Low Self Esteem help... cant do it anymore

[Emily55555]

I have the lowest self-esteem and so does my older sister. Im really shy, and dont know how to get what i want because im too afraid to speak up. Okay heres some examples. I cant look in the mirror and find one thing i like about myself. Im not ugly

and im not georgeously pretty.. im prety sometimes tho. but i cant find a feature that i think is pretty. I could find a problem with any part of my body.

 

Ok heres another example, i went to a movie with this guy who really liked me. amd i liked him alot too. He said he wanted to kiss me but he was too shy. I wanted tooo sooo bad but i kept getting nervous and getting knots in my stomach and i just couldnt do it. I went to 3 more movies and still couldnt and it sucked then we didnt really see eachother much after.

 

Ok and another example, at work i wanted more hours, but i was way too afraid that my boss would say no to ask her. Im scared to all people, meet new people.

and i cant say no to people.

 

and when i cant say no to ppl i mean this guy liked me and he kissed me at my house and i didnt push him away. I was too afraid to say no. i have no idea why. i didnt want to make him feel bad or stupid..

 

ok and when im going out of the house... im always late, becuz im putting on makeup or doing my hair, im too afraid poeple will judge me and think i look bad.

 

I really need some help i dont know if sanyone here could really help me but i just dont know what to do... im afraid to talk to people.. and stand up for myself. If i wanted to have sex with my bf, i wud avoid it becuz i wudnt want him to see me without my clothes and think im gross or sumthing.. ..i dont have a bf now tho that was just an example... sooo sum1 pleeeaase help me sry that this was long.

[jw32802]

Sweetie, i feel for you. I used to haev pretty low self esteem years ago, it all came from not knowing myself. I kind of went along w/ what everyone said about everything, whether it be views on life, politics, day to day things; over the last 4 years, i have become my own person and i am very very confident now. It all comes from knowing yourself. have you ever seen someone and you really like them because you know them and because they are confident, but if you saw them again for the first time you might think "they arent so attractive" but theres something about them you like? thats what self esteem does, it brings out the best in you, so looks dont matter really. I suggest you WORKING OUT to feel better. I purchased "The firm" workout and it comes with a fanny lifted and videos and this has transformed me completely, me and my boyfriend broke up and this makes me feel better, people compliment me and because of that i feel bettter!! maybe get a makeover, to make yourself feel better! get a new hairdo, workout, etc. it can do wonders! most of all, get to know YOU. you've got to get to know yourself and stick by your beliefs. my ex told me that this is the one unique quality about me, i didnt just go along w/ the crowd, i stuck up for what i believed in. also, laugh at yourself, be able to laugh, donttake everything to heart. i learned to stop being so defensive and i really dont take offense to anything, and because of that, people like being around me! where do you live?

[Naive]

You have to feel good about yourself. If you don't see yourself pretty it's real hard for someone else to do so. Love yourself, everyone is special and beautiful. Why exactly do you think makes you have a low self esteem?