birdy Posted July 11, 2004 Share Posted July 11, 2004 I just returned from a land trip and a cruise with a good friend and our husbands. We currently live in different countries (US and Canada) and don't get to see each other very often so this was going to be our yearly get together. During the 1st day of the cruise part (8th day of the trip) her and her husband became angry about how much time we should spend together. We had booked four tours together on the cruise and they felt that other than those tours they wanted to be alone for the rest of the time. I felt sad that we had planned this together for nearly a year and we would see each other for just a few tours in the next 2 weeks. They said that we would finish out the trip, take the planned tours, and then never talk to or see each other again. I thought they were just kidding!! We did get along fairly well during the rest of the trip and I was still hoping that they were just kidding. I fell and bruised my face on the last day. My friend was very helpful and supportive after my fall. However, it's been several days since we've been back and I haven't heard from her. I thought she would at least wonder how I was doing. I emailed her the day after we got back to say hi, how was your flight, etc... Do you think she really doesn't want to be friends any more?? During the cruise we never really talked about our fight, we just let it blow over, however I could tell that they seemed constantly stressed out. Any ideas on what to do or say. It would be a shame to loss a good friendship over one argument. Thanks for the help. Link to post Share on other sites
StartingAgain Posted July 13, 2004 Share Posted July 13, 2004 You don't loose "good" friends over an argument. There's something going on here that you don't know about. I'd say married friends might spend a long weekend together, but a two week vacation? Oh lord, no. That should be time spent alone with your husband. BTW, fights never blow over, they just turn into resentment. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 13, 2004 Share Posted July 13, 2004 I felt sad that we had planned this together for nearly a year and we would see each other for just a few tours in the next 2 weeks. They said that we would finish out the trip, take the planned tours, and then never talk to or see each other again. What did you do or say about 'feeling sad'? I can't believe that they would just cut you off over your wanting to spend more time with them unless you were very aggressive or insulting to them about it. I agree that there's something more to this, butI think that something is the rest of the story we haven't yet heard. Link to post Share on other sites
birdie Posted July 13, 2004 Share Posted July 13, 2004 I'm so glad to hear that other people think that one fight shouldn't lead to the end of a friendship. Any ideas on what to say to find out what the real problem is? Writing is not my forte. Do you guys think I should send an email about what happened?? Saying what?? Update: I had a few emails from my friend and she sent me some pictures from the trip. Her email pattern has changed however, she used to respond right away now she waits at least a day or 2 or 3... Thanks for all the help and advice... Birdy Link to post Share on other sites
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