johan Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Considering how many relationships start and succeed through online dating, I think it's hard to say it's a joke. It definitely doesn't lead to success for everyone, but normal dating doesn't either. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I can't stand the business like approach to it. Meeting somebody in person and getting to know them and feeling their vibe and personality is much better than looking at pictures that in many cases are doctored and looking at a list of traits like you are shopping for a car. I just never enjoyed it and the few dates I went on did not go well. Link to post Share on other sites
aburd123 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I think that it could be, because i am a member of that site and I know that I've had guys contact me to the point of harassing. Yet at the same time, I've also acquired a long term relationship from that site that lasted a few years, ended amicably and we are still in touch with each other....today. I think that it can be very seedy, but I think it's worth a try. You never really know unless you try. I mean I use common sense. I talk to them first, ask them questions about what they have in their profile, and towns that they live in and then look up the answers to see if they are being honest.If it seems too good to be true, it probably is...I guess it's your call. Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 To me I think I will stick to old fashion way because I'm not getting any views. I got one message a view but their account was closed because this person was spamming. I don't have a photo up but even I did I wasn't getting any views. Online dating is stereotyping people by income a lot I notice. POF doesn't do least not yet but it might. Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 A "joke" to those who have negative experiences or no experience through it. Not so much a "joke" for those who have had positive experiences. There are things that people say about it that I have never experienced or see and there are some things that are common or typical of OLD. I think all of these dating rules are a joke. I don't follow them and I've been doing fine. BTW, i've only OLD since I started dating again and I am not complaining. Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I can't stand the business like approach to it. Meeting somebody in person and getting to know them and feeling their vibe and personality is much better than looking at pictures that in many cases are doctored and looking at a list of traits like you are shopping for a car. I just never enjoyed it and the few dates I went on did not go well. I agree with this. Maybe I can buy a girlfriend on Ebay. It's too advertising. Meeting in person you see what they look like, you don't have to spend hours to perfect your profile. Plus you really don't know who is behind the computer. After about month of sending email messages back and forth, and when you meet the body language and expressions can change everything and you wasted 30 days, and never worked out. POF is one of the few free dating sites, because I don't think I would pay $ 40.00 or more to try to meet people. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Unfortunately, I think OLD is one of those latent effects of life. I was reading this article written about 15-20 years ago when it was a fairly new thing. The Internet was invented as a means of communication, no question, but the fact that people were using the Internet to not just communicate and then some would actually meet face to face for other than business purposes is certainly latent. OLD evolved from there, the fact that people lie about themselves (old photos, their ages, occupations, etc.) was another latent effect and rather sad on top of it. Remember years ago when you were hearing about people who were leaving their spouse/SO for someone they met on the Internet? Or that they were actually meeting someone face to face from it? Now we don't even bat an eye at it. I wonder sometimes if IT had never happened, would we be where we are now? I guess not. But like everything else in life, things have changed. Would we be any better if it never happened? Hard to say. If nothing else it makes us get out of the house and interact with others more. Will it last? I don't know. I've had a few insane experiences with those I'd met online. I had only two real "relationships" with those I met online. One is/was still a dear friend (or I consider him to be one even though we only interact through Facebook anymore and he lives in his hometown across the country from me), the other was a complete and utter a****** who treated me like s*** after our 6 weeks was over with (last I looked him up online he was engaged to be married and I pity the woman if he treated me like he did). It's something to do I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
uniqwa Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I can honestly say.. Do not throw caution to the wind.... Now My ex met his current Gf on omegle, its a chat line.. Now many of the people on there are prostitutes, or bored idiotic children with nothing better to do.. now she met him there.. he met her.. They are now together.. He loves her wants to marry her ^_^... It really depends on the individual, who knows you could meet "the one" or kiss a lot of toads.. I personally don't believe in online dating but later on tonight... I am going to go on omegle and chat just for the hell of it.. Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 With the amount of crazy people growing everyday, I would say be careful with online dating. You might click on a message then only to find its uploading a virus to your machine to steal your identity. Link to post Share on other sites
jcm101 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I never liked OLD for this reason.. Let's say you go on a date with a girl from there. Everything goes well, but it's just the first date, she's not deleting her profile and you damn well know she's coming home and logging in that night or next day day to 50 messages. What if someone better looking comes along? That is the number one factor in OLD, anyways, so she might respond and then set up a date with him. It's just a merry go round for them. I feel OLD is only useful if you're like 25+. That is the people who actually take it seriously. If you're under 22 it's a joke filled with 90% of girls who have ridiculous standards and qualifications. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) I'm hearing so many bad things about online dating, from men meet women who post fakes pictures of pictures of themselves when they were 10 years younger and looked great. Then I hear women saying men are posting fake pictures, from both sides it does not sound goo. I recently signed up for POF and I'm wondering if I should still continue or close it and just meet women in person. One way or the other I will have to meet her in person, cannot have a cyber relationship. Then I hear awful stories where I seen a woman on TV said she met this guy and found out he was an ex sex offender. Then another one met a guy online showing his 6 pack abs and saw him person she said he was like 400 lbs. So I'm thinking if its really worth it. Then I hear the men to women ratio is large and lot of filled are hit hard by lot of messages, so she starts to filter out lot of guys she finds unattractive, then she will filter base on income and financial stability. Physical attraction I can see but filtering out by financial stability I think is wrong. But then the men look for super models, so it goes both ways. What is you experience with online dating? Do you think its really worth writing up a good profile or would you rather meet people in person? How would a woman meeting a guy in any other way other than introduced by a mutual friend who has a history with the guy know of his past