Please Read this and Help if you can. I really need some advice

[CluvsK]

Hey,

I really need some advice. My Ex bf and I lived together for almost a year. Most of the time, things were great. I have 2 kids, he has 1(his didnt live with us) and we all got along great. We never argued or yelled, most of the time if we got mad at each other we just would not talk to each other for a few hours and then made up. EXCEPT for the 3 times he didnt come home all night. The first time, in January, he got home at 5:30am. I was so mad. He said he was sorry that he drank too much and passed out in his truck. The second time, in March, he got home at 5am and said he was sitting out in the driveway for hours thinking because he had heard that night that I had said I would go on a date with somebody else but didnt go and it hurt him that I felt I wanted to go out with somebody else. I really didnt go, but I did say I would. I didnt go because I wanted so bad to make things work with us, and I told him that. We never talked about it again.

The last time he didnt come home all night, really was the last time. I left for work at 7:30 am and he still was not home. I left a note for him before I left for work saying he needed to find a different place to live. My daughter told me, after he read the note he grabbed some cloths and left for the night again. The next day while I was at work he moved all of his stuff out. He never called, never left a note, nothing, just left. That was 3 weeks ago today.

I was so hurt. I walked around in a daze the first few days. Then I drove by his Ex girlfriends house and his truck was there. I was so devistated and hurt I ended up at the hospital from a breakdown. Of course I called and called and called. Left messages on his cell phone. He didnt call back. I finally went to his work and confronted him. He said he was sorry and would call that night and we would talk. He didnt. The next day I drove by his Ex's house on my way to work (6:30 am) and his truck was there again. I didnt call or anything again for 5 days. Then I found some things of his here so I called a left a message saying he had a few things here and should contact me as to what to do with them. 6 days later I ran into him at the post office. He was friendly as could be. He told me about his weekend. He asked how I was doing. I told him not well, told him about the breakdown and how hard I was taking everything. I asked him how things were going with him and his other girlfriend and he denyed it. I told him I seen his truck there. He said he just stopped to talk to her about a job thing. I just said whatever. I told him if he ever wanted to talk or was just bored he could call or stop over anytime. He hugged me and we both left.

 

The next day, my nephew(3years old) whom we are both really close to and is only here once a month for all of us to see was here and kept asking for his uncle. I kept saying hes all gone. I finally broke and called his cell phone and left a message saying the little guy really wanted to see him and could he arrange to stop and see him. The next day my daughter comes into my room and says Hes here with his son. I go to the door, his son gives me a big hug and the Ex wants to see the little guy. So we all visit for a few hours and they all leave to go to the fair. An hour later the Ex is back, says he was bored at the fair and decided to come visit. It was a great chance for us to talk about a few things, which we did. But I think I made myself look needy and desperate. I want him back sooooo bad. I said something to him about working a third job, he said he thought 2 was too many and I shouldnt get another, I said but I hate being home. My kids are 16 and 18 both with jobs and friends and never home. He asked if I hated being here because hes not here. I broke down and started crying and said yes that was the reason I hate being here. He said I should not have made him move out. He explained he was not with anybody the night he didnt come home but was at his cousins too druck to drive home. He said the reason he didnt call me or leave a note when he moved out was he didnt want to see me or have anthing to do with me. He also said he thought about everything alot and that I just dont trust him. I did trust him and I told him that. But its hard when your sitting here all alone wondering where hes at and if hes ok and he said he understood that. I said I missed him. He said again last night hes not with his EX GF and that he wants nothing do with her.

 

So heres my problem. I really really miss him. I really really want him back. Did him stopping over to talk last night show that he loves me and might still want me? And even if he does want me back, should I take him back?

We really were good together. I didnt call him at all today or tonite. Should I call him and ask what last night meant, if anything? I dont know what to do. I have some other guys calling me asking me out, but I dont want to do the rebound thing, I also dont want to mess up any chances I might have with him.

 

HELP!!!! PLEASE!!!! I dont know what to do or think.

 

Thanks

[clia]

I left a note for him before I left for work saying he needed to find a different place to live.

 

What exactly did you think was going to happen when you left this note? He did exactly what you told him to do.

[CluvsK]

I guess at the time I was so angry and hurt, I didnt even thing about what was going to happen. I have regretted every day leaving that note.