NICKSIS Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 I JUST FOUND OUT MY WIFE CHEATED ON ME AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ? ITS NOT THE FIRST TIME AND WE HAVE A SON TOGETHER HOW DO I GET OVER IT ? HOW DO YOU STOP THINKING ABOUT IT ? PLEASE CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME INFO THANKS, DEPRESSED Link to post Share on other sites
Author NICKSIS Posted July 10, 2004 Author Share Posted July 10, 2004 I'VE BEEN WITH HER FOR EIGHT YEARS AND GOT MARRIED FOUR YEARS AGO I THOUGHT I WOULD BE THE ONLY ONE FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES THATS WHAT I HOPED ANY WAY . WE TALKED AND SHE SAID IT WILL STOP HOW CAN I BELIVE HER IS THERE SOMETHING SHE OR I CAN DO TO ENSURE IT IS TRULY OVER WITH THEM? Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 Seek therapy. Link to post Share on other sites
sinner Posted July 10, 2004 Share Posted July 10, 2004 If your wife is emotionally involved with her OM, and the affair has been ongoing for at least 6 months, you're in for some rough sailing. The fact that she tells you that the affair "will stop" implies that it's ongoing--and not a one night fling. That's bad news for you. If your wife is not emotionally ready to end the affair, she won't. People can be very stubborn about affairs. I'd want to know everything about my wife's affair, and then I'd decide whether our marriage was worth saving. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NICKSIS Posted July 10, 2004 Author Share Posted July 10, 2004 IF WE WOULD BRECK UP WHO WOULD GET OUR SON SHE DOES NOT WORK AND IM GOING IN TO THE ARMY AS A CAREER? Link to post Share on other sites
Author NICKSIS Posted July 10, 2004 Author Share Posted July 10, 2004 HOW WOULD SHE WHEN SHE DOES DRUGS AND GOES OUT DRINKING AND CHEATING ON ME AND I HAVE PROFF ON IT? Link to post Share on other sites
bubs Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 I found out my ex-wife and best friend had had a two year affair in the middle of my marriage. While I did not find out about the affair (which ended two years before the divorce) until 6 months afterwards. I found out right in the middle of trying to reconcile. I also asked for details, which she and he provided with great detail. I have found no clue on how to recover. I can only say this...if she is cheating on you, she is just not worth your time. As badly as I want her back, I know I must move on. Although it is torture without her, it would not be much better with a dishonest woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 What a hard, hard thing to find out.. all the advice I can give is there is no point in trying unless you are both completely honest with each other from now on. Seek a marriage counsellor. Link to post Share on other sites
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