grace1962 Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Mr Spock you've given me some wonderful advice over the last day or so and I realize I am WAY TOO NEW to offer anything that matters.. but one of the things I've thought of today as I've wallered in my pity and anger.. is should my MM's wife know? I know my circumstances are a tad different as far as she may have to end up finding out. I think though... and maybe I'm wrong.. but if you take away my monitary/business circumstances.. mine would be a "regular" affair if there is such a thing.. But to be honest your MM sounds like he's p**ped on you way too many times and maybe your need to tell is becuase that is the one way you know you can hurt him? Business aside, I know tellling would destroy my MM's family and as much as I want him to feel this pain.. as much as I wish yours could feel your pain.. I think destroying others isnt the answer. I think on the whole people are not stupid though we do stupid things.. and these wives and husbands... arent all ignorant. My MM had some breif affairs during his 26 years of marriage ... and then spent 4 yers w/ me.. his wife isnt dumb. She has her reasons for staying.. Maybe she loves him. Maybe she loves the money he makes. Hell, now that they are putting thier youngest in college.. she may walk out him next month, god knows she'd be justified. But she has her reasons for being there and I dont feel its my place or anyone elses to burst her bubble. That might feel like the only way to hurt him and it will if only monitary but in the end.. they (the fmaily) are the ones who are all hurt.. and he's just angry.. which means.. he'll be more of a A**Hole to you and from what little I know of you.. YOU dont deserve that. I'll shut up now Link to post Share on other sites
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