CopingGal Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Reporting all of that stuff might get you in a very sticky situation. I would concentrate on your belongings. I would send that biggest, beefiest guy I know to his house to collect my things. If that doesn't work, I would call the police and tell them what happened. I mean, come on, this is ridiculous. But then, I would get some self-help books on dating a narcissist and learn how to heal and also recognize the signs so you won't date one again. My ex has some narcissistic traits, but his main problem is sociopathic traits. I'm going to learn to recognize the signs in the beginnning so I never date another one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Agree with CopingGal if it's really important I'd consider legal action. Someone else on here also was in a similar situation. I never got some things back- I don't know why as my ex didn't drink girly drinks. I imagine he gave then to whoever he was cheating with. I don't know why it's so important they keep our stuff- it's screams passive aggressive to me. If they're so over us, why can't they give our belongings back?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoJola Posted July 25, 2012 Author Share Posted July 25, 2012 Well that is one thing i will never be able to figure out; why someone who wants nothing to do with you wuold keep your belongings..do you think they get some type of personal satisfaction listening to your requests to get it back? Control over you cuz they the(an ex).I dont know any big men to go get it back but my girlfriend offered to drive me there as my vehicle is really noticable and im afraid if i go there he will just lock the door knowing its me and pretend he is not there..he did that before. i am kind of scared tho...to confront him, what if he gets mad; mayb i should let it go for a couple of weeks...when he thinks i have moved on mayb he will change his mind and give it back? Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 Let's cut through the B.S. Do you secretly want him back and are not admitting it? No-one knows you here, so let's have it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoJola Posted July 25, 2012 Author Share Posted July 25, 2012 Let's cut through the B.S. Do you secretly want him back and are not admitting it? No-one knows you here, so let's have it. Well of course I want him back; i spent 3 years with this man. I loved him; done many things for him..offered him everything i had. But the question lies in ..would i take him back or could i take him back? this is not about what i want or i would not be here seeking advice and healing from strangers..but i do want my stuff back...and i deserve it..ive done nothing wrong..didnt lie, cheat, etc...walk away without and explanation..so cutting through the BS ............of course i do, but could i, probably not Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 Well of course I want him back; i spent 3 years with this man. I loved him; done many things for him..offered him everything i had. But the question lies in ..would i take him back or could i take him back? this is not about what i want or i would not be here seeking advice and healing from strangers..but i do want my stuff back...and i deserve it..ive done nothing wrong..didnt lie, cheat, etc...walk away without and explanation..so cutting through the BS ............of course i do, but could i, probably not This screams of going back for more problems to me. Now I'm gonna' be pretty harsh, but maybe you need to hear it. If you go back to him, for WHATEVER reason, when you get some similar behavior in the future, you deserve it and shut up about it. I'm completely serious too. Don't complain in an online forum or to friends and family. You knew it and deserve it. If it occurs (likely) I hope you have the strength and common sense to leave and improve, but just don't b!tch about it. Now, what to do. If you want your items back you need to build a case of what is going on. Phone records of unanswered calls & texts. Then send a certified letter (easy to do from the Post Office) stating you have tried multiple times to contact him through other channels and am sending this to demand the following items that are your property. Include contact information and willingness to arrange a time to get them. You just write the letter at home, put it in an envelope, go to the Post Office-ASK FOR SIGNATURE CONFIRMATION! and send it. Probably less than $4.00. Save all receipts with the letter and any other paperwork. You can even confirm online when it was signed for. What you're doing is building a slam dunk case to get what's yours. It is NOT that much trouble and another party has made you do it. So just do it. P.S. If they refuse the letter, I have another plan. Link to post Share on other sites
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