cocorico Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 To run with this analogy...given that the mother is often in tremendous pain and focused on the birth of her child...do you believe that she can accurately recount the exact steps that the medical team took to verify her child's health immediately after birth? Count the stitches they may have had to put in? Describe the doctor's and nurse's actions and reactions to the birth, to the health of the child and/or the mother? Or was she focused on her own part of things...on her own pain, the health of her baby, and her own PART of the birth and delivery process? Whereas having been the father in the delivery room when my children were born...I had a totally different view and experience than my wife did, and was able to answer her questions later about the events that unfolded that she didn't/couldn't focus on. Having been there, you knew better than her how she felt, what she went through internally as well as externally, and can now claim more childbirth I g expertise than she can? Wow! I would never claim to know better my xSIL what postpartum psychosis felt like simply because I watched her lose her mind, while she actually lived it. Even her doctor had the humility to admit that there were limits to his understanding of her condition! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 Never mind...T/J is OVER. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 But how long were you with your MM only to find after he left his W and you planned to marry that there was a side to him that wasn't going to work for you? Doesn't your own personal experience kind of echo exactly what Owl said? No, it doesn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summer Breeze Posted August 3, 2012 Author Share Posted August 3, 2012 I just wanted to make a comment about something that really disappoints me. One of the OW who participated in this thread received a PM from someone who posted here as well. It was a personal attack and completely out of line. It was obviously something they didn't want to share with the general public but I thought it was worthy of mentioning. It amazes me that real live grownups are so ridiculously immature and have so little control over their feelings and thoughts that they need to not only attack an individual but to do it in such a cowardly way. I was told the PM was reported. If anyone thinks I'm saying this to stir things up I'm quite happy to discuss what I can in a PM. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summer Breeze Posted August 3, 2012 Author Share Posted August 3, 2012 I did too, so I guess someone went on a campaign of those. I did not report the PM but one of my posts was reported for being off topic despite 3 more pages going on in the same vein. I'll take the infraction (my 1st) but that's disappointing to me as well. I'm really sorry that happened. I thought it was a very valid discussion that was maybe just a little different. I'm sorry it was marred that way. Thanks very much for participating though. Link to post Share on other sites
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