justeunefille Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 Hi everyone, so I'm new to the site but just wanted to vent/get people's opinions on my situation. I'm only 19 years old and I got married about 3 months ago. I'm feeling it was a HUGE mistake! First of all, I'm sooooo young! I knew this going into it but I'm the stubborn type and didn't listen to everyone's warnings. Second, we only dated 5 months before getting married, and when we did get married we decided on a sunday and were married that thursday. We eloped w/o telling anyone. I feel like a HUGE idiot. Now here I am, 3 months later and I already want a divorce. It's not anything to do w/ my husband either. He's AMAZING. As much as I try to find flaws, I can't. I think that's partially why I married him - he's a REALLY smart choice. He's loving, a hard worker, he's gonna be a great dad, he supports all of my decisions, and he genuinely wants the best for me. Also, he's heading for an aviation maintenance career, hopefully UAV's which could make him nearly half a million a year. Another factor is that I've had feelings for another guy that I work with for about 6 months now. I can't get him out of my head and think I love him... And he's not as smart of a choice. He makes me smile so much, but he's heading for restaurant management (not lucrative, time consuming), he doesn't have or want a degree, and he's not as good looking as my husband. BUT, he would be a really good dad and I think he's incredible... Idk why nor do I know how to describe my attraction to him. My husband knows about this attraction, he also knows I made out w/ a different guy. After all of this, he wants to go to therapy, wants to make our marriage successful, etc. He's THAT crazy about me, but I just can't bring myself to care anymore. I've always been wanting others while w/ him, but tried to make the "smart" decision instead. Thoughts? I feel stuck :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 You were too young for this. What about guy #2 do you like better...what is your husband lacking? FYI---a UAV WILL NOT make $500,000 a yr--in order to make anywhere near that much you need to be up at a level of a corporate VP. Link to post Share on other sites
wow04 Posted July 31, 2012 Share Posted July 31, 2012 You can't make yourself fall in love with him. You are soooo young. What about trying the counseling and putting your whole heart into it? Go NC with guy #2 and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
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