Drseussgrrl Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 This is the kind of enlightened commentary I come here for. Well - nothing we say here is going to change the fact that the OP is a whiny, unsuccessful dude who clearly has no success with OLD. They just love to hate on women and blame them for their failures rather than self-reflect. It's so attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 New York City, women in New york city are the worst Ive seen with the most options. IN FACT WOMEN IN NEW YORK CITY MORE THAN ANYWHERE ELSE WANT HOT GUYS TO HAVE SEX WITH. that or they want some millionaire banker who's defrauded a thousand people of their savings. be hot or rich, that's what a man much be in new york city. Its not much better in Westchester. million dollar homes. I have a shack that I paid 350k for. Theres a surplus of women in NYC, so if you want to keep a guy you gotta sleep with him quickly (because if you dont, theres another one who is willing to) which is why I have poor luck dating here. Anyone who doesnt have hedonistic view on life will have trouble dating here. In terms of that stereotype you listed, I work in an underpaid profession and dont value rich guys like that but there are girls here like that. I actually stay away from rich girls- in NYC they are rampantly unfaithful. You should move here. Youd have goodlooking chicks willing to sleep with you. I have read many blogs of average looking men moving here and getting tons of dates every week because there are so many women. Very few men in NYC want to settle down. Ever hear "a man is only as faithful as his options?" NYC proves that. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 If sex were so easy to come by for a man in NYC then why have I had none for over FIVE years? probably something related to typing in capital letters 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Its womens fault if they spend hundreds getting ready and boy do they in Westchester and NYC. they can even spend thouands. convered with makeup, fancy schmancy clothes, but errings, god knows how long they spend on their hair. high maintnence. that's NYC. Um, speaking from a woman who lives in NYC thats what alot of men like. I dont have money to buy expensive jewelry and clothes I work in an underpaid profession and most of my money goes towards my rent. I dont wear a ton of makeup because I dont like looking like a different person when I take it off. I have pretty nice facial features and a good figure I work hard for with my diet and exercise routine, yet I get called a "plain jane" all the time. I get called hot/gorgeous in my hometown though where not as many women dress like that and have hours spent on their makeup and hair. I AM plain next to most NYC women. NYC men like the hot, high maintainence women. Thats what they value- women that can be their trophies. Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Can you solve the mystery of why women give sex to the guys who only want sex? Tough love answer? For the women that do this and dont want "just sex" like the guy, those women are too emotional and dont think with their brains too much. Oh, I refuse to sleep early with ANYONE. Once I went on a few dates with a guy who was a fitness model. Im pretty plain in NYC so I dont know why he asked me out. This dude was insanely hot, and nope I didnt sleep with him. However, Im far more rational than most women. Link to post Share on other sites
fmaze Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 never too late! here is the best solution: PrivyDate :: Home Link to post Share on other sites
bu2002 Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 I have only been OLD for a few months (I'm a male) Between the three below factors, which matters the most, or if you had to break each down in terms of a % of 100, how would they rank. 1) Pixa 2) Written Profile 3) Initial Email I'm thinking Pics are 50%, written profile is 40%, and initial email is 10%. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 I have only been OLD for a few months (I'm a male) Between the three below factors, which matters the most, or if you had to break each down in terms of a % of 100, how would they rank. 1) Pixa 2) Written Profile 3) Initial Email I'm thinking Pics are 50%, written profile is 40%, and initial email is 10%. It's more like this: Your pics, your written profile and your initial email all have a chance of blowing it for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 It's more like this: Your pics, your written profile and your initial email all have a chance of blowing it for you. Well said Link to post Share on other sites
Marek Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 Is it? I hear about plenty of guys getting laid on the first date from some girl from OKCupid or POF. I'm not terribly handsome -- probably around a 6 or 7 (but that's pushing it). Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 From what Ive heard many women on POF.com want casual sex. There are a few men on here that swear they get alot of women from that site to have a one night stand with them. I took a look at some female profiles once for ****s and giggles and I believe it. As long as you turn on the charm and wit youd prob bed a bunch of women. I dont think being average looking is as detrimental for men because women can be attracted to other things so dont worry about your looks. For OKCupid, Id pick girls that answer they want sex in 1-2 dates in their questions section. POF.com is the "go to" casual sex site. I had a few men I used as penpals on that site and after talking for a month or so many admitted thats what they used it for even though they wrote they wanted a relationship in their profile. I did meet one nice guy off of there, but he was 1 in 100. Link to post Share on other sites
SunsetRed Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 All the men I met wanted easy sex on the first date. Either that or they wanted some easy money, as in me move in and help them pay their rent. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 I've never used plentyoffish but at least here in my area, it's widely considered just a solicitation site at this point. Nobody says "I need to find Mr/Mrs Right, I'm gonna joing plenty of fish." You go there to find someone to bang. Link to post Share on other sites
Estate Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 You can do it online but the quality you're gonna attract will be abysmal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 Mr. Castle - is that a big tittie BLONDE in your pic? Getting sex is easy. It's finding someone quality that you actually want to spend time with for any extended period that seems nearly impossible with OLD. It just sucks. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 Okay EVERYONE I think it's settled and will have killed it a thousand times over. Universal Truth / Fact / Common Knowledge: Getting sex in bars, clubs and through O.L.D. is easy. Finding someone quality that you actually want to spend time with for any extended period that seems nearly impossible with OLD and in bars in clubs. If you want sex, O.L.D., go to bars and clubs. If you are looking for something "more" with a quality person, don't O.L.D. or go looking for them in bars and clubs. Did I clear this up for everyone? You can just do what I did and start dating your coworkers. Sh*tting where you eat. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 Mr. Castle - is that a big tittie BLONDE in your pic? That's Marilyn Monroe I believe. Or a really good imitation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 Did I clear this up for everyone? It's only clear until the next thread on this topic, which will be before the weekend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 So I've been chatting back and forth with one of the women I messaged. We're going out for drinks tomorrow. This is the most amazing thing ever and I'm really kicking myself for not doing it sooner. I will report back. Famous last words regarding OLD. Link to post Share on other sites
Better Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 Wait till you find out she is married, has a bf, is transgendered, has Tourette's and more issues that require a subscription. Id love to hear your raving reviews about OLD. P At least one of those should be obvious quickly 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 I, for one, can't wait to hear reports from Mr Soul. Why don't you open your own thread like BB? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 I have almost zero success on POF in any fashion, except I get messaged first by very unattractive women. The attractive girls all seem to be single mothers with only a HS education. Girls who list "tanning" as hobby. The normal ones simply don't respond. OKC takes work but dates do come out of it. I'm in a smaller town area and have pretty well worked through the gals, so my best chance is when a new one pops up, which isn't that often. From OKC I've met some nice gals for dates and sometimes it's easy sex, just depends. Link to post Share on other sites
ls32ssibm Posted April 25, 2013 Share Posted April 25, 2013 I've gotten some quality tail from OKC. There is a certain art to doing so. That being said, I haven't done it in a very long time and have "retired" the part of me that does hook ups or one night stands. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr_Flay Posted April 25, 2013 Share Posted April 25, 2013 I've gotten some quality tail from OKC. There is a certain art to doing so. That being said, I haven't done it in a very long time and have "retired" the part of me that does hook ups or one night stands. So how do you choose profiles for ONS? Paradoxically enough, I only get replies from high-quality girls. They usually look down on ONS and similar practices. The skanky types seem uninterested in me. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 25, 2013 Share Posted April 25, 2013 Got another date for Saturday. So I'm locked in 3 dates/3 women: Thursday, Friday and Saturday. You gonna get tired and burnt out soon Link to post Share on other sites
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