Consolidated discussion - Online dating

[dbrown]

I agree with some of the post here. I think instead of using traditional online dating one should go for proper meeting and dating. Whoever wants to get success in this field has to be more confident in terms of talking to girls so that he can find a nice girl and successful date.

 

 

 

Online dating sometimes waste our time and we would not come to know that to whom we have talked to for so long and at the end we don’t find the right match for us. Hence one should develop the skills and confidence to talk to girl face to face and ask her for a date. This is the best way to get a date in a short time.

 

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[MrCastle]

You know what my openeing message is 90% of the time?

 

"Hi,

How's it going?"

 

You know what I figured out? That me with a jawline is really all that matters for the majority of women.

 

Women who ignored me when my face was a little roundish after I put time & effort into a message responded to me after I lost about 10lbs and had a jaw line & I put no effort into the message.

 

Hahaha that's what it is bro! I've been working out all summer and the very defined jawline I have is turning heads. I'm assuming. I mean I have a v-shape and defined arms but I'm getting more looks for my face.

 

Women and that jawline. I don't get it.

 

I guess it shows you can chew food with authority.

[FitChick]

OLD is just another meeting tool, like a wrench v a hammer.

 

Are you a serial killer?

[PlumPrincess]

You know what my openeing message is 90% of the time?

 

"Hi,

How's it going?"

 

You know what I figured out? That me with a jawline is really all that matters for the majority of women.

 

Women who ignored me when my face was a little roundish after I put time & effort into a message responded to me after I lost about 10lbs and had a jaw line & I put no effort into the message.

So not true. I ignore these messages, no matter how hot the guy looks.

[Jon Tenzo]

Online dating doesn't work unless you are talking about Craigslist or Backpage "casual encounters"...

 

And if you are a busy man trying to make something out of yourself online dating is not the way to go. It is the most time consuming and often the most fruitless out of all the exploits.

[WP4046]

When you send a girl message and if she is not interested, instead of ignoring you and deleting the message, she replies back with THANKS

 

 

Why respond back at all to make a guy think you are about to start a conversation? And that's when I have to say something nasty

[thefooloftheyear]

Not everyone wants to be rude and many people feel that ignoring someone is rude or passive aggressive. She probably just wanted to not come off as a bittch..Dont be so sensitive..Just let it go..

 

TFY

[WP4046]

Not everyone wants to be rude and many people feel that ignoring someone is rude or passive aggressive. She probably just wanted to not come off as a bittch..Dont be so sensitive..Just let it go..

 

TFY

 

 

How would I know she is being rude when I don't keep track of everyone I sent a message to?????????????????????????????

[sillyanswer]

No, that does not annoy me the most on Online dating sites.

[Emilia]

Bait... avoided.

Or maybe you just don't want to admit that this is how some men perceive OLD rejections?

[sillyanswer]

I just got accused of sending a cut-and-paste message. Given that I referenced stuff in her profile that would make it a bit of a nonsense to send to other people I do wonder what she was thinking (other than, obviously, that she didn't like my pictures). Some wimminz be cray cray.

[MrTurk]

If God and the Devil existed....I would have to say that the Devil created online dating

[MrTurk]

Is it just me.....or does everyone else seem to find that the highest number of interested matches are always "1 hour away"?

 

If you got a map.....and drew a circle around my town that spread out 1 hour.....EVERYONE within that circle ignores me, and treats me like I have the plague. But everyone outside that circle, farther away....cant believe I get ignored, tells me how attractive I look, and is willingly to meet me.

[Jon Tenzo]

^ this... sure it sucks to be rejected. However, I'd rather be outright rejected than ignored and wondering all of the "what if" kind of things... and clinging on to a false hope that maybe she will email you in a few days!

 

Life will be a lot easier if you are cynical and always assume the worst. Just set it and forget it. If the other person doesn't respond it's on them. Only follow-up for professional matters never pesonal.

[PlumPrincess]

Is it just me.....or does everyone else seem to find that the highest number of interested matches are always "1 hour away"?

 

If you got a map.....and drew a circle around my town that spread out 1 hour.....EVERYONE within that circle ignores me, and treats me like I have the plague. But everyone outside that circle, farther away....cant believe I get ignored, tells me how attractive I look, and is willingly to meet me.

One hour, just one hour, away and you complain. For heaven's sake, just date them if they are so willing.

