Eternal Sunshine Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 I'm actually rooting for Hokie to get some. "Go Hokie! Go Hokie! Go Hokie..." There is nothing wrong with that...... He just needs to be more honest with himself and others regarding this situation.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted July 25, 2012 Author Share Posted July 25, 2012 Oh, you've found someone already. Get some buddy. No, there's something about her that makes me rather unattracted to her. Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 There is nothing wrong with that...... He just needs to be more honest with himself and others regarding this situation.... Yes. But maybe he is trying to do that but doesn't recognize it 'cause he hasn't been there before. I know for myself, similar situation, and attracted to her. I'm going in. Can't control it. Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 Stalker. You telling her no I'm not interested didn't register because you kept up the conversations. She is coming to get some of you. Her logic... Maybe if I spend time with him he will like me. You're in danger. Stranger danger. As a woman I am not taking no plane to see no new man. If you want to see me come to my town. I don't care if you don't have the time/money... when you find it make the trip. You brushed her off as a friend and she's still pushing herself on you. Any other woman wouldn't waste her time. You wouldn't even have known I was coming to town. Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 No, there's something about her that makes me rather unattracted to her. Do it anyway. I kid! I'm on your side either way. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 Yes. But maybe he is trying to do that but doesn't recognize it 'cause he hasn't been there before. I know for myself, similar situation, and attracted to her. I'm going in. Can't control it. I definitely believe that's how most men operate. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted July 25, 2012 Author Share Posted July 25, 2012 Stalker. You telling her no I'm not interested didn't register because you kept up the conversations. She is coming to get some of you. Her logic... Maybe if I spend time with him he will like me. You're in danger. Stranger danger. As a woman I am not taking no plane to see no new man. If you want to see me come to my town. I don't care if you don't have the time/money... when you find it make the trip. You brushed her off as a friend and she's still pushing herself on you. Any other woman wouldn't waste her time. You wouldn't even have known I was coming to town. And this most is slightly suggestive to me that she DOES view this trip as only hanging out platonically...first, I didn't brush her off as a friend, I declined dating...and you're right, the guy should definitely make the first trip, if it is to meet the girl to date...she is coming out to the LA beach because she doesn't have a beach where she lives... So the fact that she acts contrary to what you're saying might suggest she doesnt even view it as possible dating...but just a friend going to the beach with a friend... Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 And this most is slightly suggestive to me that she DOES view this trip as only hanging out platonically...first, I didn't brush her off as a friend, I declined dating...and you're right, the guy should definitely make the first trip, if it is to meet the girl to date...she is coming out to the LA beach because she doesn't have a beach where she lives... So the fact that she acts contrary to what you're saying might suggest she doesnt even view it as possible dating...but just a friend going to the beach with a friend... Poor, poor Hokie. So innocent. (Rubbing Hokies head.) Link to post Share on other sites
suckered Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 dude sunshine seems jealous :love: Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted July 25, 2012 Author Share Posted July 25, 2012 Yes. But maybe he is trying to do that but doesn't recognize it 'cause he hasn't been there before. I know for myself, similar situation, and attracted to her. I'm going in. Can't control it. Well, like I said before, there's something that turns me off big time about her. She's Asian...and she's one of the types that always only dated white guys because that's what she is "attracted to" (ironically, she complains about how every guy out there has "yellow fever"... ). Anyway, she's a bit older now and the well has run dry, so to speak, and suddenly, she seems deperate enough to "settle" for an Asian because she can't find anyone else. Perhaps I'm being spiteful and irrational, and I probably am, but I cannot find it in me to see her in a romantic way. She's cool to talk to and would certainly make for a good friend, but I wouldn't do anything sexual with her just out of principle... So besides the distance, that was the number one thing that made me say no to her... Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 Well, like I said before, there's something that turns me off big time about her. She's Asian...and she's one of the types that always only dated white guys because that's what she is "attracted to" (ironically, she complains about how every guy out there has "yellow fever"... ). Anyway, she's a bit older now and the well has run dry, so to speak, and suddenly, she seems deperate enough to "settle" for an Asian because she can't find anyone else. Perhaps I'm being spiteful and irrational, and I probably am, but I cannot find it in me to see her in a romantic way. She's cool to talk to and would certainly make for a good friend, but I wouldn't do anything sexual with her just out of principle... So besides the distance, that was the number one thing that made me say no to her... Understood. Clearer picture now of where you are at. Like I said, I'm on your side either way. No negative thoughts from me either way. And see if she has some frequent flier miles. I'll give you my address. I'm white. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 dude sunshine seems jealous :love: I was just giving Hokie my honest thoughts about the situation 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 So now she's flying out to CA to hang out with me this weekend... So it's not for you its for the ocean. Say what! I have never met anyone that will fly to another state for ocean water. If I am flying for ocean water the caribbean is involved. White sand. Um... have the condoms ready just in case. Next time she wants to plan a trip out to CA say you are busy. I just read your other comments. I'm put off just reading it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted July 25, 2012 Author Share Posted July 25, 2012 Next time she wants to plan a trip out to CA say you are busy. Yea, I'm never busy on the weekends...hence the motivation for me to go out to the beach. I just read your other comments. I'm put off just reading it. I would understand if you were. Empathy can really only be gained through experience. Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 Hokie, I can't PM you so here's some of my experience that may be helpful. I once had a girl that I was not very attracted too visit me (airplane flight many states away) when I lived near the ocean. And I hit it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted July 25, 2012 Author Share Posted July 25, 2012 Hokie, I can't PM you so here's some of my experience that may be helpful. I once had a girl that I was not very attracted too visit me (airplane flight many states away) when I lived near the ocean. And I hit it. Now it appears I have one more reason not to hit it...to prove all of you wrong... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 I would understand if you were. Empathy can really only be gained through experience. I'm referring to the only white men and her "yellow" statements. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted July 25, 2012 Author Share Posted July 25, 2012 I'm referring to the only white men and her "yellow" statements. Oh, I see...I thought you were put off by the fact that I judged her for that... Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 I'm referring to the only white men and her "yellow" statements. Girls like that disgust me and I am not even Asian Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 I honestly didn't think anything of it...was I supposed to tell her to get her own room? Uhhhh, YES. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 More than likely she is not flying all that way just to hang out as friends. She wants more than that and will most likely be aggressive in pursuing what she wants. Whatever you decide to do with her be up front and honest with your intentions. If you do share a room watch your stuff (personal belongings) You barely know her and she could be a thief/klepto. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted July 28, 2012 Author Share Posted July 28, 2012 Whew, she just called and said they overbooked her flight and she was flying free on standby, so she's not coming anymore. I'm sorta kinda glad that I don't have to go to LA now...but I couldn't get a refund on the hotel, and I'd rather just eat the cost of it and stay at home... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted July 28, 2012 Share Posted July 28, 2012 Whew, she just called and said they overbooked her flight and she was flying free on standby, so she's not coming anymore. I'm sorta kinda glad that I don't have to go to LA now...but I couldn't get a refund on the hotel, and I'd rather just eat the cost of it and stay at home... no refund? I thought hotels usually give you 24 hours at the least. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted July 28, 2012 Author Share Posted July 28, 2012 no refund? I thought hotels usually give you 24 hours at the least. It was all prepaid with cash + credit card reward points...the hotel couldn't handle the cancellation because it went through priceline...and I don't feel like going down that rabbit hole... Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted July 28, 2012 Share Posted July 28, 2012 It was all prepaid with cash + credit card reward points...the hotel couldn't handle the cancellation because it went through priceline...and I don't feel like going down that rabbit hole... We had to cancel through Expedia the day before we were set to go to Chicago and it was simple. Link to post Share on other sites
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