irc333 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 *New one* "I'm giving this site one last try!!" or "This is my third time, and that's IT!!" Of course, this is a woman I'd emailed already in the past, of course, and didn't respond. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 *New one* "I'm giving this site one last try!!" or "This is my third time, and that's IT!!" Of course, this is a woman I'd emailed already in the past, of course, and didn't respond. I'd say that's a green light to email her once more. Another common phrase: "I can't believe I'm doing this". (I find that one a huge turn-off. Get over yourself, princess!) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Consider which site you're using. I've never used POF but from what I hear it sounds like the internet equivalent of a campus dive bar the night after midterms. I would try the paid sites if I were you, people who go on those are typically much more serious about finding someone. I don't have any problem meeting people offline, but I want to find a nice girl so I do use Match sort of supplementarily to help with the search. It's a good tool to fine-tune your search, I definitely go for quality over quantity. I can't say it's been anything but a success for me so far. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosopher Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Firstly. What is best to do if a women takes ages to reply to your OLD messages? Recently I have had quite a few women who have taken a week or more to reply to my messages. Normally they would say have been very busy with work or other stuff and that is why they have not replied earlier. However since it only takes a few minutes to reply to a message, it makes me think they are not interested . Secondly. How do you convert replies to messages into actual dates? My messages must be funny, interesting or exciting enough to get a fair few women to reply to my initial messages. However all too often they stop replying after the second or third message. Normally I will ask for a phone number in the third message, frequently though I will not hear back from them after that. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 You got replies? Better than most. You have to ask to meet (a date) first, then if she agrees to meet you can try to exchange phone numbers before meeting but some will be hesitant toi give you her phone number until they've met you in person. There's a big consolidated online dating thread pinned at top that has lots of discussion on this and some good tips. Link to post Share on other sites
readytodate123 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 I think it depends. Some people like online dating because it doesn't require much effort. You just put your profile up online and algorithm will do everything else for you. I think most of the people on online dating sites are legit, some of them are fake. You just need to exchange messages with them first to see if they are real. Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 This post was inspired by a previous post about most often said cliche's in dating profiles. The, "Okay, this is my third attempt, hope it's a charm!" and then complain about the string of jerks, pervs, or players that they've met on the dating site. Sometimes they annotate that with, "....and this will be the LAST time!" Of course, I already emailed them before.....so that being said, I sometimes would attempt another stab at contacting them thinking they would at least respond considering their GRIM situation. I usually annotate their introductory "grim" issue in my follow-up email noting their bad luck and perhaps, since this is their last attempt, I say, "Good thing I came across your profile in the nick of time! LOL!" Good idea, bad idea, or will they think, "Great this guy is emailing me....again". Gentleman, have you been seeing this lately, too? Single women announcing the number attempts they've bene using the site? Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 I say, "Good thing I came across your profile in the nick of time! LOL!" I like that! Good idea, bad idea, or will they think, "Great this guy is emailing me....again". Some will. Some won't remember - I'm sure you've read stories on here about women who don't even have time to read all the messages they get. Gentleman, have you been seeing this lately, too? Single women announcing the number attempts they've bene using the site? Yes. And I've occasionally got responses second time round that I didn't get first time round. I take the view that if they've come back with a new account then it's fair game to send them a new message (assuming they never responded first time around). Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 I like that! Some will. Some won't remember - I'm sure you've read stories on here about women who don't even have time to read all the messages they get. Yes. And I've occasionally got responses second time round that I didn't get first time round. I take the view that if they've come back with a new account then it's fair game to send them a new message (assuming they never responded first time around). Yeah, been there, done that....they never respond, even after their third attempt....so they just wind up being a permanent fixture in my search results. lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Lately, I'm noticing quite a few women in my area writing their entire profile in Spanish, though the "Drop downs" they had chosen English words for "Yes" and "no" obviously. So what's the deal with not speaking in English in these profiles? lol Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 The obvious answer is that they are looking for a man who speaks Spanish. Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Meh, they're going to be alone for awhile anyway. Most of those types have major issues, if you couldn't tell by all of the red flags they leave in their profile that scream out "I AM PSYCHOTIC, I AM MELODRAMATIC, I AM NOT INTELLIGENT, I AM ALWAYS RIGHT, YOU ARE BENEATH ME, etc. etc." Link to post Share on other sites
CryForNoOne Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 I haven't been online long enough to see the same women with new profiles. But I have a two message rule IF it's someone I'm particularly interested in. I mean it's a numbers game so in theory why should you care what they think about sending multiple messages? You have to be thick skinned to find success anyway. The only thing that prevents me from sending 3+ messages is that eventually it becomes disrespectful of a woman's private space. I mean even if you have no ability to truly stalk them, 3+ messages without a response is creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
