FrustratedGuy91 Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 I was in a LDR 3 years which ended a month ago. The reasons are not even clear to me, we took sometime with no contact with each other but eventually started talking again she kept a polite coldness between us which eventually lead me to move on, I started getting more busy and busy and we were nearly losing all contact. After a while she told me she didn't like the fact that I was ignoring her so I told her I was really busy and actually seeing someone else (nothing serious). After that she told me the reason for her coldness was because she was dealing with the fact that she started talking to an old ex again (her first love) and she felt really bad and didn't want me to see her that way. Then she told me that she still loved me and now she's been acting like we're back together. She calls me names, like "love" talks to me almost everyday and that kind of stuff. I've been maintaining a neutral response. I'm not sure if she's doing this because she thinks she can lose me, because she's feeling lonely (She's living away from her family for 2 months) or a bit of both. I was really hurt last time, I wouldn't want that again but I also still have feelings for her. I wanted to see what you people think before telling her. Link to post Share on other sites
beemis Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 Go on how she acts, not on what she says. It's really easy to persuade you back into a relationship using words and not actions, especially if she is just doing it for one of those reasons above. If she really wants you back, you'll 110% realize it. If not, or you don't think she is capable of doing so, let that bird fly, man. You'll be better off in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrustratedGuy91 Posted July 23, 2012 Author Share Posted July 23, 2012 Well since we're at long distance we don't have much more than words? Is there anything I can do at least to see how far is she willing to go? (Btw this time she told me she loves me) Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrustratedGuy91 Posted July 23, 2012 Author Share Posted July 23, 2012 So.. nothing? Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 Why hasn't one of you moved in three years? Link to post Share on other sites
Author FrustratedGuy91 Posted July 23, 2012 Author Share Posted July 23, 2012 (edited) She lives in the states, I don't... To clarify, before we broke up I was planning on visiting her by the end of this year through a work and holidays program and she knew it. So, uhm... no advice? Edited July 24, 2012 by FrustratedGuy91 Link to post Share on other sites
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