Xeno Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 Ok first off this is my first post here so hi to everyone, lovely to be here Right heres the thing. I'm 16 in my last year of High School. There's a group of us who hang out at period breaks, free periods etc, with a pretty clean 50/50 split between guys and girls. I've started to make friends with a few of the girls in the group, but the problem is i always seem overshadowed by the guys around me. Admittedly i do know some really funny people. When they can just churn out all these great pieces of situational comedy out of nowhere, it leaves me feeling a bit stupid to say the least. Plus quite a few of these comments are directed at me, leaving me looking like a complete idiot. I can take a joke and everything, but when it happens pretty regularly it really starts to get to me. Of course the girls love all this hilarity and these guys are now getting much more friendly with them that i ever will. The problem is how can I make myself known when I'm surrounded by all these people with perfect comedic timing. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 Plus quite a few of these comments are directed at me, leaving me looking like a complete idiot. Perhaps you should surround yourself with friends that make you feel comfortable, and don't make you the center of all their jokes. Cheers. -Deranged Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 Xeno,they're not laughing with you, they're laughing at you. They're not making it to tease you, they're making it to make them look good. For women. Don't take the job! Respond back and don't allow anyone anywhere to make fun of you. So you'll lose them but then, freinds never do this. Lose them, you'll make other friends worthy of your time and attention. As for girls, they're not stupid. They'll see their game in the end. Yours too. MAy the best person win! Link to post Share on other sites
phi3587 Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 If you're not the type of person that cracks a lot of jokes, then don't try to change yourself. You can't really make yourself funny now, because that's an incremental process--it takes years. It seems like those people are not your friends at all. Get out before it's too late. Don't worry, you'll find more friends. Link to post Share on other sites
connugy Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Go look up some witty retorts!!! When I was your age (8 Yrs ago!) exactly the same thing happened to me... now - all I can say is by sometimes welcomingthe lighter comments, you can return withsomething more damaging... Onne hint - girls love a guy with a sense of humour - that includes having one about yourself and not taking yourself too seriously...ever hear "oh that guys cute but he loves himself!!" - have you??? By making fun of yourself *SOMETIMES* your saying to those guys - "Look, Im not as vulnerable as you (would like to & do) think!!!" Par Example... You get some gay-boy comment - just say somethin like - "I may have gay tendencies but YOUR the faggot, etc etc..." or "No Im not gay, Im sorry to dissapoint you - I know Im your type an all *put on camp voice and say* but I'll let u know if I change my mind" say this in front of a girl, or better - many girls... want any more advice???? WORD! Matthew, UK. Link to post Share on other sites
Tech76 Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Don't stress out, it will get better as you get older. Link to post Share on other sites
dbs Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 im sorry i cant exactly help you with jokes and all but in most cases it just takes a matter of time where you dont take things so seriously and find yourself coming up with jokes easily, its happened to me, if youre friends are only doing this to you when girls are around then ditch them, you dont need em but if you have friends like mine where we just crack jokes at eachother all day just for the fun of it dont take the s*** so seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 The easiest thing is to make self-deprecating jokes, i.e crack jokes at yourself. I don't think these jokes directed at you are intentionally hurtful, but if they are, then by doing this they'll stop (if you easily laugh at yourself, then hurtful people will realize it's pointless trying to tease you). In any event, serious women prefer serious men. Don't try and be someone you're not. Link to post Share on other sites
simplybrill Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 I know its kind of hard making friends in the cult-ish cliques of highschool, but you're gonna have to branch out and hang out with people that dont use you as their dartboard for jokes. Good luck hun! And I agree with Papillon, dont try to be someone you're not...girls dont like that either. Stick up for yourself if it really gets under your skin, say something back to them jokingly that would sting just as much haha. Link to post Share on other sites
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