jcm101 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I figured i'd give it another go and actually was talking to a cute girl who actually goes to the same college as me. She said to add her on FB as it's easier to connect/talk, so I did. I waited for he to contact me, but then I went ahead as she didn't. No reply yet since last night and I think she's been on her FB. Her OKC account also deleted. It is a real chick as im still friends with her on FB and it's an active profile. Why do girls do this there? Maybe she didn't check her messages yet, but everytime you log in, you see that red notification so im sure she did. Is it because my profile doesn't have me with 7000 pics or wall posts 24/7? I just don't understand why she wouldn't message back. Link to post Share on other sites
CryForNoOne Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I figured i'd give it another go and actually was talking to a cute girl who actually goes to the same college as me. She said to add her on FB as it's easier to connect/talk, so I did. I waited for he to contact me, but then I went ahead as she didn't. No reply yet since last night and I think she's been on her FB. Her OKC account also deleted. It is a real chick as im still friends with her on FB and it's an active profile. Why do girls do this there? Maybe she didn't check her messages yet, but everytime you log in, you see that red notification so im sure she did. Is it because my profile doesn't have me with 7000 pics or wall posts 24/7? I just don't understand why she wouldn't message back. You gotta be thick skinned. IRL cute girls are already flaky as it is. With OLD they get even flakier. Almost 50% of my dates get postponed. I'm sure some are legit excuses, but it's obvious a whole lot of juggling guys is going on behind the scenes... Link to post Share on other sites
jcm101 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 You gotta be thick skinned. IRL cute girls are already flaky as it is. With OLD they get even flakier. Almost 50% of my dates get postponed. I'm sure some are legit excuses, but it's obvious a whole lot of juggling guys is going on behind the scenes... It's terrible about how much judging goes on with OLD. Half of these chicks who don't message me back, I can probably talk to IRL and possibly hook up with at a party or something. Im not going to contact her again. Maybe she will, but it's w/e. This is the second OLD chick in past week who told me to add them on FB and then no contact from them. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 If she goes to your college why don't you just walk up to her and introduce yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
jcm101 Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 I've never seen her before on campus, so not sure how just find her IRL. And she ended up messaged back and we started talking. I asked her to meetup for coffee on campus and she agreed and asked for my schedule. I told her okay and then I asked for her number last night. A minute later I see a "Seen at" under my message and now today still no reply. Seriously? Are you honestly now going to ignore me because I, OMG, asked for your number after we agreed on meeting up? Maybe she'll reply late like she did before, but before I didn't see any "See at" under my messages. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 I think someone has put something in the water... or at least, I'm suddenly getting lots of first-contact messages on dating sites. Maybe spring has arrived on this half of the planet? Link to post Share on other sites
jcm101 Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 I've never seen her before on campus, so not sure how just find her IRL. And she ended up messaged back and we started talking. I asked her to meetup for coffee on campus and she agreed and asked for my schedule. I told her okay and then I asked for her number last night. A minute later I see a "Seen at" under my message and now today still no reply. Seriously? Are you honestly now going to ignore me because I, OMG, asked for your number after we agreed on meeting up? Maybe she'll reply late like she did before, but before I didn't see any "See at" under my messages. Well she finally replied with her number after 2 days. Going to text her tomorrow and schedule a time to meetup. Not sure how I feel about seeing the "Seen at" two days ago and just now her giving me her number. W/e, doesn't hurt to just meetup and get to know her. She's cute and looks like a good girl at least from her FB and we go to same school. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 Don't forget that she has female friends she could possibly fix you up with, so be nice, even if it looks like it won't work out between the two of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 I just received a message on an OLD site saying that his priority is to find someone "neat and organized." Odd. Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 This should cheer people up... Post about the whackjobs you've met online here. Best story I have? Met this guy on a site that doesn't exsist anymore. We had things in common and he presented himself as single and he became my boyfriend. One day I decided to check my voicemail (which I actually rarely did) and found this message from a woman screaming what the f... Was I doing f...ing her husband. I ring him up leaving a voicemail yelling at him, he rings me back trying to smooth it over, I yell at him a bit more then hang up and never talk to him again. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 I thought that's what every thread here is. Link to post Share on other sites
ErosOcean Posted April 13, 2013 Share Posted April 13, 2013 So I never thought I would sign up to an online dating site. But I was curious to try it. I mean, how hard could it be? Plus, I wanted to prove to those that complain about it that it was all about trying. Anyway.. I signed up to the popular online dating site, POF. And after putting up a killer profile I had a few hotties hitting me up. I knew they wanted me with the way they were being aggressive with their messages. Seriously, one of them was calling me her "Sex Kitten" and another kept sending me videos of herself dancing to Charles in Charge! It was incredible, how things were getting hot and heavy. I never would've thought that online dating would be such a good idea. So after awhile I settled for this girl and we began to seriously date. We were perfect for each other. I really thought that she could be the one! Although, we never met in person. I knew by her emoticons and how she writes in broken English that it was fate. That was, until last week, when I saw my girlfriend on the news accused of scamming men into sending her gifts... That was when I learned her, or should I say his, real identity was the Keebler Elf! http://ddq74coujkv1i.cloudfront.net/keebler1.jpg Men!! Link to post Share on other sites
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