Soop Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 This might be a strange thing to say, but, i think i might be scared of females.. it sounds so lame and pathetic i know but it i really am... and its probably needless to say but that doesn't go down well when making new female friends. I just don't know what to do, for many years i have said to myself that i don't need to feel love in order to be happy, but truth is i'm just scared.. of being around females and i'm scared of the person i may become. What i generally asking here is if 'soul searching' is what i need to be doing or not? i mean even if i understand who i am (and i do have hobbies, i don't even completely hate myself.. maybe not completely like but i am content) that wouldn't change the female problem i have, i was thinking to try talking to females in chat rooms just to understand the ways they communitcate but i dunno. God this is pathetic on so many levels, it isn't something i should even be concerning myself over.. and yes, i'm male,, Link to post Share on other sites
StartingAgain Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 i'm scared of the person i may become Do you think you're going to turn int a rapist or something? How old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soop Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 Originally posted by StartingAgain i'm scared of the person i may become Do you think you're going to turn int a rapist or something? How old are you? Firstly i am 18, and secondly no.. that is not why i meant, what i meant was i have suffered from depression in the past and ever since then i have been a cold person, falling in love means you have to open up to her at 1 point or another (hence the reason i stated 'soul searching' in my original post). Link to post Share on other sites
Wireframe Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 I know what you're talking about, man. And it's not pathetic, either. For a long time, I was thinking about how I didn't need a woman to be happy. But then, in my case, there's a slight hole in my heart yearning for it all the time. But you have to work on it one step at a time. Start out by just saying hello to random people. Once you are comfortable talking to random people, you'll build up more confidence. And chat rooms could be helpful, but view them as a tool instead of the answer. When you're face to face with a woman in real life, you won't have a chance to look at and delete what you've said. All of us want a woman in our lives. It is a concern for us. I'm proud to say I'd love a good woman on my arm. And if you're debating it with yourself, then chances are you'd like one too, yes? Link to post Share on other sites
SnowWhite Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 I went through a stage when I was nervous talking to guys too. And the solution I went to work at an electronic store where there was about 300 male workers and about 15 female. Talk about shock therapy. At first I only talked to my older managers but soon I was joking around and hanging out with the guys my own age. Maybe you should consider getting a part-time job at a retail store, its filled with teenage girls and trust me they are so bored and annoyed from working they'll gossip and flirt with anyone that breathes. Link to post Share on other sites
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