Gulf-Delta Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Sweet advice pal... Just "make a decision", without taking any outside advice or criticism first... I'm sure that line of thinking will work wonders for you in the future. I can assure you that my 'LISTENING' skills weren't an issue in our relationship. Even if that was the case, there were plenty of other factors at play... including the 800 miles of separation. So there really isn't any way I can "meet" her. I would love to know how my actions indicate that I'm "afraid" of this girl. I answered the phone when she called, and SHE promptly hung up. I responded to her email without getting emotional, and SHE didn't respond... but yet I'M the one who's afraid. That makes total sense... You can't know what your ex is thinking, even though, depending on your relationship, may have lived together, been married or whatever. However, Wilson seems to know exactly what she's thinking despite having never seeing met or even seen her. Classic Link to post Share on other sites
listen_to_me_please Posted July 27, 2012 Share Posted July 27, 2012 KNOWING is better than wondering what if. thats not true, it was better NOT speaking with her. Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 so i read through the thread and feel like I missed the ending.....did she ever call/reply or just nothing??? Link to post Share on other sites
Learning2Crawl Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I got back with my ex after 3 years apart. It lasted 6 months. She needed something from me... attention, security, ego boost. I thought it was the real thing because I had changed so much and so I got back in it for all the right reasons. She hadn't really changed, as much as she tried to convince herself she did. She hid it well for those 6 months. Here's the story... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/344784-long-term-relationship-3-yrs-off-reconcile-done Link to post Share on other sites
Joaquin Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 (edited) Hopefully he had the sense to bail. Edited September 8, 2012 by Joaquin Link to post Share on other sites
listen_to_me_please Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 (edited) Listen Bro, the SAME EXACT THING HAPPEN TO ME... EXACTLY THE SAME THING. I was dating an ex for about 1.5 years, loved her, etc etc. Yada yada yada. Come to find out my ex of a whore girlfriend was cheating on me and using me as a safety net the WHOLE TIME in the end just like with you. What was happening was, she knew I loved her and will always be there, at the same time she wanted to go fawk and suck someone else but wasn't sure it was going to work out... EXACTLY the same thing that happen to you. I was devastated, I mean devastated upon learning the truth. I thought about this girl EVERY single day, day and night for almost 2 years and then I would only think about her early in the morning or late in the night. Fast forward 3 years, she contacts me on facebook with sort of like the same DUMB LINE your EX told you. Bascially I ignored it for about 2 months but I had unresolved feelings in that particular relationship so eventually we ended up talking which in hindsight was so stupid. What I learn is that, my EX like yours wanted something from me, up till this day I am still not certain what is is, I believe she just wanted me in her life as an option just incase. I think thats what your EX wants with you, the OPTION of knowning that you two are on speaking grounds so if time/fate permits it, you two can be together again. As a friend told me "She wanted to try again but wants to know if you will still hold what she did against her" Whores like that, you stay away from them, you can't trust them, you can't believe them, even if you two did get back together, she would probably be banging the mail man. What I am trying to tell you is this: By you even asking people what to do you WANT to talk to her. Go ahead, talk to her, just know, she is a WHORE, treat her as such. Don't be nice, treat her as an FRIEND whom betrayed you and hurt you. If I could do it again I would of NEVER even gave my whore of an ex the notion in her head that I would EVER have anything to do with her again in this LIFE. Then again I sort of got the closure I was waiting for and I was able to see my ex for who she really was. Just a chick who had no morals. The least she could of did was say "Hey, I'm fawking someone else like a real women" and I would of said "Can I have your friend then?" but no, she wanted to lie and conceal it, blame shift and not come clean, I had to find out from her best friend who in hindsight was trying to have sex with me (I didn't realize, she was pretty as well). My advice, leave it alone. DO NOT RESPOND. The only sasitifcation I got during our brief reconnection is that the fact that I got to curse her out. If I could of do it again, I would of spit in her face the moment I learned the truth. Edited September 11, 2012 by listen_to_me_please 5 Link to post Share on other sites
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 listen_to_me_please, great post dude!!! Kinda going through the same thing now, but my ex is not keeping secrets. She opened up accounts on 2 dating sites the day she left me looking for "casual dating, nothing serious". "You can't turn a whore into a housewife"!!! I miss her and I'm weak, I need to hear the truth as you have given it. Hopefully it never happens but if she contacts me I WILL think of your words and hopefully have the strength to not respond. Again thank you!! Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 Lol what the hell took her so long to contact? You're basically strangers now. I can't stand it how if us dumpees did this we would be called desperate, crazy, psycho and some even threatened legally. Why is it always ok for a slutty dumper too? Double standards. Link to post Share on other sites
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