Wedding on New Year's Eve - RUDE?

[Isabella82]

PS: it was a standing joke in my family for years that my aunt and uncle never went ANYWHERE on ANY NYE because their tradition was to see in the new year 'with a bang', literally

 

Haha now that is funny!!!

 

No, I'm not offended. I guess I am just shocked that some people view NYE as an intimate holiday to be shared with only their significant other.

 

This isn't Valentine's Day or even your anniversary, it's to me a party/social holiday but to each their own.

 

I wouldn't be shocked or offended if someone had yearly traditions or let's say a really close friend is throwing a party, but to not attend just so that you and your significant other can spend it alone I just don't understand that personally.

 

Maybe I'm alone here, but I live with my fiancé, we both work the same hours and have every weekend off together. The last thing I want to do on a NYE is the same ole same ole.

[Art_Critic]

I don't think it is rude.. it is your wedding.. but I do think that you might need to prepare yourself for more no-shows then you might normally expect.

Kinda like having a B-day party on the forth of July kinda thing...

 

As a family we spend each NYE out of town in the mountains.. it's a big deal starting on NYE day and going till NY's Day.

We have the food prepared and cook it at the cabin and watch fireworks on the TV and fall asleep on the couch.

I'm not saying we wouldn't go to a close friends wedding on NYE but it would be a pretty big sacrifice of tradition and certainly would require some talking about before we RSVP'd...

 

Congrats and good luck in the up coming nuptials....

 

By the way... are kids allowed to be at your wedding ?..if not then you might want to reconsider it if your friends have kids.. since it is also a holiday then baby sitters would be required and nobody wants to hire a baby sitter on a holiday and wants to be with their family...

Edited August 1, 2012 by Art_Critic

[Isabella82]

I don't think it is rude.. it is your wedding.. but I do think that you might need to prepare yourself for more no-shows then you might normally expect.

Kinda like having a B-day party on the forth of July kinda thing...

 

As a family we spend each NYE out of town in the mountains.. it's a big deal starting on NYE day and going till NY's Day.

We have the food prepared and cook it at the cabin and watch fireworks on the TV and fall asleep on the couch.

I'm not saying we wouldn't go to a close friends wedding on NYE but it would be a pretty big sacrifice of tradition and certainly would require some talking about before we RSVP'd...

 

Congrats and good luck in the up coming nuptials....

 

By the way... are kids allowed to be at your wedding ?..if not then you might want to reconsider it since it is also a holiday then baby sitters would be required...

 

Now that I can understand.

 

Thanks! I'm sure I'll return and let everyone know how it turned out.

[Woggle]

You two are the ones getting married so as long as you are happy with it it is all that matters.

[Isabella82]

I wouldn't care for it... New Years Eve is special, quality time with my guy that we mark the passing between ourselves of what has transpired throughout the year and what we are planning for next year.

 

I'd probably decline an invitation to someone's wedding as that would intrude on a special day/night of my own.

 

I just want to apologize.

 

I didn't take into account couples that might not have that much time together perhaps working opposite schedules. I seem to forget that since I've been with my fiancé for 4 years where we have the same exact work schedules.

 

Also perhaps some people are more introverted than others and rather spend the evening getting a nice dinner and spending a quiet night at home, I know I have a brother exactly like that.

 

Didn't mean to be rude.

[Got it]

There will always be conflicts no matter what date you pick. If it is important to you two than I say go for it!

 

My wedding planner just did one last year and she had some great stories to tell! Then did a confetti drop that made some amazing pictures, and sounded like an amazing event.

 

I have been kind of kicking myself on why WE didn't think to do NYE! New Years is a very special holiday for us and would have made a lot of sense. Darn it! Stupid traditional summer wedding.

[Janesays]

It probably is considered rude.

 

With that said, I'd go. It sounds like a blast. Are you planning on making it super formal? Most people like to dress up on New years. Please don't condemn them to wearing boring skirts just because you're the bride!

[Isabella82]

It probably is considered rude.

 

With that said, I'd go. It sounds like a blast. Are you planning on making it super formal? Most people like to dress up on New years. Please don't condemn them to wearing boring skirts just because you're the bride!

 

Yah! Glad to hear you would attend. I would also love to attend as well...if I were a guest. Always looking for something to do on NYE.

 

Anyway, yeah I am picturing it to be very formal, I would love it if people were to dress up! But if people show up in jeans, thats also fine by me. I am not a bridezilla, I just want people to come enjoy, have fun. I've never been into weddings, mainly because my family is dysfunctional, and there will probably only be 5 people there that I am actually related to. Everyone else are friends!

 

I probably wouldn't even care if someone else wore white! I really don't want this day to be all about me, in fact I hate being the center of attention. So this should be interesting.

 

Also after talking to my fiance about me worrying that a NYE wedding might be rude, he doesn't agree with me. His point was that we aren't forcing anyone to go, its an invite. So he told me not to worry. Also we counted how many people we knew FOR SURE that would be there (close friends and the little family which consists of like 10 people between the 2 of us) are 80 people at least!

 

We are inviting 214, we know for sure 80 people will attend. So even 80 is a decent number! So excited. :love:

[GasMer]

I also think, that it probably is considered rude.

[Art_Critic]

It doesn't take much googling to find out that NYE weddings happen all the time and are pretty popular and it seems very well liked and go over very well..

 

The consensus I was able to come up with from reading about the past experiences is that most people that attended said they had a blast and many had said it was the most memorable NYE they have had.

[Isabella82]

It doesn't take much googling to find out that NYE weddings happen all the time and are pretty popular and it seems very well liked and go over very well..

