MW wants to sleep w/supervisor! NEEDS ADVICE IMMEDIATELY

[Ashleym]

I am a married woman whom is 24 years old. My husband just turned 51 years old. I have already been married and divorced once before. I was cheating on my ex with the husband that I am currently married to now. My ex suspected that we were seeing each other but never knew for sure. My husband now and I have a son whom is almost 7 months old. We met each other at work. Since I have came off of maternity leave I started talking to one of my supervisors alot. We have always talked but not like this. My husband has always been kind of jealous of our supervisor, becuase he was kind of known as a ladies man. My supervisor and I exchanged phone numbers. I have been calling him, but he doesn't dare call me becuase of the circumstances. My super. is 54 years old. I never thought I would be attracted to older men but I guess anything is possible. Anyways, my super. and I talk and have decided to meet at his house on a certain date. I told my husband that I am planning on getting my mother to baby sit on this date so that I can go try to find me some new clothes. He thinks this is rather rare because I never get a sitter, never have unless I'm going to work. My husband and I also ride to work together. My hubby has recently made comments to me about my super and myself. I told him that he has nothing to worry about.

 

Me and my hubby don't talk anymore and my super gives me someone to talk to. When I try talking to my hubby he acts like he's not interested in what I'm saying, he has no response what so ever. Sometimes he even falls asleep when I talk, like on the way to work. When we have sex it's like he wants to hurry up and get it over with. He will yawn the whole time or talk about work during what little foreplay that we have. He never wants to do anything with us anymore. Usually when we are at home he just falls asleep on the couch, even at bedtime, so I try a few times to get him up. If he doesn't get up, I leave him there.

 

It seems like me and my super have alot in common. I'm crazy about him. I fanticize about him all of the time even when having sex with my hubby! We have so much in common and so much to talk about. My super also has anther g/f that he's had for 7 years, she's also married. He is very open with me about there relationship becuase he says that he doesn't want to hide anything from me. I really don't see me and my hubby lasting through this marriage, but I'm not going to tell him about the other guy, especially since we all work together. That would be a major conflict. Even if my hubby and I slit up I would still try to hide my other relationship for everyones sake. By the way my hubby and I have been married for 3 years.

 

IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE WITH ANY ADVICE OR INPUT ON MY SITUATION?

PLEASE HELP!

[DerangedAngel]

I think you need to get your priorities straight. You have a child with your husband. Doesn't that mean anything to you? Don't you want to raise your son with him?

 

I highly doubt that if you choose to have an affair with this man, it will stay a secret. He's your supervisor. You and your husband work together. Everyone at your work place (yes, husband included) will find out.

 

Maybe you need to sit back and take a good hard look at yourself. You've cheated in both of your marriages. You really think the men in your life are the problem?

 

-Deranged

[Debster]

Are you really as selfish and self-absorbed as your post makes you sound?

I hope not. You cheated on your first husband and now you are going to cheat on your second husband. And you meet all of these men at work.

 

Seriously, do you honestly believe that tongues aren't already wagging? Work is a place to work. Not a place to act like a cat in heat.

 

Maybe instead of cheating you should figure out why you require so much attention and figure out a way to fix your self-esteem. Either that, or continue getting married and cheat. Whatever floats your boat.

[dudesomewhere]

there have been lots of posts from skanky people haven't there? Or is it I'm just now reading them cuz I'm bored...

 

hmm, and I'm just reading the posts from females...maybe I should read the men's too.

 

skankalicious...Loveshack needs a good hoochie cleaning

 

prolly get mad at the people who are anti-skank and try to defend hoe type behavior

[HokeyReligions]

I'm not sure why you even posted, Ashleym. Would you really take anyone's advice here?

 

My advice. Get a divorce. You obviously are not ready to be married. Try growing up and living on your own for a while and stop involving others in your drama and causing heartbreak to everyone--yourself included.

