BB's -**Long Post**

[Almond_Joy]

First off: The tone of this post's a bit harsh - I've cleaned it up as much as I could without actually altering the content.

 

I would hope that most can look past that to appreciate the truth of this post. I've seen this dynamic play out in SOOOOO many relationships.

 

I think this post was written for people who:

- Have an ex/exes that keeps/keep coming in and going out of your life

 

- Habitually pour financial and emotional resources into their relationships at the expense of their own health and stability

 

- Have been with someone for years who STILL won't commit to a monogamous relationship, or try to build the relationship in any way

 

I know the post is from a woman's perspective, but this dynamic can work in either way, meaning the man can be the user or the one being used.

 

Obviously I'm in agreement with this perspective lol, but I'd be interested in hearing other opinions or perspectives on this post anyway.

 

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BB'S.....

 

 

DEEP READ LADIES!!!!! PLEASE READ....soooooooooo real!!! Its LONG but worth it.

 

Before Jay-Z was GQ man of the year and husband of the all mighty, he was Shawn. Like most men with ambitions to be more than some local ninja, Shawn needed two things to succeed in life—confidence and drive. Our mothers tell us we can do anything, but it’s another female that often takes your confidence to another level. The BB. The BB is the reason you walk with a limp, she’s the reason that you don’t fear rejection from other girls, she created your swag. No matter what happens in your life, how broke you are, what other girl breaks your heart; she will be there to pick up the pieces. BB's are chicken soup for the ego, and because of her you’re able to hold your heads high at your lowest moments. The funny thing about the BB is, once you get to your destination, she’s the first one to go. In “Song Cry” Jay-Z tells of a girl who was always there for him, “A ninja had very bad credit you helped me lease that whip…” but as soon as the money came he went for the girls that called him ugly, and forgot about the one that loved him despite the Camel features. That’s the life and death of a BB.

 

 

It’s Pinocchio without the Disney ending. You help create a man, only to watch him cut the strings and walk out of your life for greener pastures. Someone asked a female a few months ago if being called a BB was a compliment. At the time she wavered, because to be his bottom means that he does love you, appreciate you, and need you. But it also means that your relationship with him has a time limit. No matter how much a man loves his BB, she’s McCarran International Airport, a ****ing layover stop in route to the bright lights of a bigger city. Can a man settle down with his Bottom? Sure if he fails at life, then he’ll settle for her. The BB isn’t the foundation a house is built on; she’s more like training wheels. You need your BB to hold you up, but once you get your life in order, she has to go because all she’ll do is slow you down. Some girls run around proclaiming that they’re his bottom because they think it means they’re his main chick. You’re not a main chick, you’re a gas station. To be called a BB is far from cute and if you take pride in that s**t then you’re beyond basic. The very existence of the term “Bottom” means that you have never been good enough to make him be monogamous. You’ve spent years holding a man down and he won’t even give up new pussy for you—you ma’am have failed.

 

 

BB's Are Safety Nets.There will come a time when the girl you really like breaks up with you. You’ll need someone who can restore your confidence, vent to, and have sex with while you’re in a slump. Look no further than that girl who’s always loved you. All men attempt to go back to ex-girlfriends, but BB’s are more than an ex, they’re a support system. Their love, however, isn’t unconditional - it’s based on one thing– one day we will be together because you told me so. The two things boys learn as kids are how to do Ryu’s Hadouken and how to fool girls into thinking you go with them without actually saying, “I go with you“. It’s the oldest trick in the book. Ninjas make up all kinds of excuses as to why you’re together but not really together because that leaves them free to move on to the girl they really want without being labeled a cheater. At the same time she won’t date anyone else because she’s in love with you. Treat a girl who’s not your girlfriend like she’s the love of your life and she will wait for the title forever, sounds silly but you’d be shocked at how well it works.

 

 

An example: Homeboy has been f*****g with homegirl since they were in 10th grade off and on, they’re like best friends, and in homegirl’s mind now that homeboy’s out of the military and has a good job he’s going to be with her like they always talked about. Homeboy needed homegirl back when he was a little dusty boy whose moms was on crack. Homegirl brought him lunch, paid his school dues, hell she even taught the ninja dick control. Homeboy fed Homegirl the “I want to be with you baby, but my money’s not right” lie. It’s one of the easiest lies to pull off and generally dictates that the reason we’re not together isn’t because I don’t love you, it’s because I wouldn’t be able to treat you to the things you deserve as my girl. Womp Womp. Did his money not being right stop him from running up in her raw every chance he got? Hell no, despite that excuse he still got boyfriend privileges, without the girlfriend hassle. Now that homeboy’s grown and making some bread homegirl thinks they’ll finally be together. HA! Homeboy doesn’t need that safety net as much so he stops coming around to see homegirl. Next thing you know homeboy gets some girl at work pregnant and homegirl’s hurt like hell. Why would he do that to her? She was his BB; it was them against the world. Sit yo ass down. Homeboy sold his BB a dream, and because they had so much history and love between them, she bought it hook, line, and sinker. If you are my girlfriend that means I love you, if you’re my BB that means I love you for what you can do for me!

