Alban Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 So, This is my situation.. I am in a LDR for 4 years now and we have the happiest time together every time we see each other. 2 months ago she fell out of love, said to me she wants to be free etc. wanted to break up and I made all the mistakes that obviously 95% here do with begging, crying etc. She didn't break up, and because of that, it was in that time while she wasn't here in my country. So she came back 10 days ago we kiss, laugh, great time together and asked her how she feels, responds with I love you and calls me every 2 hours, sends me small I love you my angel texts, talk about our future together, traveling etc. I know she loves me now and I am so happy now for us, but I am so scared that when she goes back she will eventually fell out of love again Can someone talk to me please I would appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 You sound so in love... I know what you mean. Is there any chance you can move to her country? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alban Posted July 20, 2012 Author Share Posted July 20, 2012 Not anytime soon... but I will visit her this december 1-2 days. Switzerland is very expensive you know, and I can truly say she is the one for me Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Only one or two days in six months? If money is an issue, be creative. You can couchsurf and stay some more days. Let her see you are doing your best to make things work. Spend some time with her. She was clearly happy to spend time with you. As long as she's happy, you have nothing to worry about. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ladyabstrused Posted July 22, 2012 Share Posted July 22, 2012 So, This is my situation.. I am in a LDR for 4 years now and we have the happiest time together every time we see each other. 2 months ago she fell out of love, said to me she wants to be free etc. wanted to break up and I made all the mistakes that obviously 95% here do with begging, crying etc. She didn't break up, and because of that, it was in that time while she wasn't here in my country. So she came back 10 days ago we kiss, laugh, great time together and asked her how she feels, responds with I love you and calls me every 2 hours, sends me small I love you my angel texts, talk about our future together, traveling etc. I know she loves me now and I am so happy now for us, but I am so scared that when she goes back she will eventually fell out of love again Can someone talk to me please I would appreciate it. Well, I don't quite understand how someone can fall in and out of love just like that.. how does one do it with true emotions? I honestly can't do that. If I fall out of love....I fall out of love and that's it. If I'm in love, I'd stay in love. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted July 22, 2012 Share Posted July 22, 2012 Well, I don't quite understand how someone can fall in and out of love just like that.. how does one do it with true emotions? I honestly can't do that. If I fall out of love....I fall out of love and that's it. If I'm in love, I'd stay in love. You're not 16... Best, TMichaels 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ladyabstrused Posted July 22, 2012 Share Posted July 22, 2012 You're not 16... Best, TMichaels Oh, right! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alban Posted July 22, 2012 Author Share Posted July 22, 2012 it's not simple she loves me very much and cares about me the problem is the distance is very tiring, do you know how hard it is to keep a 4 years RS and meet just once-per-year ? I don't want this to end, it's just this scary thought of her leaving me and she is my life, and I never cheated on her even though I had many chances I never ever even think'd about it. A part of me says leave her she will hurt you again, the other part says stay and love her don't give up you will never find someone like her. I am going on vacation with my family tomorrow for 4 days, and I really miss her already 4 days is a very long time in the schedule of our RS you know 4-5 weeks per year isn't very long . But I love her with my all, I even love her more than my own family Link to post Share on other sites
ladyabstrused Posted July 22, 2012 Share Posted July 22, 2012 I do know how hard it is to maintain a relationship that long without much physical contact. I was in one myself, close to 5 years and met only once. Many people probably wouldn't call it a relationship but it was at least an online one, if not an LDR. It's not easy, sure. You probably won't find someone like her if you give it up. No one is the same really. You could find someone better, who's in your local area or someone who would actually love you enough not to want to leave you...and thus you wouldn't be in such situations worrying about whether she'd fall out of love with you or not. I worry for you, Alban. I really do. :\ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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