BluEyeL Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 Got it, get well soon and resume! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 I really thought I had met the man I'd be with on...... POF. Yep, it wasn't until recently that I heard many crazy stories about it. It just ended, in the last day or so. We were together a bit over a month. He said he was looking for long term and so was I. Never again. OLD is not for me. This was my 3rd attempt in a year. It seems many guys use OLD as a hobby. I guess some women do too. I mean, OLD sucks, but really, you wanna find the love of your life on POF of all sites? Everyone knows that's just for sex. Use eharmony or at least match, what the heck? Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer4 Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 That's what I meant, I didn't know until recently what that site is about, I still don't think all men on there are just looking for sex. I saw the guy I met on there every other day at least and thought it was going well.. I was on eharmony for 8 days and thought it was terrible! Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 I mean, OLD sucks, but really, you wanna find the love of your life on POF of all sites? Everyone knows that's just for sex. Use eharmony or at least match, what the heck? That's what I meant, I didn't know until recently what that site is about, I still don't think all men on there are just looking for sex. I saw the guy I met on there every other day at least and thought it was going well.. I was on eharmony for 8 days and thought it was terrible! I'm on POF, I'm not looking for sex. I don't use it as much as OKC, but still. Are women on there looking for sex? Is that what's causing my problem? Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer4 Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 I have heard that the men on POF are just looking for casual sex. I was on there looking for LTR, and had my email settings set on that, but obviously some people lie to get what they want. I will not be doing online dating again, well I say that now. At least for a long while. It's just such bs. I know I can't generalize but geesh. It is crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer4 Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 I think my problem was that i joined POF on a Sunday and by Tues I met this guy. Took our profiles down after 2 days. Hmmm. Interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 And why was eharmony horrible? Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer4 Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 The thing I hated about eharmony is that they matched me with men outside of my area. I'm not looking for a pen pal or long distance. And you don't have the option to look around there. You have to be matched. Well they'd match me with maybe 10 guys a day, most lived out of state or too far and the others were not physically attractive, or way too old. I'm 40 and had matches that were 60+. It wasn't for me. A waste of $58 . Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 She did ask me if I wanted her to come over. I told her no. I can't appear needy or weak this early. Be strong, man! It's fair to cancel the date tomorrow, you want to be in tip top shape to impress the woman when she first meets you. And I got back online, what the heck? Got one guy ask around 7pm if I am up for a date tonight. I mean, tonight, really? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 The thing I hated about eharmony is that they matched me with men outside of my area. I'm not looking for a pen pal or long distance. And you don't have the option to look around there. You have to be matched. Well they'd match me with maybe 10 guys a day, most lived out of state or too far and the others were not physically attractive, or way too old. I'm 40 and had matches that were 60+. It wasn't for me. A waste of $58 . In fact, I had the exact same experience. Can't manipulate that site, people outside the area.... I know how to manipulate match to get dates, but eharmony is bad. Only got like two dates off of that. Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer4 Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 Match is better? Well that's good to know.. Maybe years down the road I'll try that. Or I might just wait til I'm 50 and join our time. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 Match is better? Well that's good to know.. Maybe years down the road I'll try that. Or I might just wait til I'm 50 and join our time. LOL Much better. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 I told him, not tonight, but next week if he wants to, and he said the week of May 6 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 Speaking of pictures, what's the best way to update my photos? I've got a lot less hair on top than before (as in I shaved my head), so do I just scrap my entire crop of current photos and upload all new ones, or mix it up? If your old photos show you doing activities, then they still serve a purpose (ie to show that you're not a basement-dwelling couch potato). So leave a few of them until you have suitable replacements, but either label them with the date or mention in your profile that you've changed your hairstyle. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 I was on there looking for LTR, and had my email settings set on that, but obviously some people lie to get what they want. I will not be doing online dating again, well I say that now. At least for a long while. It's just such bs. I know I can't generalize but geesh. It is crazy. And the guys you meet at the bar, in the park, or at work are all looking to settle down and get married, right? Link to post Share on other sites