 

 

BB's Are Loyal To A Fault. This girl wrote me an email once because her “man” was caught having sex with some girl. She wanted to know how to best get revenge. I told her to leave him. She replied that she was too in love, and technically they weren’t together. She didn’t want revenge on the guy she wanted revenge on the girl who didn’t even know about her. Confusing right? This girl was in an invisible relationship and expected all women to respect something that they didn’t know existed. That’s how blind a BB is. Everyone in your community knows that homie has been dicking you down for a minute, but when other girls ask him, “What’s up with you and your girl” he responds, “We’re just cool“. Next thing you know you’re trying to fight a girl over a dick that doesn’t even belong to you. Are you crazy? Beating that girl up, assassinating her character or Facebook bashing her isn’t going to change the fact that he doesn’t think you’re worth claiming in front of other women. I don’t care how many times he’s told you “I love you” or if he bought you some cheap ass bracelet for your birthday “BB” isn’t a relationship status. You have NO say in who he sleeps with. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out how to make everything copacetic with your BB again. After the drama is over, go over to her crib, tell her how that girl didn’t mean anything, guilt her by saying, “all this time you’ve been my girl and now you going to let that B***h come between us?” She knows you’re full of ****, but she doesn’t want to lose you, so the game continues.

 

 

BB's Always Answer The Phone. Remember homegirl and homeboy, if not your reading comprehension is all ****ed up. So homeboy had a baby and hasn’t talked to homegirl in a year. He’s grown, sick of his baby mom’s loose walls and wants something new. He could go out and hunt, but ninjas are lazy so he goes back to the past. He calls homegirl, she doesn’t answer. Instead, she paces in her crib wondering why he’s calling after all this time, secretly hoping that the mother and child both died in a tragic accident and he’s free to start a new life with her. Sad delusional BB's… She calls him back thirty minutes later and he begins to tell her how much he misses her. They talk about old times, and how he made a mistake and how he has to ****/see her again. Homegirl has a boyfriend, a good ninja who doesn’t cause her any stress in other words– she’s bored. Next thing you know homeboy’s hitting that again and telling her how he’s going to leave his baby moms, all she has to do is be patient. Months past and homegirl’s pussy is still being used as a timeshare. To top it off her boyfriend knows she’s cheating but his simp ass can’t let go. Now she’s living foul because she can’t let go of this ninja she invested in way back when despite having a good man in her life. That type of scenario happens all the time, and few men can break the BB spell when feelings are that deep. As long as he keeps making up excuses and promising that they’ll be together, he’ll continue to exploit her. Poor Bassica Bottom, what’s the point of deleting his number when you’re still going to answer the phone?

 

 

A BB will always be a BB because she never realizes she was a BB to begin with. In her mind, she’s wifey, always one day away from getting that ring on her finger and a return on that initial investment. Sorry to say but that day will never come. BB's aren’t Bonnie’s they’re sponsors. Beyonce was never Jay-Z’s BB, she wasn’t around to put cars in her name and warm up his cup-o-noodles on those cold winter nights when he came back from hustling. While some other chick was boosting Shawn’s ego and telling him that Fu-Schnickens flow was hot, Beyonce was focused on laying her own strong foundation and achieving her goals. In the end, Jay went for an independent woman with the same ambitions that he had and that sweet naïve girl from 1988 who put her man first became just a distant memory. BB's are a necessary evil for men. Men all need a pat on the back, good head, and a few dollars when coming of age. For your sacrifice and devotion, he will always have love for you, but that doesn’t mean he was ever in love with you. Real men don’t want enablers they want partners, and that BB mentality means that you’ll never be equals. No matter how long you’ve been holding him down, what has he brought to the table besides false promises? Regardless of how many times he tells you he loves you, why are you still his girl and not his girlfriend? If you keep settling for the bottom how the **** are you going to make it to the top?

[Forever Learning]

Neat article. Very true, I've witnessed this phenomenon as well. Luckily even the harsh and disappointing experiences in life are still fruitful to learn from, once one recognizes the value of the lesson. Thanks again for an interesting read! Cheers!