FlowerParadise Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 Hi everyone I'm a new member out here, hope I'll get some friends here is my problem : I'm working for this company for almost 10 months now, and I'm pretty happy about my situation at work. The thing is : during the first 3 months, I noticed this guy who's working in another team and I liked him. Since I wasn't ready for any relationship or interrested in getting involved with anyone (Was hurt actually!), I didn't give him any GOOD signals. He was: Staring, Smiling, being jealous, being at the same place at the same time, saying hello (and me sometimes not even responding!)...etc. Then, I just ignored him ! I wasn't interested, busy with my own ****ty life ! After those 3 months, here is a new manager who comes ! (his manager !) At that point I added him on facebook and started sending him messages. Since, I didn't know what to talk about and the whole situation was awkward, I was just talking about JOB JOB JOB. He expressed his interest, I remember one day I wasn't at work and he told me : Yeah I noticed you weren't there. And Asking if I was ok when I was ill. He didn't initiate any of this convo but I believe it's initially my fault since I was rough with him and rude. So...what ? I did a huge mistake : The new manager happens to be the best friend of my co worker. And I told them ABOUT my crush, since that day she's been all over him, seducing him...showing off her breast and doing sexy poses in front him at work. He stopped responding to messages on FB ! I was mad, angry at the girl and I hate to believe she took him from me (Actually he's not mine and not hers, I shouldn't feel that way) She's always with him at coffee breaks, taking lunches together...etc. But I believe...he's not that into her, even though my collegue (her best friend) told me he likes her too (she's telling me to back off by saying that ^^'). Why do I think that ? She always after him, jealous as hell of me and always looking if I'm there at the same time as him...why is she treathened by me ???? Now, I just can't get over him....I ignored him on facebook and in real life. But I want him...I don't want anything romantic, I WANT HIM ! (He's still staring at me but I can't figure out what he thinks about me) Just ONCE, only ONE TIME I know, it sounds weird from a girl to say that but since I don't know him very well, I can't ask him that directly on FB. Plus it's not that serious between the two of them. (I guess) I just want him once and she can have him after that ! It's not a revenge thingy, I feel like she took a candy from me and I didn't get the time to taste it BIATCH PLEAASE what do I do ???? Link to post Share on other sites
MCMLXXXIX Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 You'll probably make things awkward at work if you have casual sex once with a co-worker (you know that already I am sure). You should be cool about it and do something though. I wish he would have the balls to go up to you, but if he doesn't, go up to the guy and chat with him sometime. Figure out what he's into and stay cool. Maybe you'll still want to have him once, maybe you won't dig him anymore, maybe you'll want to date him. You don't know until you actually flirt for real. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FlowerParadise Posted July 31, 2012 Author Share Posted July 31, 2012 You'll probably make things awkward at work if you have casual sex once with a co-worker (you know that already I am sure). You should be cool about it and do something though. I wish he would have the balls to go up to you, but if he doesn't, go up to the guy and chat with him sometime. Figure out what he's into and stay cool. Maybe you'll still want to have him once, maybe you won't dig him anymore, maybe you'll want to date him. You don't know until you actually flirt for real. You're right. I know it's gonna be awkward but I don't know How to make things move faster. What do I do for instance while chatting on FB ? PLUS, isn't she taking more risks than me by getting involved with that guy, he's not her co worker, she's HIS BOSS!??? Link to post Share on other sites
MCMLXXXIX Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 You're right. I know it's gonna be awkward but I don't know How to make things move faster. What do I do for instance while chatting on FB ? PLUS, isn't she taking more risks than me by getting involved with that guy, he's not her co worker, she's HIS BOSS!??? What they do together is none of your business unless it makes your boss incompetent or unless you yourself get involved with that man. Your initial post seemed to suggest they were simply flirting and not "involved" with each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FlowerParadise Posted July 31, 2012 Author Share Posted July 31, 2012 What they do together is none of your business unless it makes your boss incompetent or unless you yourself get involved with that man. Your initial post seemed to suggest they were simply flirting and not "involved" with each other. Well, for sure it feels like it's my business since she knew I was into him and did what it takes to flirt and...etc. She is the intruder, not me ! PLUS, She is not my boss ! She is HIS boss. I'm working in a whole other department ! Link to post Share on other sites
sweetheart5381 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Workplace relationships are really risky business so to speak. I hate to say it, but maybe he just isn't as into you as he is to her now. It happens. Men enjoy having a female superior, it is exciting for them. Maybe that will lose it's lustre in time but for now, you don't stand much of a chance, especially if you just want a one-nighter to prove yourself as a contender. Why meddle? Truth is, what they do is none of your business, it does not involve you. They are grown adults and entitled to enjoy their lives. Yes, he may have liked you initially, may have given off signals but you did not respond. That does not make you entitled to him. The stop sign is honoured by most men (hopefully). You blew him off. He found another... no big surprise, that is dating. Link to post Share on other sites
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