I'm madly in love with someone who left me behind (Please Help me!!!)

[ilovececi]

Hey,

I haven't had contact with my ex-girlfriend for about four months now. I've dated other girls and there are a lot of really sweet, gorgeous girls that like me. I really miss my ex though. We were so perfect together. I've never had anyone in my life understand me as well as she did. This really sucks. See, the reason we broke up is because she said she didn't feel the same about me as I did her. A lot of things I did when we were together, though, we were wrong. I didn't really see that until now. I liked her a lot while we were together, even though I said I loved her. I didn't though. I thought I did, but I didn't know what love was until now. I have never been in love until now. And now it's too late.

I want to be with her sooo bad. You only live once and we were so great together. I don't want to hurass her, but I desperately want to talk to her. Even if it's just being friends. You know. Friends are more important anyway. At my age atleast. Boyfriends and girlfriends come and go, but friends are for life. She won't even talk to me though. Her parents keep lying everytime I call. Her mom will say she's out with her dad, and I'll call her dad's cell and he'll say that she's at home with her mom. The worst thing is, she lives in D.C. and I moved down to TN about six months ago. I go up there to visit on every holiday though. And I'm planning on getting my own appartment there in about a year.

I love her to death. I really do. She won't talk to me. She won't answer my emails (I've only sent two), and I just want to be her friend. What should I do? I sent her a letter saying that friends are more important than our relationship and she still won't talk to me. She also has a boyfriend now. It sucks. I feel bad for the things I did, but all I can do is say I'm sorry. I've changed and I'm not like that anymore. Someone please help me. Is there anyway I can get my best friend back? She's more important to me than anyone in the whole world!!!

Thank you so much

Derek

[StartingAgain]

You're going to have to give her time. Don't try to contact her for several months at least. She said she didn't feel the same way as you felt about her. But now she won't even speak to you. Don't you see that she was probably lying? I'd bet money she has another boyfriend. Otherwise, it makes no sense for her to refuse to talk to you.

 

Also, ask yourself if you really love her so madly and miss *her* so badly ro is it that you miss having a girlfriend. You were somewhat ambivalent about whether you loved her when you were together, but now that she's you are madly in love love. That doesn't make too much sense. So I think you need to carefully examine what you are really feeling.

[ilovececi]

Well, that's the thing. I was kind of a jerk when I was with her. Now I see what a jerk I was. And it's not like I wanted to date anyone else. I waited a long time. I just started dating to get over her. And it's made me feel a lot better, it's allowed me to realize that there are other girls out there that like me, but it's also shown me a lot of different people. I haven't met anyone who has understood me as closely as she did. I mean <BAM> right off bat we could relate to eachother completely and we helped eachother so much! I do love her, and if being without her makes her happy, then I'd rather do that. But you must not have read my whole post, because I wrote that she already has a boyfriend! And our friendship is my top priority right now, not a relationship.