mesmerized Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 Definitely. I would visit few different cities as a tourist and see if I like the vibe first. I would not make this decision lightly... Moving might make your situation a bit better but it likely won't make a HUGE difference as long as you're the same person. Trust me, take it from someone who has moved a few times in her life. I think before you make any decesion like that you have to think about what it is within YOU that you have to improve to attract the right mate. Have you ever thought about that? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Bristolius Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 OP, Could you cultivate a non-judgmental sense of wonder about life? Maybe a better word than life is existence. It's a philosophical attitude and is not common. Even though you seem smart, you also give off a vibe that you've got it all figured out and are bored. This might help get you out of your rut. Traveling and exploring and learning new things just might be a good plan. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 You could try Indiana... Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 It certainly wasn't you. It was somebody who openly admitted she was not attracted to her boyfriend and said it was because the majority of men were lowly slobs. If somebody is having a hard time finding somebody that gives them a spark then fine but don't put down an entire gender because of it. I realize I am guilty of that myself but as you can see I really am determined to change since I got back. Thanks for letting me know. I have my bitter moments, but they've decreased, and I didn't remember ever having said anything like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 Who said that - about fabulous queens and lowly slobs? It wasn't me, but Woggle had quoted me. FrustratedStandard's alternate handle. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 You could try Indiana... The on place that's worse than Ohio. This state isn't that bad, really - I just grew up close to London, and then in California, we could drive a couple of hours to the coast, or up into the mountains. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 29, 2012 Author Share Posted July 29, 2012 OP, Could you cultivate a non-judgmental sense of wonder about life? Maybe a better word than life is existence. It's a philosophical attitude and is not common. Even though you seem smart, you also give off a vibe that you've got it all figured out and are bored. This might help get you out of your rut. Traveling and exploring and learning new things just might be a good plan. Yep, that's pretty much how I feel. It's a lot more complex than "moving to another city to find men to date"... That's not even my primary motivation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 29, 2012 Author Share Posted July 29, 2012 You could try Indiana... Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 How about New Jersey? Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 It's common sense that anyone contemplating a move anywhere visit the place first. At the very least, subscribe to their online newspaper to read about cost of living, crime rates, local politics, different good and bad neighborhoods, the types of people in the city, cultural events, local economy and tax structure. Moving to a different country is an entirely different matter because you will be navigating a cumbersome immigration system. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 30, 2012 Author Share Posted July 30, 2012 I am also considering San Francisco. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 I am also considering San Francisco. Thoughts? I never visited but it looks and sounds nice. Very expensive from what I hear though and you would be closer to Australia. If you go to NY you are looking at close to 24 hours of flying/airport time. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 I never visited but it looks and sounds nice. Very expensive from what I hear though and you would be closer to Australia. If you go to NY you are looking at close to 24 hours of flying/airport time. So Indiana would only be about 20 hours...? Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 I am also considering San Francisco. Thoughts? Let's backup. A question. Let's pretend for a moment that men, romance, sex, marriage, and all that comes with it does not exist. What are some things you are so dissatisfied with in your current location that motivates you to want to move to another country? You may have mentioned this, I didn't read and am not going back through all of those posts. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Leopard Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 My relationship with my ex was more forced than genuine attraction. It was a purely logical decision for me: he was just the best option out of bad options. This is why I'm with my bf. He isn't "bad" at all though, he is incredible, only I'm not exited about him, nor am I attracted to him. So I know exactly how you feel Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 I am also considering San Francisco. Thoughts? It's FAAAAAAABBBBBULOUS! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 So Indiana would only be about 20 hours...? from Australia? yes Wait a sec. She is in WA which is even longer. NY would be closer to 30 hours. Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 This is why I'm with my bf. He isn't "bad" at all though, he is incredible, only I'm not exited about him, nor am I attracted to him. So I know exactly how you feel Poor guy. So he is like a pet? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 I am tired of hearing people say that they hate their hometowns, no matter where they are from. "People here are lame", "no one does anything fun", etc. Well the first thing that has to change is the attitude. Ever notice that people move to another city they return saying that they hate their new location even more? It happens. First you have to change your attitude about your home town. Sure, you may not have found a good person to date, but there are all kinds of other things to do with your time. And don't sit around and wait for someone else to take the lead. Get out and do. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 Poor guy. So he is like a pet? Killing me. Just killing me. Link to post Share on other sites
Biscous Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 I live in San Antonio now. Worst place for me and what I want in women lol. Granted I have a great job, but this isn't "my" city. Now Austin on the other hand which is an hr away is a different story... I previously lived in the Northern VA/DC area and Atlanta quiet a bit, so definite downgrade of a city for me lol. Link to post Share on other sites
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 Let's backup. A question. Let's pretend for a moment that men, romance, sex, marriage, and all that comes with it does not exist. What are some things you are so dissatisfied with in your current location that motivates you to want to move to another country? You may have mentioned this, I didn't read and am not going back through all of those posts. Thanks. There? Anything? Link to post Share on other sites
LittlePrince Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 Just a mini-rant. And I mean it, none, zero.. It has been years since I met anyone that I got even a little excited about. This includes online dating too. My relationship with my ex was more forced than genuine attraction. It was a purely logical decision for me: he was just the best option out of bad options. I am very frustrated....I had dates with 9 men in the last few months..and truth to be told, I couldn't care less about any of them. They were all meh, bland and forgettable. I truly do no feel like my standards are too high. I do live in one of those cities with bad ratios for single women (in fact second worst after NYC). I refuse to force another relationship like my last with a "meh" guy....I feel like I just want to join other similar thread starters and "throw in the towel".... Ever thought to find datable men you would need to be datable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 There? Anything? Yea, she's at work...but I'd be glad to take a message for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Dismantled Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 I am also considering San Francisco. Thoughts? Yeah, San Francisco's a great place to meet heterosexual men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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