pink_is_cool_15 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 There is no way she will 4 get bout u that is the best idea that you have came up with im sure it might work. You must really like this girl. and giving her time and not contacting her shows that you care Cause she says that whats she wants time away. but most people when they say that no that you will call or whatever no matter what and peopl make the mistake of doing that. And once she realises oh no he hasnt actually called she will realise whats going on. do not give in and contact her at all oks... Link to post Share on other sites
jw32802 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 I know, and i told him i was done, i changed my number. 5 days after that i got an email from him but i deleted it and didnt even read it. I want it to be like i vanished into thin air. i want him to wonder where the heck i am, i think i always gave in to him before. i just feel like hes forgetting all about me, how can someone date someone so fast Link to post Share on other sites
jst4u Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 Girl I give you props. If he wants you he will hunt you down and come knocking on your door. Don't let him mess with you. Head games aren't cool. If he really wants you he will find you. Changing your number was good shows you are not willing to play the game with him. Link to post Share on other sites
jw32802 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 I feel the same way, that if he wants me he will bang down my door. But i think maybe hes happy w/ her. Its been 2 or 3 mths that he's been with her so far so maybe it is serious Link to post Share on other sites
jw32802 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 also i wonder how long it takes for you to really get to know a person.......i mean, do you think he knows her WELL ENOUGH at 2 or 3 mths to know he wants to marry her? because im sitting here thinking "i know im the best girl and he will realize it soon" lol dont we all think that, and all i want is for the day to come when hes like "crap i dont want this new girl" loll.....thats just my fantasy Link to post Share on other sites
jst4u Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 No 2 or 3 months is not enough, I was with my boy 2 yrs and things started poping up that I did not like about him and his attitude. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders if he doesn't come around and come back to you forget him. Your to good for him anyway you can have plenty better. And let that be known. Start going out to and let him see you with other people see how he likes it. Two can play the hard to get game And yes you can wish Link to post Share on other sites
Author Immortal Posted July 10, 2004 Author Share Posted July 10, 2004 Thanks for all the replies and stories.... I can tell everyone this much...I love the girl. I have dated plenty of people in the past, and no other girl in my life would have been worth this. However, yesterday night I did have an epiphany...I realized that life will continue with or without her and if somehow our destiny is that we are not meant to be together, then eventually she will be a pleasant memory in my life. But I can't let myself get physically sick over this, which I have been this past week. Tonight, I went out with an old buddy of mine and we saw Spiderman 2. I hardly even though about my ex, even though we had kissed twice earlier today. And tomorrow I am hanging out with a girl friend I haven't seen in a while. I feel as if the next 3 weeks will be very interesting for the both of us. I am initiating little-to-no contact for the next few weeks. Today I gave her everything of hers that I had, so now we have no obligations. At the end of the month, barring her getting a boyfriend or TOTALLY making it obvious that she's moved on, I will serenade her with candles and 20 long stemmed roses. I know it sounds sappy and romantic and corny and sick, and that someone who reads this may think that I'm some emotional, sentimental hack, but that's not the case. This girl is worth it. And I'm willing to put myself out on a limb just to show her much I care for her. But I feel okay now. And I think I won't be too hurt if we decide to move on with our lives. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_is_cool_15 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 I dont think your sick or anything, its really good what your doing for her.. And im going through the exactly same thing as your going through cept it was me who mistakenly did the dumping and now im trying to get him back.. And i have recently realised some things like you have but im still going to try and show him i care.. Good luck with everything.. Link to post Share on other sites
HurtsSoBad Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 I wish I found this thread last night. I really needed this advice. I have been married for almost 9 years. We would do everything together. Now we have been separated for 3 weeks. I am staying at my parents while she is living in our house. Last night, I had already felt that this is what she was wanting, she told me that she is thinking that she wants a divorce. It was like a month ago, she was saying how we would be together forever. She could not find anyone that is as good as me if something were to happen. And now she is talking divorce. I know there are things I need to change with myself, and I am just now trying to change, trying to make myself a better person. But she has things in her past that I am not convinced that she has dealt with yet. I really love her and I want to be with her, but she is saying that she is not romantically attricated to me and she is not sure if she is "In Love" with me. I have had a hard time with the separation, and I have been upset in front of her after she said she wanted to be separated. And that for sure has not helped the situation out. Since she has said that she has not felt completly separated due to my emotions and this is one of the reasons she says she is thinking she wants a divorce. This past week though, I have been changing my way of dealing with the situation (ie not getting emotional while talking to her on the phone) and just trying to talk about other things. Like I started a new business a while back and she was going to be helping me in a big way. She is one of the key factors in this business (ie no money to actually pay someone to help me with the work). BTW, she says that she still wants to help me with the business even after the divorce, if that is what will happen. I want her back and I am willing to do whatever it takes. Even if it means being away from her for 6 months like yourself. Today I am heading back down there to pick up my bicycle and to see my other cats and dogs. This is the first time back there in two weeks. I feel that I need to keep my head on straight and not get emotional in front of her. Well, I need to get myself ready and out of here. I really appreciate your insight jst4u Link to post Share on other sites