jennifer4 Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 No they aren't but I'll take my chances rather than continue with OLD, for the time being. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 Mr. Soul, I, for one, love your story and that you are getting softer at your "old age":laugh: I copied you guys, and made a profile on OKCupid yesterday. Guess what? I'm 41, got contacted by a 26yo lol, and a well spoken one. Told him incredibly flattered, you're too young, go hit on 20 yo girls, I'm gonna have arthritis soon. Turns out he has served me countless times at Chipotle and once saved my purse, which I forgot there. I'm a Chipotle addict, I inject it, I go there every other day religiously. Now I can't go to Chipotle, gonna die of hunger:laugh: He promised not to bring it up so I can continue to have lunch lol 2 Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 The thing I hated about eharmony is that they matched me with men outside of my area. I'm not looking for a pen pal or long distance. And you don't have the option to look around there. You have to be matched. Well they'd match me with maybe 10 guys a day, most lived out of state or too far and the others were not physically attractive, or way too old. I'm 40 and had matches that were 60+. It wasn't for me. A waste of $58 . That's unbelievable. They charge for that level of matching? That shouldn't happen for free. On OKC the matching criteria is as specific as you want to make it. Several levels of distance included. I haven't done anything on mine for a couple of months now and no matches anymore after whoever is on there is matched to you. I can see that by charging you money the site you mentioned must provide matches so don't limit the criteria so they can say they provided matches for the money, but that's quite frankly just a scam. I can't say I haven't seen anyone say it before but it's still shocking to see you say it. OKC is free and you wouldn't get any matches like that. Link to post Share on other sites
amazingdrummer Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 I got a problem now, I 'accidentally" knew my boyfriend FB's password, and every now and then, I logged in and checked his IM. I felt terrible about it, but don't know how to stop, it's so addictive that I just can't stop by myself. how can I tell him to change his password (he has no idea that I knew his password)? Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 Haha that's funny. Good for you though!!! Go after it! Of course I can't go for "it", but it was funny, and now I'll see him in Chipotle, gonna be awkward. He said that I manage to make even a brush off sound good, so maybe it's gonna be fine when I go to lunch, or I'll need to move to Panera, and Panera is for wimps LOL I have a few more age appropriate ones. I don't think OKCupid is for LTR though, but I'll stay on there for a couple of weeks just for fun. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 why don't you think OKC is for LTR, BlueEyeL? I never got that impression at all from any of the profiles I've ever seen, although I don't know about profiles under mid 30's or so. People here keep saying looking for sex and profiles say not looking for sex. I'm going to go with the profiles. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 I don't know, just because it's free? I have a few guys there now, but one is pushing for "let's chat, can you chat, can you chat" I don't like to "chat". I like to exchange a few email messages, maybe talk on the phone for 15 min, and possibly meet, I feel pressured with the "can you chat, can you chat" thing. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 interesting points as usual, Blue. What I said about OKC referred to women. First of all, I haven't seen (and won't be seeing) any men profiles, so I don't know what they say. Secondly there are so many low life, scumbug, horndog men running around I wouldn't even care to characterize them beyond that. So while all the women profiles are for LTR and almost universally specifically state they are not interested in those only looking for sex, maybe only half to two thirds of men profiles are that way. I don't know. Let's say there are three times as many men profiles as women, but 1 to 2 of the 3 are just there to see what they can get type thing. Still a substantial number of serious men for LTR. Granted, I exclude "Casual Sex" in my profile and searches, and I'm sure most women do too, but those that check it are upfront about what they are looking for. No problem. For the can you chat thing, that's one of the guys wanting to sext. That's what they're there for. Most women on OKC keep their IM turned off for that reason. They would only turn it on when messaging with a guy and they agree to chat instead. Much more natural and quicker than messaging. I agree with you about the progression. I don't have much experience to talk about, but prefer to chat enough to get a feel of personality to know whether to see if worthwhile meeting. Most women are not comfortable giving out a phone number until meeting so that isn't usually an option. I don't know much about what women see from the men so interested in what you have to say about your experiences there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 I don't know, just because it's free? I have a few guys there now, but one is pushing for "let's chat, can you chat, can you chat" I don't like to "chat". I like to exchange a few email messages, maybe talk on the phone for 15 min, and possibly meet, I feel pressured with the "can you chat, can you chat" thing. Did you tell him any of that? Doesn't seem too hard a problem to solve. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 29, 2013 Share Posted April 29, 2013 Didn't tell him, I told him I can talk at 10.30 tonight and I'll tell him then, but I think I'll stop talking to this one, he is too pushy. I told him I can talk at that time, still found a message around 8.30, "are you online now?". Can I possibly do something else other than talk to you? It's a turn off. Then, I have a 31 yo who messaged a few times since yesterday and now says he wants to go for a "late dinner". Hmm....I think I know what 10 yrs difference between us and "late dinner" mean now, I'm getting more experienced at this I have about 4 more, but really not the level I'm looking for. Plus, with OKCupid, based on the experience with the Chipotle cashier who said I know you, served you countless times blah blah, I'll get recognized by my students sooner or later. They are not on match, but I think chances are more of them are here. I'll have to close OKCupid in about 2 days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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