[PlumPrincess]

How would I know she is being rude when I don't keep track of everyone I sent a message to?????????????????????????????

 

Bait... avoided.

Oh, come on. I'd love to hear your answer.

[MrTurk]

One hour, just one hour, away and you complain. For heaven's sake, just date them if they are so willing.

 

One hour is 2 hours of drive time taken out of the day. I drive a ton for work...so driving isnt the issue. Its the time and money.

 

Lets say I visit her only twice a week. That is minimum an extra $200 a month in gas....just to get me at her door....that does not include dating expenses.

 

If we are dating or in a relationship....living that far away just makes all the planning more annoying. Everything has to be thought out because of the time crunch. An hour to get there...and then an hour has to left open to get home. I'd much rather spend more quality time with my date than waste it on 2hrs or more of driving.

 

I think too many people that do LDR's are more needy, and willing to do whatever it takes to just be with someone....regardless of what hardships it puts them through.

 

I live in a suburb of 40,000 people....and another 50,000 within 30 mins.....there is no reason I should have to drive an hour or more to get a date.

 

 

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[jcrew11]

I've heard that some women don't like online dating because they get TOO many messages; and can't handle all the interest from the creepy men.

 

While I think online dating is a great way for Women to take control of her dating life and to pick guys for her criteria. Instead of waiting around for a guy to find her.

 

But I can also see how some women don't know how to handle an influx of messages from too many men; many of which may be undesirable.

 

Are there women out there that dislike Online dating because they receive too much interest from men?

[Philosoraptor]

I doubt most women dislike it due to having "too much interest", but for having "too much undesirable interest". Whether that's of sexual nature, age, race, etc, or simply just a lack of effort in the messages.

[HappyLove]

I OLD and I guess people have reasons for everything but that would seem odd to be upset at too much interest. Now too much interest from the wrong men or rude messages I could understand. I think if a woman doesn't respond back its most likely your not her "type" or you don't want kids she does, your too short or too tall, too anything really. It allows people to be super picky which can be good and bad.

[tbf]

From what I've read on LS about online dating, if women try to narrow down the field by stating requirements in her profile, she's viewed as being arrogant, a bitch, too picky, pretty much every pejorative in the English language, from guys who don't meet those requirements.

 

So it's not surprising why some women get frustrated by attention from men they're not interested in.

[clia]

I doubt most women dislike it due to having "too much interest", but for having "too much undesirable interest". Whether that's of sexual nature, age, race, etc, or simply just a lack of effort in the messages.

 

Yes, this.

 

I loved getting a lot of messages, but it was highly annoying to get messages from guys I was clearly trying to exclude in my profile, who obviously didn't bother to read my profile to even see what I wanted. For example, guys who were 10+ years older than my specified age range, guys who didn't live nearby, guys outside of my specified religion, race, height, education, income, etc. Filtering through all of those crap messages got really annoying. If I only got messages from guys who at least met my requirements, I wouldn't have found it overwhelming at all. I would've welcomed all of the interest and gone from there.

[waiting4u]

Well I don't get a lot of messages - like 3 a day maybe and I'm cute. But I do live in a rural area - not a big city. Plus I specify that men be taller than me, so maybe that eliminates a lot of them. I'm 5'7.

 

OLD is a pain in the butt.

[Star Gazer]

I doubt most women dislike it due to having "too much interest", but for having "too much undesirable interest". Whether that's of sexual nature, age, race, etc, or simply just a lack of effort in the messages.

 

Totally this.

 

I get tons of messages and the gross majority of them are from guys where I'm thinking, "You've GOT to be kidding."

[Star Gazer]

Yes, this.

 

I loved getting a lot of messages, but it was highly annoying to get messages from guys I was clearly trying to exclude in my profile, who obviously didn't bother to read my profile to even see what I wanted. For example, guys who were 10+ years older than my specified age range, guys who didn't live nearby, guys outside of my specified religion, race, height, education, income, etc. Filtering through all of those crap messages got really annoying. If I only got messages from guys who at least met my requirements, I wouldn't have found it overwhelming at all. I would've welcomed all of the interest and gone from there.

 

This is why I like Match. It allows you to have two Inboxes: one for messages from people you want to hear from, and a "Filtered" inbox for those you don't. You can select which filters to use, and they don't have to be the same as those in your profile. But for me, people who are absolutely not a match (for the reasons/qualities you listed) get sent to my Filtered box and I don't see them unless I make a point of opening it.