ex boyfriend married after breaking up 3 months, Abortion, Baby son ...

[judy]

My ex-boyfriend of two years just got married last weekend, that was 3 months after we broke up and we have a 14 month old boy.

 

I believed now he started doing with that woman from his work at my back while I was 5 month pregnant, then he started picking on me and a small execuse, he decided to break up with me and did not even visited his son once. He even forced me to do a abortion. I found out through his credit card statement that he booked a $3000 cruise with that lady two days after I moved out and the woman moved into his place 1 week later. I feel very upset and very depressed and was fine for a while. Now they are married, I feel very betrayed, depressed, and don't know how to cope with this situation. He seems like a action hero marry somebody so soon, even better than J. Lo or britey Spears. However he never showed up at our son's daycare to visit him or whatever.

 

Every my friends tell me he is a very bad man, played a lot game, tricked me to leave (he said he needs space or confused). And I don't know how to cope with all these. Should I forget about all of these and move on? How could I forget all those pains, and all those hurts? How could I move on?

 

Thanks for any advices.

[jenk]

Karma!

 

For a man to have nothing to do with his own child is evil. Everything we do wrong comes back and bite us in the butt. Just be glad you won't be around when it gets him. He will pay though, you can be sure of that.

 

I know it hurts, but one day you will thank your lucky stars that this man is out of your life. I really feel sorry for your son . . .it’s so sad.

[judy]

Thanks, Jenk, for your nice wordings.

 

I feel so bad for my son, he already talking, sometimes called Daddy, that broke my heart. I feel so bad for my son and myself, while thinking they are happy together, and doing all those things used to do between me and him.

 

Are you sure it will come around to him one day? I wish every minutes he will get something bad to him and will be glad to see that day.

 

Thanks again.

 

Judy

[JenniferSix]

Judy,

 

As hard as it might be - pick yourself up by the bootstraps and tell yourself you've got to be strong for your son. Your ex is now remarried - pity his poor wife - she has no clue what's in store for her. He's bouncing from one relationship to another - it's not gonna last with them - give it time, she'll come to her senses and they'll divorce.

 

You my dear must figure out what you can do to get child support - do you have the means to hire an attorney? If so - immediately speak to an attorney. If not - ask family and friends for support and help.

 

You need to focus on taking care of you and your son. It's going to be tough on you emotionally but you've got to tell yourself you can do it. Don't sit and dwell on your ex - there's nothing you can do about him - he's a mess. Keep your head focused, make yourself strong (eat right, excercise, keep your head clear). Your child needs you.

 

Do you have a decent job, place to live, enough money for the basics? That's the main thing - taking care of you and your child. Focus on that and not him.

 

Hang in there - lots of single moms go on to raise healthy sons. Look at Tom Cruise - his father abandonded him and his mom raised him and look how he turned out!!!

[judy]

Thanks, Janefer. Your words are so encourage and Tom Cruise story are very inspiring.

 

I already processed child support application, and he kept complained I asked too much, Actually I asked less than state minumun guidline, and he kept complained he has to pay two child support now (he has a daughter from previous marriage). He did jump from one relationship to another. He lied a lot to the now wife about everything, lied about how we started and lied about my pregnancy when they started, otherwise no woman would date him while his woman is pregnant. I could not understand why she married him. SHe claimed I don't care about his past, I only love him himself and only care about his children from the past. Sounds like a retarded.

 

everyday, I feel better a little bit, but still very angry and want them the worst. Everyday when I look at my son, who did not remember his father now, I feel God need to punish them to its best. Do you know anybody lasted under this kind of situation? Any real stories that those bad people got punished?

 

Thanks.

 

Judy