Jaja31 Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 (edited) Ok so I met this girl at work and we became friends no big deal. At first we weren't really close, but then all of the sudden we began flirting. I developed feelings for her but thought she was already with someone so one day I asked her and she said yes and that she was developing feelings for me but was in a relationship. No big deal I said I still wanted to be friends she agreed. About a month after that her significant other started questioning our friendship. We never hung outside of work so I didn't think it was bad. She told me that they have had problems in the past of being unfaithful with each other. I told her I would stop talking to her is she wanted me too, she said no and got upset. This was a few months ago. About a month ago we started going to breakfast when we got off work, we work nights, and it was only once a week. About 2 weeks ago I received weird emails from someone I didn't know telling me to leave her alone and what not. I asked her about them and she had no clue who they were from. A few days after that my tire got slashed in the parking lot at work. She was mad and told me I should report it, but I just said not worth my time nothing will come of it. She started to talk to me a little less after that. We used to text everyday, but after that she would go a couple days without responding an didnt talk much at work either. A few days ago I asked her about it. She said she felt like we were developing some kind of emotional relationship which she thought was good but bad her being in a relationship. Said it was like cheating. I agreed and told her we could stop talking until she was ready. She got upset again and said no she didn't want that. She had a scope done on her knee the next day and I texted her seeing how she was and no response. I sent her a couple texts the next two days with nothing. So I waited a day and then yesterday tried to text her and she blocked me from texting her. The couple of texts weren't bad just about me quitting smoking. I called and the phone answered and I heard her significant other in background saying they didn't text they called just tell them they have the wrong number and then hung up. I sent her a message on facebook because she didn't delete me telling her I don't know what I did but that I respect her decision not to talk to me anymore and that I hope she is happy an has a great life. Said maybe one day we can be friends again. I also said I had to delete her from fb for my sake that since she didn't want to talk to me she can't see what I do. Of course no response, but I'm wondering if the significant other told her not to talk to me again. Have I lost completely? Anyway I can get her to talk to me again. I don't know if she's going to continue working where I do either after she recovers from her scope. No know here knows whats going on with her. Any advice on what to do? Also nothing has eve happened between us as I not the type of person to do that and I've told her that. I've started falling in love with her but also haven't told her that. I started to get the feeling she was becoming more attracted to me by how she started acting, and she started flirting more especially if I mentioned someone else I went on a date with. When I would tell her I could tell it hurt her feelings, but she's in a relationship and they've been together off and on for 12 years. I'm just lost and hurt I lost my friend and she won't even tell me why. Edited July 30, 2012 by Jaja31 Link to post Share on other sites
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