Ririnn Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 First thing is I don't want to let myself hurt anyone in any way. Cuz I've been hurt and it feels awful so I don't want to be the reason why someone else gets upset. So awhile back I was on another forum asking advice from people who have depression or related mental conditions. Because I was online chatting with a guy which I had met for a couple of times he told me he doesn't want to date but still he was sending mixed signals after 6 months told me he will date me then changed his mind again.. and esp when I met him I found myself very attracted to him. I don't know but before meeting him I liked his character and when meeeting him I felt a very strong attraction toward him. So he mentioned something about may having depression and I was asking for advice on that forum. Anyway I still don't know how he feels about me but after about a year he acts like a little child and I kind of have less feeling for him and hurt me alot. But sometime ago i really liked him. Anyway on that forum somebody tried to talk to me and first we talked about my problem with the other guy and then little by little he got closer from the first i told him i don't want to hurt him because we live in different countries its not wise to get close. But i somehow did.. which I feel very guilty about. I told him again and tried to distant myself from him and explained everything and how bad this idea was from the start, he told me he got hurt and cried and ... I don't know what to do with him. Not to mention he has a big depression problem and besides he lives so far away. I didn't mind just chatting with him but he says he loves me and i dont want that. I told him I don't want to hurt him esp like the other guy kept me hanging. Yesterday we had an argument about some moral stuff and I told him I dont want to talk somebody like that, and but that way I could let him go too but (this whole thing with the new guy took about 1 and half months.) Am I exactly like the first guy maybe he doesn't like me and just doesn't mind chatting with me? But he did told me he wanted to date at some point.. Am I a bad person? Why don't I feel anything for the new guy? Link to post Share on other sites
The Tallest One Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 I assume you have never met this new guy since you live in different countries. If someone told me they loved me and had never met me in person, that's just creepy to me and a BIG red flag. I would cease all contact immediately and not worry about hurting his or her feelings. You can't fall in love with someone you have never met. It's all in there head and people like this can be dangerous! In the future, if your chatting with someone online and you know there's no possibility of an in person relationship, or if they just don't do it for you, then when they won't leave you alone after you have said your not interested, just stop contact. It's not rude, your just protecting yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ririnn Posted July 18, 2012 Author Share Posted July 18, 2012 I assume you have never met this new guy since you live in different countries. If someone told me they loved me and had never met me in person, that's just creepy to me and a BIG red flag. I would cease all contact immediately and not worry about hurting his or her feelings. You can't fall in love with someone you have never met. It's all in there head and people like this can be dangerous! In the future, if your chatting with someone online and you know there's no possibility of an in person relationship, or if they just don't do it for you, then when they won't leave you alone after you have said your not interested, just stop contact. It's not rude, your just protecting yourself. Thanks for replying. No we just saw eachother's pics. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ririnn Posted July 20, 2012 Author Share Posted July 20, 2012 Given your issues, be happy guys are making an effort to get to know you. If you were a man, women wont even touch you with a 10ft pole. Men are easy stop complaining. Men are easy?... you must be joking. I literally wasted around a year on this guy, getting to know him, trying to help him, and NOTHING, he said yes no yes no and now HE is mad at me. Because I couldn't handle being just friend with him, although he knows I like him much more than that. I was direct with him from the start. Now obviously I'm no good for him. After all i'm no b***** to him, and he wants one. Link to post Share on other sites
WordvAction Posted July 22, 2012 Share Posted July 22, 2012 You're not a bad person, you're just not interested; it happens all the time. Just do this guy a favor and stop talking to him so he can get over you Link to post Share on other sites
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