jw32802 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 Pink is cool What is your story? you dumped him and then regretted it? Link to post Share on other sites
pink_is_cool_15 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 Well i was with my ex for a year and everything was great we have never actually had a fight or anything and yeh everything was great.. but in the last few weeks of our realtionship things just got a lil weird we just got annoyed with each other all the time and then one night because it was really getting to me and hurting me and i was angry i told him it was over but i didnt really meant it and now im a total d**k for doing it and its been a month and half since we have broken up and i still really want him back and i know he still has feelings for me but i just dont think he will ever take me back after breaking his heart. Link to post Share on other sites
jw32802 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 When did you start realizing you wanted him back? after a month? And have you dated others? Link to post Share on other sites
pink_is_cool_15 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 No i realised the next day and i havent dated anyone else Link to post Share on other sites
Author Immortal Posted July 29, 2004 Author Share Posted July 29, 2004 Hey guys, I just wanted to give an update on my situation, as it's been close to a month now and my plans to serenade her are rapidly approaching... This past month she and I have both had a chance to hook up and see other people. From my point of view, it hasn't been that great, and I haven't enjoyed being with other people as much as I thought I would. However, I've found a few new hobbies and passions, and have been lifting weights and exercising regularly so I feel great. We talked for the first time in a while on the phone last Sunday. I was inviting her to a beach BBQ I'm having this Sunday, where I'm going to serenade her in front of all my friends and anyone who chooses to watch. On the phone, she told me that "she misses talking to me," and that she hopes we can hang out in the near future. I was trying to play it cool, and told her that "i've moved on totally," and she was a little hurt to hear that. She will be coming to my beach BBQ on Sunday. My friend is going to pick her up, and when they arrive, I'm going to sing to her... I think my chances are good, but I am definitely very nervous about the whole thing... Link to post Share on other sites
Kate Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 dude, that's awesome! go for it. who cares? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Immortal Posted July 31, 2004 Author Share Posted July 31, 2004 A day and a half...and it will be Sunday morning. And I will be at the beach, in front of my friends and hundreds of strangers, and I'm going to put myself out there like I never have before when I serenade my ex-girlfriend. Personally, I think it's going to work. I have written a note which I'm going to give to her when I'm singing....and the ending gives me chills: "I have looked deep within myself, and I hope you realize what I have: we have always brought out the best in one another, and there is no reason to believe that this has changed. There is no reason to believe that this will ever change. You are my soulmate. "Britney Spears," I have loved you from the very beginning. Will you go out with me?" It doesn't really say Britney Spears, for those who were confused Anyway, pray for me. I am sooo nervous. Thanks so much for all your advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Tuche' Posted July 31, 2004 Share Posted July 31, 2004 Oh, out on the town? NOW its ok... great. Thanks. Its going, gone and done. Something tells me that I need to grow up first. Then if its meant to be then it will be. Your love has enabled me to see the light at sunset. I have things to do but hey I love you!!! Really I do. Actions speak louder than words Link to post Share on other sites
Sparky Posted August 3, 2004 Share Posted August 3, 2004 Yeah, good luck! Don't you think that she'll get angry for lying to her by saying "you've totally moved on"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Immortal Posted August 4, 2004 Author Share Posted August 4, 2004 She found out about my plans the night before the serenade...and she called me and angrily confronted me about it. She told me that she can't be in a relationship right now, and that she's "casually dating" two other guys, and has even hooked up with one. Yet with my wonderful powers of persuasion, I convinced her to get back with me, and she did, and then she changed her mind 12 hours later. So now, I'm forcing myself to move on. I sat around all throughout July and waited, and now I'm moving on. If we're meant to be, then it will happen. For anyone that is experience this type of pain like moving on from a relationship, download a song called "I'm movin on" by a group called the Rascal Flatts. It helped me a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Sparky Posted August 4, 2004 Share Posted August 4, 2004 Well, I'm sorry that it didn't work out and it's good that you're moving on, but you should have seen this coming. Correct me if I'm wrong, but from what you've said, she's made it painfully clear that she didn't want to be in a relationship and you just refused to accept it. I know it's tough to accept this stuff, but it happens. Even though she kissed you goodbye one time, you should NEVER EVER get your hopes up. You're just setting yourself up for more pain. I've been through that for a long time. Secondly, what kind of a person changes their mind after saying "yes" 12 hours later? Anybody deserves a hell of a lot better than that! If she's the person you thought she was, then she wouldn't have been angry to find out about your plans, but flattered. Clearly, this girl is a waste of time. It's good to be her friend though. If she comes crawling back to you, tell her to forget it! She had her chances. Again, I'm sorry to hear this. Better luck with another girl! Link to post Share on other sites
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