Proving the point that someone always falls when you have opposite gender "friends"

[miz_barby]

See this just proves a point that someone always falls for the other when you're friends with the opposite sex!

 

check this link out

 

 

Yes not everyone will agree with me and that's cool but this is just a continuation of my POV from this post.....

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t42707/

 

 

I stake my claim that no good comes out of a girl being "best friends" with a guy and vice versa because one or the other ends up w/ feelings and I'm sorry but more times than not this IS what happens!

[CutiePy]

I have slept with several of my male friends and remained friends with them and I must admit that I some times end up having feelings for my male friends when we are close emotionally even if they do have girl friends or fiances. I say you can do what makes you feel best but even though I am clearly on the other side of the spectrum than you on this issue I must say that I agree that usually the girl develops feelings for the guy. If not then the guys falls in love with the girl when they are friends even if she has someone else.

[CurlyIam]

And this is why no one should ever have friends of the opposite sex!

 

More over, to erase the temptation out of happy marriages (or relationships), I say all women with or without bf, out of the social list! DANGER, people, DANGER!!!

 

Women after 25 should all stay together and find themselves a bf in order to have a social life! That or a hobby! Like cooking, or knitting , to keep 'em in doors!!!

[Fayebelle]

Some of my closest pals are men. I posted on the other thread about this but I just want to say there ARE those of us who can maintain platonic relationships despite gender.

[sportsloving]

Originally posted by Fayebelle

Some of my closest pals are men. I posted on the other thread about this but I just want to say there ARE those of us who can maintain platonic relationships despite gender.

 

I totally agree with Fayebelle. Why is it such a hard concept that guys and gals can be JUST friends with nothing else going on?

 

I like my guy pals... they are fun to hang out with, we play golf and football, we talk, we joke and are sometimes just plain easier to deal with than gal pals (no offense to anyone). There isn't anything else going, no hidden feelings, no secret desires ... we just have a great time and are able to talk

 

I think about my guy pals as extra brothers ... only I got to pick them instead of just having to deal with them .

[UCFKevin]

Of course it's possible for a guy and a girl to be JUST friends, but you women HAVE to realize that the guys DO want you. Unless they're married or involved, if they got even the smallest chance to hook up with you, you'd better believe they'd take it immediately, regardless of what they may say.

[fanou22]

I have always had guys friends and enjoyed their company. I have never slept with any of my guy friends and I am rarely friends with any of my x-bf.

When I am hanging out with guys I feel more at ease. I am not there to impress anyone of them. I settle into "we are friends, we hang out, and we have fun" type of mood.

 

Men and women can be friends as long they are sure of it and have no secret sexual feelings. Once you start wanting your friends sexually, I don't think they can be classified as friends anymore.

[babysbreath]

actually i dont agree with you. my best friend since 3rd grade is male, and after 13 years there is still no one i can count on more or trust more. hes got a girlfriend and i'm married. I believe that men and women can be best friends, but like any kind of relationship (wheather both female friends, or both male friends, or male and female friends) there is the possiblity of someone being hurt. it comes with the territory of being friends.

[dudesomewhere]

bah

 

It's all about how real of a person you are, male or female. I hope Fayebelle and sportsloving...I hope women/people like them aren't too damn rare.

 

Don't say all or use absolute words like every guy...etc, use MOST damnit! . Yes, men and women are just about equal on this. Hell you should know me...and be confused at why I try to convince females they aren't attracted to me so that they don't sleep with me

 

Salmon skin roll to you all

[SnowWhite]

I hope some of you are being sarcastic when you say that people shouldn't have friends of the opposite sex.

 

I would think that as long as there is no sexual attraction then there really isnt anything to worry about. I've had guy friends who are definitely not my type and I am definitely not theirs but I am still best friends with them.

 

This seems like a silly 'opposite gender friends don't work' theory to me. Lets be honest...are all of you just too horny to keep your hands off your friends??

[miz_barby]

Okay well from my personal experience of having female friends who've shown themselves (no matter how mature of self respecting they seemed before) incapable of having male friendships without falling! It isn't that I'm "scared" someone will "steal" my man...because I also KNOW that he WILL cheat if he WANTS

to and no one can "MAKE" him!

 

I think it's cool IF there are women out there that can maintain friendships with male friends and never have feelings for them and don't make plays for them then hey more power to ya!

 

The women around here I know personally ARE NOT capable of such relationships (at least they've shown that) and just like UCFKevin stated:

 

Of course it's possible for a guy and a girl to be JUST friends, but you women HAVE to realize that the guys DO want you. Unless they're married or involved, if they got even the smallest chance to hook up with you, you'd better believe they'd take it immediately, regardless of what they may say.

 

That says it all! Again at least in my opinion!

 

AND come on....

 

LEt me tell youhow it goes: the more time passes, the more women start neglecing themselves and start focussing on the man. And so, each day, more and more, the Earth begins revolving around their marriage, aroung their family, around their husband.

 

NOT EVERY woman that gives 100% of their emotions and themselves to their man are neglecting themselves! What a statement! Hahahaha! I would never "neglect" myself for anyone nor am I selfish in a relationship when I am with someone, I don't expect them to give up anything for me and likewise!

 

I chose to be with someone who thinks the same as I do, he doesn't see the point in keeping women around as "friends" nor do I see the need to have "male" friends. BUT whatever works for YOU do IT!! Plain and simple!