[Grinning Maniac]

*sigh*...I swear people are stupid. This is what ALWAYS happens when people get married so young. You should not even be thinking about that stuff until your 30's. Based on your age, you got married to your first husband when you were how old? 18? 19? You don't know what you want yet obviously and neither you, nor your douchebag supervisor really have a right to go around messing up other innocent people's lives, YOU SON INCLUDED. Can't control what your boss does, so forget him. Let's talk about you.

 

You have a kid now, and have a responsibility to raise him in a FUNCTIONAL home. You don't like your husband? You want out of the marriage? Fine. Wait until the kid's out of the house then go. But don't go being a loser and screw this husband over too, ok? YOU decided to get married when you did...YOU decided to have a kid. Live with your decisions like a RESPONSIBLE ADULT, for Christ's sakes. "Adult" isn't a codeword for "sex", despite what the internet porn industry might say. It means you face the music and play the hand you've been dealt.

 

Stop being so self centered.

 

 

PS: Hokey, does ANYONE ever listen to anything we say? I really wonder why people even come here for advice. It usually ends in them ignoring us and screwing up anyway.

[Mr Spock]

Well, since you've just been force fed advice from the moral police all I'll ask is-Why are you so attracted to 50 year olds? Do old balls turn you on? I mean, he's 30 years older than you. It sounds like you've already made the decision in your head to hump your super-you should be honest with your husband and tell him that you're sexually attracted to this man.

 

I don't think you're a "skank" I just think you're confused. And I mean about everything. I like older men as well as anybody, but that guy is technically old enough to be your grandfather.

 

Anyways, you're being used-I hope you see this one day. I also hope you stop marrying and sleeping with men who like to date children (you seem very childlike in your perception of the way the world works)

 

Remember folks, multiple lovers does NOT equal bad mother.

[supermom]

Please for your child's sake, don't cheat. Not only will you be breaking up his family structure, but don't tell me there's not going to be any yelling about this. It may scare him and he won't understand.

 

Have you considered going to counceling for yourself? I have. There is nothing wrong with it, and you know, maybe you have some abandonment issues or you want to be in a situation where your man is almost like a father figure (not trying to sound sick about it). I am 25 and my H is 30. Before we had our child, I was kinda like that in a way. I dont know, just trying to find a possible underlying reason why A.) older men are attractive to you and B.) why you cheated on both marriages ( or about to cheat in this one).

 

The best and most respectable thing for yourself is to get out of this marriage if you do not see a future. No matter what, people still hurt when they are cheated on, no matter what they say. Not only will he hurt, but inside, you will hurt too, because [/i]you know this is not the right thing to do in a marriage.

 

To me, it seems like marriage isn't worth it to people like it used to be. I think they should make it harder to get married nowadays, because it is so easy to do that people "in love" just go for it, not thinking about the long term (in some cases).

 

I hope you do what is most right for your child. Your sexual desire should come last.

[blind folded]

You can't come on to this forum and expect anyone to be happy for your new found love.

 

Well, I am. I say go over to his place and do it. You only live once, and you're obviously not happy with your current husband. You're not being used, you're *using* them.

 

So go make some older guys dreams come true.

[Grinning Maniac]

Wow...you're entitled to your opinion...but I think you have issues.

[The_Analyzer]

Go back to your childhood and try to think of a time or something that happened in your life that you did not get as a child for why you feel the need to cheat. Maybe lack of love or attention from your father or something along those lines. If something did happen get into counseling and try to work through anything that happened that has now carried over into your adult life. Good luck.

[Girlie]

My only advice is to figure out what's going on with yourself before this ugly pattern creates a 3rd marriage and a 4th and more cheating, and more cheating, etc. It's already happened to you once before and here it comes again. I doubt this is a pattern that you'd really want to see yourself repeating so if I were you, I'd figure it out before I did ANYthing further.

[Matilda]

Originally posted by Mr Spock

Remember folks, multiple lovers does NOT equal bad mother.

 

No, but children need stability, they crave it. A mother who installs a revolving door for the men in her life, is not giving her children stability.