Joe Posted October 22, 2000 Share Posted October 22, 2000 Thanks for that link Tony, I found it very interesting. Also I thought your response to my post hit the nail on the head. I know my ex fell into that changing trap. Of course she being a jehovah for 17 years of her life I think contributed to this behavior. I believe that she wanted to be ready for me and tried but wasn't ready. I'm the type of person you would marry, I'm loving, trustworthy, I put others needs before mine and cheating never crosses my mind. I think I caught her at the wrong time. She had just been kicked out of the jehovah and her parents house. So after living that secluded life for so long she was just ready to explode and I had already done that and was ready to settle down, so I guess we were doomed. I just can't believe the total turnabout she has done. She was always a very motivated person and wanted to have a life. But now that's gone. She's not going to college, working pt flippin burgers and doing drugs with her new man. She tried in the beginning to get him off drugs but she lost. I guess she just has to learn the hard way as i did. But how she fits into this changing trap is this. When we broke up she told me I was the one she would want to marry but this is what she wants right now, I'm not waiting around. Don't get me wrong I still have feelings but my life no longer revolves around her it just took time for me realize this. Anyway thanks again Tony! Joe Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 22, 2000 Share Posted October 22, 2000 YOU WRITE: "I'm the type of person you would marry, I'm loving, trustworthy," Don't count on that, Joe, you're not my type. All kidding aside, I am really glad you're finally seeing the truth here. You simply don't ever ever need to be waiting around for anybody. You cannot govern the direction another person's life will take. If you are with someone who doesn't want to be with you right then, get away. Waiting around for someone to want to be with you is like waiting around each week to win the lottery. Fat chance. It sounds like you're getting your head on straight. It may still take some time. But this girl, no matter how much you love her, does not seem like the type you would be happy with once the flames flickered. She's way too flakey. You'll never thank yourself enough for deleting her from your hard drive. Link to post Share on other sites
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