Be strong

[whatafool]

Most people come here not because they are ecstacially happy and are living a life of total happiness and fulfillment but because they have a problem. And I came to a conclusion today reading various posts in the Love Shack.

 

For those of that are unhappy in love I say we should be kinder to ourselves. We seem to be beating ourselves up over others behaviour and saying 'what could I have done to make this other person behave like that to me'. The answer is we cannot govern anyone elses behaviour and no-one really understands what goes wrong between two people.

 

But at least we can congratulate ourselves that we have had the courage to try and find a fulfulling relationship even if we, or they, but probably both, have made mistakes along the way.

 

It seems in reality few relationships seem to go as smoothly as one dreams and hopes of and I believe that one justs adapts or conflicts over differences, perceived or otherwise.

 

Also it seems to me the more money one has the more one is unwilling to adapt, just look at all the famous celebrities in the world, they have the worst relationships. Nothing could have been more tragic than the tortured marriage of Prince Charles and Princess Diana.

 

So I say, look even the world's most wealthy people make a total hash of it all. So let us not be so harsh on ourselves, and let's just keep trying to find the right kind of love in our lives, however hard that might be.

 

Let us acknowledge that we are strong and we have courage because we are still trying to work all this stuff out, that is why we are here - we have not given up.

 

Just a Sunday afternoon thought!

[StartingAgain]

Agood Sunday afternoon fought. I would add that we don't know how to love anymore. We need to take two steps back and recognize that our grandparents were wiser than we are. The could, for the most part, make their relationships work. Some would argue that the reson for this is that divorces were harder to coe by back then. That may have been part of it, but they also understood that marriage was more than just the good times, more than being happy, more than takling care of yourself. They knew that it was a journey you took together.