truth 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Exaggerate much? EVEN IF IT IS 95% YOU STILL HAVE OODLES OF MEN TO CHOOSE FROM. QUIT WHINING. but what if they are all like you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Problem is, if you are so bitter and negative towards women in general, you are not doing yourself any favors in terms of success. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 A woman sees a few and the bands all men together like this. We know this. WOMEN EXPECT THAT PERFECT FIRST MESSAGE and then respond to 1/1000 of them. WOMEN HAVE THE NUMBERS IN OLD. you have all the advantages. Yet you complain about too many messages. lol. You got lots and lots of men who want to settle down for marriage on there, but women say no to them. too short. not fit enough. not enough hair. good looking but not good enough looking. lol. Nope. I got so few messages from *good quality* men on OLD that after a few months I sought the ones out that I wanted and messaged them FIRST. If I hadnt done that, I wouldnt have gone on more than 2 dates from OLD. Hows that for ya? Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 You got lots and lots of men who want to settle down for marriage on there, How do you know? I think it's pretty common knowledge that most men on OLD (as in over 50% at least) look for sex. The first thing women do is scan those profiles to see whether it's likely to be the case. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy fields Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 another lie. what I laugh at the hardest is when hot guy contacts women with stupid message. hot got gets mad and emails back. women emails back stop contacting her. hot guy mails back some joke. 12 hours later this women whos supposedly looking for marrage is sleeping with this hot guy. Are you the woman in this scenario, because I don't think you are the hot guy? Link to post Share on other sites
FlyerFan54 Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Messages don't mean anything if it's just some joe schmoe with a gut asking you how your day was. That's about 95% of them. I used to get those from girls. For me it's an automatic turn-off. I never understood why people did that. Bring something to the table and intrigue me to message you back. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I can't speak for what other women are looking for, but I personally not look at physical attributes when responding. Only at education, writing style, and employment. I have an advanced degree, so I don't answer to people with "some college" or "high school". I answer to everyone else, unless they are obese. I do not answer to hot guys on purpose. I'm not super hot myself, I had a few "hot" guys email (like 4 of them) me but didn't answer to them, bc. I think they are trouble and I stay away from them. Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 You got lots and lots of men who want to settle down for marriage on there, but women say no to them. too short. not fit enough. not enough hair. good looking but not good enough looking. lol. LOL, Op you must be 15 years old. Im gonna stop listening to you because you are naiive and dont have enough brain cells. The majority of men online just want sex. Unless you live in some Marriage-Loving-Alternate-Universe, you are in denial Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 another lie. what I laugh at the hardest is when hot guy contacts women with stupid message. hot got gets mad and emails back. women emails back stop contacting her. hot guy mails back some joke. 12 hours later this women whos supposedly looking for marrage is sleeping with this hot guy. Where do you bitter, jealous dudes get this crap? You're just as much of a turn off to me as a "hot" cocky guy. You both suck. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Hm, the T word is applicable to the OP I think 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I know good quality men, far higher quality and a zillion times nicer than I am. yet they do not better than I do which is terrible. WOMEN want it ALL. hot or hot to them whatever that is, successful, of course fit, full head of nice looking hair, lots of hobbies, lots of friends, and so on. they have a list thirty pages long. meet 29.9 pages of the list and youre out of there. Nope. I tend to go for the average looking guys. Hot guys tend to have bland personalities. Im smart, blunt and sassy and I need someone who doesnt have an ego, doesnt interact like a brick wall, is honest and can banter with me. The vast majority of guys I dated online did not have that many friends and were pretty busy people with work. Very few made very good money too. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 The man I liked the most of all has white hair, a little belly, and is severly balding but he has very warm eyes and personality, although turned out all he wanted as sex as well. So OP you are wrong. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Friends, coworkers, I'VE SEE IT WITH MY OWN EYES. the hot cocky guy somehow has sex with fifty women while I'm lucky to get even a single message resonded to. Sucks to be you, I guess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Common false imagination that women have. they cry like babies even though they have 30 choices of men not wanted for just sex. There's another thread going about how to guarantee that you get laid via OLD. Maybe you should check it out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 You want a man with hundreds of friends but isn't too busy at work. HELLO. How is a guy going to pay his bills? I'm in Westchester county new york. Do you have any idea what a mortgage costs there. I have to spent lots of time at work. and whats this all about banter? you expect instant connection in the first five seconds? Where did I say I want a guy who has 100's of friends? I already said most of the ones I dated didnt have that many. Hello I live in NYC. Im sure my financial troubles are alot worse than yours. I pay 1450 dollars a month for a teeny tiny apartment where I feel claustrophobic. Banter? I am an intelligent, witty person. I banter. Obviously you are kinda dumb because you cant interpret this. Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Sucks that WOMEN WHO GET A THOUSAND MESSAGES WHINE ABOUT IT Who's whining here? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 OP you are a woman hater, and that is your problem. It doesn't matter if you want sex or marriage, nobody wants to mary a mysoginist. Plus, you seem unhappy, that's no fun. Link to post Share on other sites
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