How can I change my emotional response?

[without]

Little things can have a drastic effect on me, little things can make genuinely laugh and feel good and some can make me feel sad and cry?

 

How do I be in control of my emotions more?

 

Also If I like someone everything about them, what they do etc can totally change my emotions.

 

I'm literally like a child. I want to be more in power of what I feel.

Its esp hard if others hurt me.

 

I have tried but it's hard for me to change , any suggestions?

[pie2]

It might help to really get a firm understanding of your emotions' triggers. Keep a journal throughout the day for a week (or month) of the ABCs...Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence.

 

Antecedent: What happened to lead you to a shift in emotion?

Behavior: How did you react? What did you do?

Consequence: What effect did your emotional reaction have on your life.

 

It doesn't have to be complex, but it helps to know these things, as you might start to see patterns. You might see that certain times of the day, week or month, you are more vulnerable to emotional changes, for example.

 

Once you have a clear idea of your typical responses to triggers, you can learn to expect them, and later to control them. If you know that weekends are a more emotional time for you, you can figure out why that is, and work to change the circumstance. Also, you can actually change your thinking and reaction to garner a more appropriate reaction.

 

Check out dialectical behavior therapy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dialectical_behavior_therapy .

 

Also, please consider pursuing a relationship with God. We are all flawed, and can find peace and understanding by knowing Him.

Edited July 21, 2012 by pie2

[without]

It might help to really get a firm understanding of your emotions' triggers. Keep a journal throughout the day for a week (or month) of the ABCs...Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence.

 

Antecedent: What happened to lead you to a shift in emotion?

Behavior: How did you react? What did you do?

Consequence: What effect did your emotional reaction have on your life.

 

It doesn't have to be complex, but it helps to know these things, as you might start to see patterns. You might see that certain times of the day, week or month, you are more vulnerable to emotional changes, for example.

 

Once you have a clear idea of your typical responses to triggers, you can learn to expect them, and later to control them. If you know that weekends are a more emotional time for you, you can figure out why that is, and work to change the circumstance. Also, you can actually change your thinking and reaction to garner a more appropriate reaction.

 

Check out dialectical behavior therapy Dialectical behavior therapy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia .

 

Also, please consider pursuing a relationship with God. We are all flawed, and can find peace and understanding by knowing Him.

 

Thank you. I'll try it.

[Forever Silent]

I would also like to recommend mediatation and breathing exercises. This will help keep your body in balance.

[without]

I would also like to recommend mediatation and breathing exercises. This will help keep your body in balance.

 

thanks......

[Eternal Sunshine]

Little things can have a drastic effect on me, little things can make genuinely laugh and feel good and some can make me feel sad and cry?

 

How do I be in control of my emotions more?

 

Also If I like someone everything about them, what they do etc can totally change my emotions.

 

I'm literally like a child. I want to be more in power of what I feel.

Its esp hard if others hurt me.

 

I have tried but it's hard for me to change , any suggestions?

 

I had this problem..until I realized how passing all emotions are and I don't ACTUALLY have to react or do anything about them.

 

Just let them pass and keep calm. The art is in doing nothing.

[without]

I had this problem..until I realized how passing all emotions are and I don't ACTUALLY have to react or do anything about them.

 

Just let them pass and keep calm. The art is in doing nothing.

 

Yeah But I don't exactly want to be like that..

[zoomzoom]

I read a wonderful book to help mine, someone else on here recommended it to me. Go Suck a Lemon: Strategies for Improving your Emotional Intelligence by Cornwall

[Nikki Sahagin]

Have you tried exercise?

 

I think exercise is a great way of building self-control and focus. You feel calm and 'depleted' afterwards which can strengthen your emotional responses.

 

Even if you just go for a quick run, I find that can really help.

 

If you are a sensitive person it might be useful watching what you eat. I was in denial over this for ages, but some foods really can overstimulate the body and mind, especially if you are quite sensitive generally.