 

The consensus I was able to come up with from reading about the past experiences is that most people that attended said they had a blast and many had said it was the most memorable NYE they have had.

 

Yes I agree. I've googled it like crazy. There seems to be a huge range of peoples feelings towards it, but for the most part people seem to be for it!

 

I guess I shouldn't care what other people think. If they cared enough to be there, they will be there. And hey on the bright side the less people that go, the cheaper catering will be!

 

My fiance and I are paying for this whole thing ourselves, every single penny, and its something I thought I would never do. I was all for eloping! I always thought weddings were such a waste, and now here I am spending enough to buy a brand new car cash!!!! LOL oh how love changes you.

[CarrieT]

Interesting point. Let me ask if you don't mind does that mean that you would also turn down any NYE party as well? Because honestly thats what I am going for here.

 

I say this with respect but I don't see how spending time at a wedding would interfere with "quality" time. There will be a DJ playing slow songs where you two can slow dance, dinner, free alcohol. I mean its not like you are spending the day apart from eachother.

 

I just don't see how that differs from spending time with friends and your boyfriend. So you are saying that on NYE, EVERY NYE that is, is spent with only your boyfriend/husband and yourself?

 

I find that very interesting if thats the case. Given its even our anniversary we still spend that day with friends.

 

Yes, I would probably turn down a party as well. I'm not a huge party person (except when I throw dinner parties, but those are more sedate). I'm an older generation and rowdy drinking is not my scene - although it certainly was with my last BF.

 

The whole concept of free alcohol is the other turn off to me as that is an excuse for people to take advantage and get rip-roaring drunk and nasty.

 

Based on that alone, I would definitely decline...

 

Edited to add - This is not to say that I haven't gone to NYE parties, but I tend to go early to spend time with the guest and friends, but leave before midnight because - at that point - so much alcohol has been consumed as to be around folks that are that drunk is unpleasant for me.

Edited August 3, 2012 by CarrieT

[Isabella82]

Yes, I would probably turn down a party as well. I'm not a huge party person (except when I throw dinner parties, but those are more sedate). I'm an older generation and rowdy drinking is not my scene - although it certainly was with my last BF.

 

The whole concept of free alcohol is the other turn off to me as that is an excuse for people to take advantage and get rip-roaring drunk and nasty.

 

Based on that alone, I would definitely decline...

 

Edited to add - This is not to say that I haven't gone to NYE parties, but I tend to go early to spend time with the guest and friends, but leave before midnight because - at that point - so much alcohol has been consumed as to be around folks that are that drunk is unpleasant for me.

 

Yeah good point. That makes sense, and there are a few people that are like that as well that are invited. I am guessing if they do go, they will leave after dinner, which I expect, and its fine.

 

I myself am not a big drinker, neither is my fiance. I guess just because it is NYE, we feel like if people are going to give up their night for us we might as well provide alcohol. But yes, it is a concern of mine for sure. We have a few people in mind that we hope won't go over board. Not sure what we will do if something happens, probably cut them off. Hopefully everyone behaves themself.

 

That is the main reason why we are providing a shuttle service that will take people to a nearby hotel this way no one will be drunk driving, and everyone will be safe.

[melodymatters]

Isabella, I have been following your thread from the beginning and just want to say, I think it's fantastic idea. Do we have time to become close friends before NYE so that I can get an invite ?

 

I stopped doing anything on "Amateur Night" long ago. As has been mentioned: babysitter problems ( you took care of that), Drunk driving ( check), Even one's favorite local places where one might want to stop for a beer, sometimes sell overpriced tickets for some crappy package "deal" ( $50 a person, noisemakers, free buffet of rubber chix and a glass of champagne) so financially alone, you've got the best deal in town going !

 

You've also accepted that people may have their reasons that they can't or don't want to attend.

 

I say damn the torpedo's full speed ahead ! Enjoy your wedding !!!:bunny:

[Isabella82]

Isabella, I have been following your thread from the beginning and just want to say, I think it's fantastic idea. Do we have time to become close friends before NYE so that I can get an invite ?

 

I stopped doing anything on "Amateur Night" long ago. As has been mentioned: babysitter problems ( you took care of that), Drunk driving ( check), Even one's favorite local places where one might want to stop for a beer, sometimes sell overpriced tickets for some crappy package "deal" ( $50 a person, noisemakers, free buffet of rubber chix and a glass of champagne) so financially alone, you've got the best deal in town going !

 

You've also accepted that people may have their reasons that they can't or don't want to attend.

 

I say damn the torpedo's full speed ahead ! Enjoy your wedding !!!:bunny:

 

HAHA thanks!

 

We are also providing our guests with noise makers, NYE hates, NYE tiaras, lays, beads, and horns! I thought that would be cute for the photobooth that we are renting.

 

Too bad the venue doesn't allow confetti or sparklers, but we are hoping we can have sparklers on the way out of the venue, I think that would make for great pictures!

 

Can't believe its only 5 months away, this year has gone by so fast.

[Silly_Girl]

It probably is considered rude.

 

 

I also think, that it probably is considered rude.

 

Why, please?

[veggirl]

Rude? How? Your wedding is for you, not your guests. God people are selfish! I mean geez, if you have other plans, don't come. No one is forcing anyone to attend the wedding. Should you next send out a mass email to be sure an alternate date is no one's anniversary or birthday or something as well?

 

People are weird.

 

I think it sounds like a super cool day to get married and it sounds like you have a GREAT plan for it all! It sounds really fun.

[luizsantos]

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[luizsantos]

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