when meeting him? If there is anything wrong with the person in the profile, they will be reported when anyone else meets them and finds out the problem. The profile will be closed. There is better screening than meeting someone randomly in public. The purpose is to find people to meet in person. Just because you're looking online doesn't haven't anything to do with a "cyber relationship". What if you picked the profiles out of a book in a match agency prior to the internet? Where you look at the profiles has nothing to do with how you conduct a relationship. If people can find others to meet out and about, then they don't need online dating sites. That's rather obvious. It's also obvious the vast majority of people aren't on online dating sites and met someone in another way. The remainder of us can use online dating sites to meet people we would never run across out and about. It's not much harder than posting complaints about it. Regarding fake and misleading pictures, first meeting should be coffee or drink chat. If you don't recognize who you came to meet, how hard is it to say that? "I'm sorry, I came here to meet so and so, they must have sent you in their place. Nice to meet you, I'll be on my way." There that wasn't so hard, was it? Filtering criteria. Well, I guess reality is hard for people to deal with. If you don't think you're being "filtered" in real life for everything anyone complains about being filtered in an online match, then they are just naive. Especially money and financial stability for men. I don't list my income as it is sensitive information within a company and others in the company could see the profile. In women profiles, income is also often not stated. The "filtering" by financial income is actually done more vigorously in person than in an online match, if done much at all online simply because so many don't state it in public. Would someone rather meet people in public? Again, if that was happening they wouldn't be on an online dating site trying to meet people. Edited April 6, 2013 by outsidethebox Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 To me I think I will stick to old fashion way because I'm not getting any views. I got one message a view but their account was closed because this person was spamming. I don't have a photo up but even I did I wasn't getting any views. Online dating is stereotyping people by income a lot I notice. POF doesn't do least not yet but it might. Most women will not deal with profiles without pictures. Why should they? Why would they? That's like you saying you would select dates based on phone calls. Well it's an ideal but just that, idealistic. On the income thing again, women are practical. They tend to think about things like how we're going to pay for what we need to raise a family. One of the many reasons I've not been in a relationship since the PC was invented (not entirely coincidental I guess) is the time I've spent living in cars and homeless shelters in my naive journeys to random cities looking for work. Women tend to not be attracted to that instability. Heck, I'm not fond of it either. Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 It doesn't matter what I think! What matters is what your think after you try it! So you could go and try it and tell us Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 It doesn't matter what I think! What matters is what your think after you try it! So you could go and try it and tell us So far its not all that. I think I might just close my account, the women to men ratio is too small and that pretty much leaves me out. But then all the fake people I experienced online just making me have second thoughts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 So far its not all that. I think I might just close my account, the women to men ratio is too small and that pretty much leaves me out. But then all the fake people I experienced online just making me have second thoughts. Well, you should be patient "All good comes to those who wait!" Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Most women will not deal with profiles without pictures. Why should they? Why would they? That's like you saying you would select dates based on phone calls. Well it's an ideal but just that, idealistic. On the income thing again, women are practical. They tend to think about things like how we're going to pay for what we need to raise a family. One of the many reasons I've not been in a relationship since the PC was invented (not entirely coincidental I guess) is the time I've spent living in cars and homeless shelters in my naive journeys to random cities looking for work. Women tend to not be attracted to that instability. Heck, I'm not fond of it either. I message lot of them without pictures. Looks don't matter to me. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I said women don't message men without pics. Men message women without pics. Some women don't put them up but even they know that they will get better approaches with a pic. When you message a woman, most will not reply simply because you don't have a pic. Why should they? Why would they? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I said women don't message men without pics. Men message women without pics. Some women don't put them up but even they know that they will get better approaches with a pic. When you message a woman, most will not reply simply because you don't have a pic. Why should they? Why would they? Yeah, I can understand if a girl didn't put her photo on Facebook for example But a guy, wHY??????????? :eek::eek: I'd think he must be so insecure about himself or not honest! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I haven't looked at men's profiles (and won't be for answer to this - I'll take anybody's word on it) but I can't imagine very many men not putting up a pic. They know it's not possible for it to work without it. Even most women have a pic on OKC and they have a decent reason for not putting up a pic. But for those that don't, if they weren't not honest about what they're doing women will think they are anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Yeah, I can understand if a girl didn't put her photo on Facebook for example But a guy, wHY??????????? :eek::eek: I'd think he must be so insecure about himself or not honest! Well I'm Indian mixture so putting up a picture will do no good. I personally believe many women do generally like Indian or men (such has myself) who has a mixture of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 why would it do no good? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Well I'm Indian mixture so putting up a picture will do no good. I personally believe many women do generally like Indian or men (such has myself) who has a mixture of it. No, don't think in this way! See girls have different tastes and I'm sure many will like you Not many like 1000 but like at least 5! 5 is many Just dress good, act good and everything will be good 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 For me personally I think online dating is a joke. But I just closed my POF profile. I was curious what the rest of you think about online dating. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 You didn't put up a pic of yourself. Of course women will consider that a joke. You treated it like a joke. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 you will get offers and hits if youre good looking. the better you look the more offers youll have. everyone is shallow and everyone wants to date someone good looking. thats how it is. what you write in your profile does help but people ultimately click because of the picture. you see a picture of a fat guy or girl in that first thumbnail, how many are going to click? you see a muscular good looking guy, how many are going to click even out of curiosity? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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