DanielStone Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 I mena to get peoples own personal opinions on it... I understand that the Law states you must be 18, however, there are a lot of people who think it should be higher! I just wanna get peoples OWN opinions.. Just curious! Link to post Share on other sites
bson1257 Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 The idea that people join these sites and are all too willing to meet a stranger in a back alley somewhere or get upset when someone lies about the way they look. Am I the only one who thinks online dating is just a big scam? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lamaga Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 You can meet genuine people that way just like in real life. You can meet a**holes and creeps that way just like in real life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 Your question as written? It seems unlikely that you're the only one. Meeting in a back alley? You might be the only one who thinks people do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Pandy13 Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 You're not alone. I tried some onl dating site but I think ppl there just wanna get into your pants. And I don't like that. I have recovered from breakup and I do want a serious relationship, not some short sex nights... Idk not for me. Anyone has any advice/ tips on this? (I just moved to a new area so I have virtually 0 friends here and I don't like the idea of hitting bars to meet new people since I don't feel like the people there would be my type)... Link to post Share on other sites
apple OR orange Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 Maybe the only one yeah, as almost all the male population think its fine, women like it as they get an ego boost with no need to even ring someone... Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 Well, I'm sure one of these days I'll go to meet a girl from OLD and get knocked unconscious and have my organs harvested and my bones made into wind chimes... Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 You can meet genuine people that way just like in real life. You can meet a**holes and creeps that way just like in real life. I think it's worse. Sure I have met some shady girls in bars and clubs in the past, but if you meet people through your social circles and introductions the chances of them being shady goes down significantly when compared to OLD. After I started reading this forum I am glad I had 0 success on OLD. Link to post Share on other sites
c57dood Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 It's too easy to lie on the internet. In fact, 99% of what you read is a lie. Did I mention I'm a 6'5'' bodybuilder who makes $3,000,000,059 a year? Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 I get a kick out of how I see profiles where a woman says, "You get bonus points if you know what this term means, what this song lyric is from? etc" And then you easily guess it (Without Googling) not to get a response anyhow. What's up with that? Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 Haha I know right. Men do it too, I just google them. Ha. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 I can guess several reasons for these snippets... (1) They see it as a "cute" way to reveal their interests. (2) It acts as a first filter for the countless numbers of messages they receive. If a guy actually reads her profile, they'll spot that phrase and usually give an answer in their initial response. Of course it doesn't mean that you actually get any bonus points; it just means you make it to round 2. You still have to be tall and white. (3) They have an inflated sense of self-worth and feel the need for men to perform tricks for her to win her attention. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 What's up with that? catching you out whether you've read the profile Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 I can guess several reasons for these snippets... (1) They see it as a "cute" way to reveal their interests. (2) It acts as a first filter for the countless numbers of messages they receive. If a guy actually reads her profile, they'll spot that phrase and usually give an answer in their initial response. Of course it doesn't mean that you actually get any bonus points; it just means you make it to round 2. You still have to be tall and white. (3) They have an inflated sense of self-worth and feel the need for men to perform tricks for her to win her attention. yes to all. I used to put that phrase in my profile and the above is a pretty accurate description of the reasons why Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 Sounds like viable reasons, but yet , it's moot, I don't get a response. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 Sounds like viable reasons, but yet , it's moot, I don't get a response. With all seriousness, the reason why I put something similar in mine was to create a hook in my profile to draw people in with similar interests. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 With all seriousness, the reason why I put something similar in mine was to create a hook in my profile to draw people in with similar interests. Though there's an issue with this...you'll have the genuine guys who "deserve" the bonus points, but they will get lost in the mix with those who just do a quick Google search to fake it and gain the bonus points. So you're thinking all of the guys who message you are special with similar interests, but in reality, only a small fraction of them are...and the rest are much of the same old guys on OLD that you have to filter through... So I don't think it's that reliable of a filter... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 Though there's an issue with this...you'll have the genuine guys who "deserve" the bonus points, but they will get lost in the mix with those who just do a quick Google search to fake it and gain the bonus points. So you're thinking all of the guys who message you are special with similar interests, but in reality, only a small fraction of them are...and the rest are much of the same old guys on OLD that you have to filter through... So I don't think it's that reliable of a filter... I can't remember what it was now but it was an attempt to hook men in who would find that particular reference funny as opposed to refer to a particular interest - I phrased it wrong. I never cared for filling out endless questions about hobbies and movies and other c**p. I'd create a profile that would appeal to a certain type of personality. Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 Standard scoring = 0. Bonus points = 2. 0 + 2 = 2. 2/10 = No play on OLD 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 Standard scoring = 0. Bonus points = 2. 0 + 2 = 2. 2/10 = No play on OLD I think how people read your profile and how they assess what you say indicates who they are in real life. So if I invite someone to react to aspects of my profile, from his reaction I can gauge who he is. Never take anything at face value on OLD. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 I think how people read your profile and how they assess what you say indicates who they are in real life. Yes. It's easy to see who has a brain and who is stoooopid. I know the torture of sifting through endless, boring profiles so I try to make mine entertaining. At least the intelligent ones who aren't my type will acknowledge, "I know I am not your type but had to tell you that your profile is one of the best written ones I've ever seen on here." