Falling for girl in 1 mth old relationship

[newborn25]

Hi people,

 

Never thought it will happen to me as I am usually very careful with regards to relationship. I got to meet this new girl over the past 2 weeks or so and started chatting and talking to her. She is a foreigner so she's new to the country. I actually ask her out on one of the weekend to do some hiking and also for a dinner/ supper date. Found out during the day that she had recently got attached to a local guy around 1 mth ago and they are going on a holiday in 2 mths time. She didn't tell me anything about the new bf in our previous conversations and I couldn't read any clues that were pointing to that. In fact, during our outing, I don't see her acting as if she is in a relationship (like talking about bf). It is as if the bf did not bother to show her around or bring her around on activities that couple will do during their honeymoon period.

 

I know many may not agree with me but I feel like pursuing my relationship with her further. I feel that we have great chemistry and comparing to her new 1 mth old bf, I win hands down on all aspects. The biggest issue is that we met at the wrong time. If I met her one mth earlier, I believe I will be the one with her instead.

 

Should I continue asking her out ? I know that a 1 mth old relationship is not that strong but they do like each other enough to go on a holiday together. I don't even think they dated for long prior to that, maybe only 1 -2 weeks? I really dislike to be The other guy here but something in my heart tells me I shouldn't let this girl go.

 

So I have friends who tell me to go for her and also some who tell me to back out. I want to be the nice guy but I also know nice guys normally finish last.

[woinlove]

Hi people,

 

Never thought it will happen to me as I am usually very careful with regards to relationship. I got to meet this new girl over the past 2 weeks or so and started chatting and talking to her. She is a foreigner so she's new to the country. I actually ask her out on one of the weekend to do some hiking and also for a dinner/ supper date. Found out during the day that she had recently got attached to a local guy around 1 mth ago and they are going on a holiday in 2 mths time. She didn't tell me anything about the new bf in our previous conversations and I couldn't read any clues that were pointing to that. In fact, during our outing, I don't see her acting as if she is in a relationship (like talking about bf). It is as if the bf did not bother to show her around or bring her around on activities that couple will do during their honeymoon period.

 

I know many may not agree with me but I feel like pursuing my relationship with her further. I feel that we have great chemistry and comparing to her new 1 mth old bf, I win hands down on all aspects. The biggest issue is that we met at the wrong time. If I met her one mth earlier, I believe I will be the one with her instead.

 

Should I continue asking her out ? I know that a 1 mth old relationship is not that strong but they do like each other enough to go on a holiday together. I don't even think they dated for long prior to that, maybe only 1 -2 weeks? I really dislike to be The other guy here but something in my heart tells me I shouldn't let this girl go.

 

So I have friends who tell me to go for her and also some who tell me to back out. I want to be the nice guy but I also know nice guys normally finish last.

 

I think you can be a nice guy and still try to pursue things. I'd advocate for honesty and openness. Tell her you are interested in her and would like to spend time with her and would like to know if that is compatible with her other relationship. Have a conversation with her where you learn if she has a commitment to her bf and being with you would involve secrecy and deception. If it would involve her lying to her other bf, then that isn't "nice". Also, if she plans to or is lying to her other bf, chances are she will lie to you too. But there is nothing not nice about learning more about what her situation is.

[whichwayisup]

'I really like you but I don't get involved with a woman unless she's completely available. So, if you and you bf ever break up, give me a call and if I'm still single, we can go out on a date.'

 

That's it. Pure and simple.

[newborn25]

THIS is the kind of girl you want?

Someone who meets a guy and plans a vacation with him within a month of meeting each other?

 

THEN she starts up with you at the same time . . . another stranger?

 

I'm scratching my heading wonder why something is telling you that you shouldn't let her go."

 

Hi thanks everyone for the replies. She was just going out with me for a hike but yes I agree that for some, it may be too short a time to go for a trip together.

 

The reason why I am reluctant to walk away yet as I feel something is amissed, esp when I talk to her about her relationship. I can't pinpoint it exactly. I am still trying to watch out for any red flags.

 

I guessed with all the girls I dated, she come across as one that shares a lot of similar interests with me and has a great personality.

 

I never ever imagine to find myself in this situation before as I had been the victim before ( i really know how it feels like ) but sometimes fate can be quite cruel. Please pardon me.