Favortism

[pink_sugar]

Starting a new thread because of new favortism between different relatives. So the brother and sister in law are visiting and we're giving them space. The past 2 times they have visited, we have expected and respected they are more comfortable staying overnight at the grandparents house since not only do they live in a house versus a small apartment, but they are also getting up there in age. We had a big fight after they left last time, but it has blown over and my H and I are shrugging off the small things to maintain a good relationship with them. Now the issue isn't them, but the continuation of favortism. His grandmother never talks about the brother and sister in law to us, but she seems to talk about us to them. Like today she told them "good luck" when we said we'd be there at 10, my H called to tell them we'd be running late. The thing is, his grandmother will get very anxious and frustrated if anyone is not there right on-the-dot at said time, literally. His brother mentioned something like they were starting to leave because they didn't want to hear the grandmother "talk crap" when she returned if we weren't there. We also never expect to be there for dinner, because the grandmother gets all worried and upset there won't be enough food for six people, even if she is not cooking. It bothers us, because we are never invited over for dinner. Sometimes, I cannot help wondering if we'd be treated better if we lived out of state like they do.