twilkerson59 Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 (edited) My girlfriend has been away for 2 weeks, and doesnt get back for another month, and I kissed another girl yesterday. This girl is a friend of mine that i've known for a few years, hadn't really hung out with her outside of school until last week. We're 17. Well, we were kinda cuddling and watching TV and I could tell she was giving me oppurtunities to kiss her, so eventually I went in and we were instantly making out furiously for a good 5 minutes. We stopped, laughed, and then didnt say a word about it for a whole day, and we've been talking like we did before, just as friends. I truly thought I loved my girlfriend, we've been together for almost 2 years, and I don't really feel any different about her. But I'd wanted to kiss this girl since the 6th grade, and it was really magical. I'm sure this is all an out-of-order jumbled mess, but that's exactly how my 17-year-old brain feels right now. Any offered guidance would be appreciated. Btw, I am very new to this forum. Edited July 20, 2012 by twilkerson59 Didn't post everything I wanted to when I created the thread. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 My girlfriend has been away for 2 weeks, and doesnt get back for another month, and I kissed another girl yesterday. This girl is a friend of mine Not any longer. I truly thought I loved my girlfriend, we've been together for almost 2 years, and I don't really feel any different about her. But I'd wanted to kiss this girl since the 6th grade Which proves that she wasn't "just" a friend the whole time. and it was really magical. And you want us to say what about that? I'm sure this is all an out-of-order jumbled mess, but that's exactly how my 17-year-old brain feels right now. Any offered guidance would be appreciated. Btw, I am very new to this forum. Yes, break up with your girlfriend so she can find a guy that won't screw her over. She deserves better. Then your 17 year old brain can concentrate on kissing all your other female friends. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author twilkerson59 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Share Posted July 20, 2012 I was hoping someone who's been in this same situation would maybe share their experiences, but after looking over other threads I can see that this sub-forum is really just for pointing the finger and cutting people down. I still love my girlfriend. I just like this other girl, I don't have romantic interest in her. My girlfriend has made her share of mistakes, we all do. We're human. I gave in to my desires, and I liked it. I do not regret it. Do I still feel bad? Yes. I am confused. But for you to tell me I am no good for her, and that she does not "deserve" me, is out of line. Do you know me? Or her? Have you seen us together? We all make mistakes, we're all forgiven unfairly, and we all have things we don't deserve. There have been times when my girlfriend didnt "deserve" me according to other people, I thought otherwise. Your opinion is not law or fact. Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 You are a young man that has not experienced much yet. I'm glad it did not go no further your guilt shows me you regret this and feel bad. I would not do this again you made a mistake you will have many of these opportunity's in life remember to respect yourself. Tell this young lady that this can never happen again say you are sorry. I will not beat you up because I believe your curiosity got the best of you. You made a mistake forgive your self their is nothing you can do to change what happened but you learned from it. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 I was hoping someone who's been in this same situation would maybe share their experiences, but after looking over other threads I can see that this sub-forum is really just for pointing the finger and cutting people down. I still love my girlfriend. Sorry, I don't think she will feel very loved from a guy that kissed another female friend that he has wanted to kiss for the longest time. Go ahead, tell her cuddled with her and made out, then let your gf determine whether she thinks thats love or not. And spare us the "oh poor me, I'm getting cut down" crap. You are here to say it was magical. You are going to get the cold hard truth, so if you can't take the heat about the truth of your actions, then it just indicates how you found yourself a cheater in the first place with that attitude. The attitude of you betraying your gf, but you can't take the truth of things. Cheaters can't afford a defensive attitude. I just like this other girl, I don't have romantic interest in her. Then whey did you betray your gf with her? Geez, I'd hate to see what would happen if you did have a romantic interest. But really, you DO have a romantic interest in her if you wanted to make out with her. My girlfriend has made her share of mistakes, we all do. Oh, so she cheated on you then? We're human. Blah blah blah. This phrase is spoken from the people who want to get a pass for disrespecting someone else. I'm human, but you'll never see me cheating on a significant other. I gave in to my desires, and I liked it. I do not regret it. Good, then break up with your girlfriend. But for you to tell me I am no good for her, and that she does not "deserve" me, is out of line. No, its not. Unless she is a cheater herself, then you two would deserve each other. Do you know me? I know enough. You are a cheater. Or her? Have you seen us together? We all make mistakes Please, it wasn't a mistake. You already admitted you wanted to make out with her since way back when, and you knew exactly what you were doing. You already admitted you liked it and don't regret it. Therefore its not a mistake. People regret mistakes. There have been times when my girlfriend didnt "deserve" me according to other people, I thought otherwise. Again, did she cheat on you? If so, then you both deserve each other. Your opinion is not law or fact. Uh, ya, thats why they call it an opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Sebastian76 Posted July 22, 2012 Share Posted July 22, 2012 Dude, chill. Don't do or say anything, you will only get problems. You didn't sleep with her or nothing. Make sure not to do it again as things can escalate quickly and you will end up hurting your gf beyond imagination. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
something237 Posted July 22, 2012 Share Posted July 22, 2012 "this sub-forum is really just for pointing the finger and cutting people down." Yep, that's about right, the poster will get the blame. I would say you should sort out what you want from both of them then tell your girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author twilkerson59 Posted July 23, 2012 Author Share Posted July 23, 2012 I told my girlfriend, she was ok with it because we don't get to spend a lot of time together. She knows I like this other girl, but she also know that I love her and would choose her over my friend in a heartbeat. It'sbeen almost a week since it happened, now and I've had time to think about it, and I'm now at peace with everything. We decided to open up our relationship a bit since we're confident in our feelings for each other, and that if we were to have sex with someone else or just do stuff, we wouldn't be changed emotionally. Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 We decided to open up our relationship a bit since we're confident in our feelings for each other, and that if we were to have sex with someone else or just do stuff, we wouldn't be changed emotionally. Haha. This will explode. But I guess it's ok, the fact that she doesn't mind tells me that she is has someone on the side too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 Good grief! I wish I had the mind of a caveman! Link to post Share on other sites
Standstrong Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 Your young, you made a mistake ...... lesson learnt is don't watch TV on the couch with a 'female friend' when no one else is around and your GF is away. You would have been a bit vunarable from feeling lonely and its not abnormal to have a spark of sexual chemistry with a friend. Glad it all worked out for you It's a good lesson to learn young! Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 I told my girlfriend, she was ok with it There you have it then. Its now on her. She'll have to regret it later when you do it again. Unless she is ok with it continuing to happen, and it will happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Author twilkerson59 Posted July 24, 2012 Author Share Posted July 24, 2012 Good grief! I wish I had the mind of a caveman! What do you mean by that? Link to post Share on other sites
It's Just Me Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Well, we were kinda cuddling and watching TV WTF? Who does this when they're already in a committed relationship? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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