curlygirl40 Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 Send him a light hearted email suggesting that the two of you go on a break while he's on vacation, that way you're both free to seek companionship elsewhere until he returns. Or send him one saying, I haven't heard from my boyfriend in 3 days, and I'm wondering if it's okay to go to dinner with the guy that asked me out today. I guarantee you a response within three hours. Don't do this! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sally_00 Posted July 19, 2012 Author Share Posted July 19, 2012 Thanks to everyone for their input. Here's a status update: A mutual friend and coworker of my bf's tried contacting him today because tomorrow they're gonna present the results of a project they had been working on, and she was wondering if my bf could log into Skype and sort of "attend" the meeting this way. She has Nextel radio, so she tried reaching him this way, but his cellphone was unavailable. She then tried for my bf's brother's cellphone, and it worked. She talked to my bf briefly, he said they didn't have Internet access, that it should be resolved today or tomorrow at the latest. He didn't say anything like "Tell my gf..." nor did my friend thought of asking him how long he had been without Internet access. I'm now thinking he skipped contacting me on Sunday due to being busy and doing touristic stuff, then probably logged into IM on Monday to talk to me, then had to leave and thought "I'll try again tonight", and by the time he got back there was no Internet anymore. A couple of friends have told me that the fact that a friend saw him online on Facebook could be a bug, because they know for a fact that Facebook sometimes has bugs like this, and one of them has have numerous experiences where people would tell her "You were online and didn't respond!" and she knows she wasn't online at that time. I'm thinking this is very possible, but I'm not 100% in peace nor will I be until I finally hear from him. A lot of coulds come to mind, such as "He could've looked for a way of contacting you regardless" or "He could've send you some message with your friend when they talked", but I'm willing to attribute it to "natural male carelessness" if that seems at all reasonable? Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 , but I'm willing to attribute it to "natural male carelessness" if that seems at all reasonable? Well if he's having fun out there and really busy, you could attribute it to that. One week is too long without an arrangement first. You will see if he is telling the truth about his internet by how he talks when he gets back. Theres tons of pay phones or land line, he couldnt use one of those? If he needed a vacation from you, that could explain why he isnt pressed to contact you. But that goes back to what I said before, you shouldnt need to hear from him so badly, you should have your own life, where you dont need to wait from a call from him. You known each other 2 years, you can go a few days without hearing the mushy stuff, especially when you'll hear it again soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted July 22, 2012 Share Posted July 22, 2012 Any news? Link to post Share on other sites
Phennyphen Posted July 27, 2012 Share Posted July 27, 2012 Curious as to what happened with this? Did you hear from him? Similar situation hppened to me with my ex years ago, he was just having too good a time to think about me. Not ideal but least he wasnt cheating or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted July 27, 2012 Share Posted July 27, 2012 Not ideal but least he wasnt cheating or something. How do you know for sure? Because he said so? Link to post Share on other sites
venusianx13 Posted July 27, 2012 Share Posted July 27, 2012 I feel so sorry for you, I know how upsetting this must have been. I'm wondering if there was any resolution? Hope you'll post an update... This sort of thing is piercing to the heart for me because my ex did this on several occasions. Most notably, when he took an internship in China, he didn't contact me for several days and kept missing our Skype dates. I was heartbroken. He was to be there for 3 months and seemed to have little interest in keeping lines of communication open with me. However, the major difference here is that I had CAUSE to believe my ex would cheat (several warning signs, and concrete proof that, even). And this no-communication thing had become a habit. There were no circumstances such as "no internet access" or anything, because I'd log online and he'd be on facebook chatting. Well, long story short, he did cheat. He then begged me back after a month of NC. I think your boyfriend, however, has more of a solid story than my ex did, although it is kind of cruel (IMO) to leave you hanging like that. I hope that he has reached out to you by now. I'm really sorry you're going through this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phennyphen Posted July 27, 2012 Share Posted July 27, 2012 How do you know for sure? Because he said so? I never knew for sure but we were 18 and he was away with his parents, its hardly relevant now anyway, he's been an ex for a very long time. I mean, who knows, he may of cheated but the person he was at the time, I doubt it. Link to post Share on other sites
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