Leopard Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 They did eventually. That's why I dumped him Not gonna lie, I also stuck around because he was hot and an alpha. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 I must admit that my ex who once very hot was already starting to destroy her looks with her lifestyle but no amount of hotness will make me put up with certain things. I had a FWB who model material but I had to stop dealing with her because I just couldn't stand to be around her anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Women don't "settle" because the guys you want them to "settle" for are idiots. Undesirable. Lazy. Bummer for them. Go to the self-improvement section at the local bookstore and count the men and women. There will be 10 women there, searching for answers, looking to make themselves better, for every 1 guy you see. The other nine guys are pounding beers at home, getting fat and out of shape, watching football, letting their brains atrophy, waiting for arthritis and ateriosclerosis to set in, etc. The worst of them are here, screeching about how they are actually good guys and deserve better. If that were true, they would have better. Women don't settle, because in general they are superior human beings. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
brahmabull117 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Women don't "settle" because the guys you want them to "settle" for are idiots. Undesirable. Lazy. Bummer for them. Go to the self-improvement section at the local bookstore and count the men and women. There will be 10 women there, searching for answers, looking to make themselves better, for every 1 guy you see. The other nine guys are pounding beers at home, getting fat and out of shape, watching football, letting their brains atrophy, waiting for arthritis and ateriosclerosis to set in, etc. The worst of them are here, screeching about how they are actually good guys and deserve better. If that were true, they would have better. Women don't settle, because in general they are superior human beings. Misandrist garbage. I can turn that and say the same kind of nonsense about women Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Misandrist garbage. I can turn that and say the same kind of nonsense about women If you were a woman, would you date any of the guys you know? I for damn sure wouldn't. I'd jump the fence and be a lesbian. Link to post Share on other sites
brahmabull117 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 If you were a woman, would you date any of the guys you know? I for damn sure wouldn't. I'd jump the fence and be a lesbian. Of course I would. I know a ton of good looking and nice/pleasant men Link to post Share on other sites
Andrew.calgary Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Hi I think the following helps , based on a study that i did on social issues back in my student days It isn't just the issue with women , men also follow the same trend more or less. sure sex , emotional connection, looks ,physical fitness all matters but they are things that many people can have in common. Let's say you are looking for a guy who is physically fit, good in bed,good looking,tall ,X eye color,x hair color,x skin color,stable job, stable finance and so on .... how many people have that in common ???? and we as humans specially in digital age are always looking at everything like merchandise. always believing why settle when i can find something better let's give you an example. Take a dating website , woman on her profile stating what she is looking for and she is matched with a man and they start dating but neither the guy nor the woman deletes their profile and they will be always looking to make sure there is nothing better. The dating websites have turned something that is supposed to be spontaneous and intimate into a shopping mall , you dont always buy , but you sure will window shop and that same mall culture has penetrated every aspect of our lives Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Just because I am not into the whole self help culture does not mean that I am just sitting at home wasting my life. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Women don't settle, because in general they are superior human beings. There is a lot of truth in your post but I don't agree that we are superior human beings (appreciate it was tongue in cheek to a degree). I'd rather kill myself than settle for the kind of guys you mention but those men had mothers who brought them up that way. Women spoil their sons and often compete with their daughters. Our way of destroying things is more subtle than men's. I think women are socialised differently from early on, it's easier for us to be demanding and to be 'out there' and focus on ourselves, to be open emotionally and let steam off, to get attention. Men are discouraged in various forms and are told to 'suck it up'. I'm guilty of that too I must admit. As a result, you get guys post threads like this more than women do. We discuss it with our friends, we are more gregarious, we are more outspoken. A lot of men suffer in silence or use anonymous boards like this one to vent. They don't know how to look for help, not because they are stupid or necessarily lazy (though that can be a factor too) but because alcohol and loosely connected 'friendships' are the only things they have. Not all men of course. Those that figure it out early usually cope better, same for women. I could never be a lesbian personally because I couldn't deal with the princess types, the learned helplessness and complete lack of common sense that many women display because they prefer to be dependent rather than independent. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Of course I would. I know a ton of good looking and nice/pleasant men Do they have tons of trouble dating? Just because I am not into the whole self help culture does not mean that I am just sitting at home wasting my life. But you never had any trouble dating. I think Johan has a point. The guys who complain about women never settling are the few guys who have extreme troubles dating, while most average guys can easily get a date. "Women" are not the reason these guys can't get a date. "Women" date average men all the time. If they won't date you, get thee to the self improvement section! Link to post Share on other sites
brahmabull117 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Do they have tons of trouble dating? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/337918-makes-me-sad-thinking-about-all-my-wasted-opportunities-throughout-years Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 brahma, that thread just supports what I'm saying (I only read the OP). Your dating problems weren't about women's unreasonable standards, but rather about your shyness and insecurity, no? I think you get that, and other men (and women) would benefit from similar introspection. Link to post Share on other sites
brahmabull117 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 brahma, that thread just supports what I'm saying (I only read the OP). Your dating problems weren't about women's unreasonable standards, but rather about your shyness and insecurity, no? Yep. I have never complained about women having high standards Hell I have high standards myself, that would make me look like a hypocritical idiot 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dancer_ov_fate Posted August 2, 2012 Share Posted August 2, 2012 We change our thoughts on that as we get older...I found what I thought was great guy...didn't go for looks n after 9 years he dumps me ..so I think looks n stats really don't matter...some just like to hurt others be it man or woman. Sorry your experiences so far have been bad but one day the right one may come along....praying for u n me Link to post Share on other sites
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