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted May 20, 2013 Share Posted May 20, 2013 A message I got from the owner of POF (likely everybody got it): My name is Markus and I created POF/Plentyoffish. When I created POF, I wanted it to be all about finding relationships with the right person. For the first 7 years this worked really well, I got the site to 10 million users without any employees people and POF was generating a ton of relationships. Around 3 years ago, everyone started using the website via mobile phones. Today about 70% of POF use is via a mobile phone and unfortunately about 2% of men started to use POF as more of a hookup site mostly due the the casual nature of cell phone use. In sticking with my vision that POF is all about Relationships, I'm going to make a bunch of changes to ensure it stays a relationship-focused site. 1. Any first contact between users that contains sexual references will not be sent. Anyone who tries to get around this rule will be deleted without warning. This rule has actually been in effect since last month and it's made the site so much better. 2. You can only contact people +/- 14 years of your age. There is no reason for a 50 year old man to contact a 18 year old women. The majority of messages sent outside those age ranges are all about hookups. Anyone who tries to get around this rule will get deleted. 3. Intimate Encounters will go away in the next few months. There are 3.3 Million people who use the site every day, of those there are only 6,041 single women looking for Intimate Encounters. Of those 6,041 women, the ones with hot pictures are mostly men pretending to be women. Intimate Encounters on POF can be summed up as a bunch of horny men talking to a bunch of horny men pretending to be women. In short the vast majority of people will not be impacted. This is because the vast majority of people are not going around spamming women saying "let's have sex tonight". I can't change POF alone, I need your help to get the word out there that POF is all about relationships! Markus lets see how that works out! Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted May 20, 2013 Share Posted May 20, 2013 lets see how that works out! Yeah, got that. I don't always understand why he implements some of the things he adds / changes on the site, but "intimate encounters" did seem to cause plenty of angst for presumably little gain. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted May 21, 2013 Share Posted May 21, 2013 "Intimate Encounters on POF can be summed up as a bunch of horny men talking to a bunch of horny men pretending to be women." 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Martha Mey Posted May 21, 2013 Share Posted May 21, 2013 I am a 20 year old girl. when technology is increasingly sophisticated, yet easy to get acquainted with all the people in the world. as well as I, I am acquainted with someone who is very far away, I was interested in Dutch, so I know a lot of people from the dutch social networks. I myself come from the Indonesian, and he's dutch you meet in a social network, share stories and everything November 2012 conversation when we were getting close, can say this as a long-distance relationship, so sweet when we share stories, almost every day we share stories, "Hi martijn how are you, I think of you everytime, every wake up when my eyes was open in sun rise, blablaba like that, as well as with him" over time, I fell in love with martijn, maybe it's like a silly thing, I think he also feels the same way, but .... when we share stories, face to face via skype, whatsapp every day, I'm more confident, he is someone who will be my future, I was interested in him, he it is strange, different from the other guy, I liked him, but from all over the word what he said, I felt, he was only joking, just fill the empty time and get bored and talk to me, I do not think he loves me uga, hunch turns out I was right ... when Valentine was over, martijn different, he spoke not as usual, one word that I will never forget from her "what do you think, that we will be forever, it seems it is not possible" why did he say that? if he knew, if he knew, when he utters it, my heart was shattered, my hope was also destroyed, at that moment I asked, why do you say that a sudden? whether there are other girls that make you change your mind? when he was not telling me anything. The next day, martijn telling the truth, finally he said, he found a girl and they both feel fit. As I know this, whoever becomes me, certainly shed tears, Somehow, I do not get angry, because I know and realize that martijn never loved me, as I loved him sincerely, I will continue to faithfully until later when we met and lived together, I will always wait for you, until we build a life together. Just as I was faithful to God, perhaps in this world I would not meet with God, but I believe I will meet with him later, and I also believe God is always there beside me, Such is my loyalty to you, but ... When she decided to end all of this, we have not even met in the real world, when we are not shared and talked every day, I feel lonely, I lost my dreams, a man who appeal to me, a man different from other men, whether I'll find one like him? I'm desperate, I do not want to find another man, let time run, maybe one day a real man who can love me sincerely and faithfully, also a man who can prove, that he loves me, maybe someday will come. But, I've hurt, my heart feels so empty, why not me there, when martijn met with other asian girl, I'm so jealous, maybe I'm not lucky like that girl, that girl martijn might want, a smart girl who study in he country, a rich girl and has a personality that martijn want, not like me, just an ordinary girl, I can not do anything, but I can still fight sesutau, but it was all in vain, because he had found someone, Why this all is not fair to me, I want you back, I want you, why do not you fight for the heart, until later, until we are living together, whether I'm just a puppet that you permainkan? if these feelings are just robots? you can when you are bored permainkan When I think about that now you do not often talk to me anymore, every tear that drops me, it is a sign of sincerity of my love for you, If someday we will meet? even if you already have a girl? When a few weeks later, you say "martha I want to keep talking to you, we've known for too long, I just could not stop talking about you" Do you know, when you say it, my heart is very happy, I'm happy, but I have to be aware, we can not be together, I do not understand why you still want to communicate with me, though only when we are online skype each other, maybe later martijn will forget me, when he was living with his girlfriend, I admit I really want you, but now I realize, I can not, I do not understand how this should happen, I'm sorry too love you, and I have to realize, love does not mean that, I must have you for ... I'm still waiting for a letter that you were sent, this may 25, my birthday, whether the letter indicates, that we can no longer speak, or a letter detailing that you're just a fake story about another girl you've had? I would not expect much. I just want you to know, I love you, I'm sincere, the feeling is like a mountain that will never be destroyed, and may be lost if someone came to change everything, I'm not that easy to forget, but I have to forget this feeling, though it's hard. You are always what I wrote, but I was what you would never read. I never went, always in your heart, you are never far away, always in my heart, This is the story of our hearts,, a sincerity, a love that will never be avenged, a waiting empty, and false hope, for someone who had direlakan. I love you sincerely from my heart, I want you like I'll never left Jesus in my mind, But I'll Realize you are not Mine. My dear boy Fairy Tale "Martijn d R" My dear, schatje, liefde, dolfijnen, nakalku, superman, my prince: ') from me Mey Martha S for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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