jjtwo Posted July 12, 2004 Share Posted July 12, 2004 About a month and a half ago my girlfriend of 8 months saw her ex-boyfriend who she had been on and off with for 4 years in highschool and her freshmen year in college. She told me that she had feelings, of love, for him. After talking about it for a few days and then me going to visit her everything became fine again and she had called him telling him to go away and stuff like that. Then, about two days ago the same scenerio was reconfigured. This time she saw him at a party (last time was at a mall) and altho a little drunk, she kissed him a few times and stuff like that. She told my saturday morning what had happened and that she was in love with him again. Because I work as a counselor at a camp eight hours from where she is she told me that she wanted to break up with me over the phone. I told her that i couldnt deal with that an to have some respect and integrity but she didnt want me to head down there to end things formally. Its now monday and i left camp feeling trapped and headed home. We agreed to see each other and for me to talk about whatever with her tonight before i head back to camp. She is already acting like she is a friend of mine already, for instance, telling me to wear a seatbelt and drive safely. I am in love with this women and I dont know how to act. Like, i know that visiting her is probably a hrrible idea, but i havnt seen her for abut a month and a half and if i dont see her now, even though we are broken up, i will not see her until school begins. Is there any way that i could win her back? She was in love with me and I know it. She is trying to rekindle the fire with her old boyfriend who will undoubdedly come back to her, even though she broke his heart earlier by decidig to be with me for 8 months after he ahdnt talked to her for about a month, including her birthday. He is going to be gone for the better part of the summer and he goes to a school 8 hours away from the one my ex an I attend. I have a feeling that she wants him back because he was closer (she saw him while I was away in Maine as a cousnelor). She told me that she didnt love me anymore and that she had had feeling for him every once in awhile the entire time we were together. However, she never told me these things when i asked her. I feel betrayed and led on. We were in love..we slept together every night in college because wed both be sad if we didnt. One night away is to tough. She told me that she wanted to be with me forever. And now suddenly she dropped a bomb on me. What do I do? I dont think that this realtionship of hers with her exboyfriend will work through college if it had its difficulties everyone now and then during highschool. But at the same time he has learned from his mistakes and probably will seem like a night in shining armour. What do I do. I am so in lvoe with her and i cannot live without her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jjtwo Posted July 12, 2004 Author Share Posted July 12, 2004 also, if i use the no-contact rule then i may lose her forever...im depressd over here. what do i do... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jjtwo Posted July 12, 2004 Author Share Posted July 12, 2004 one more thing...I read this a second ago: "I need a break to think" but they really mean: "there's this guy I'm interested in and I'm going to date him and keep you in limbo just in case" or "It's not you, it's me" but they really mean: "there's this guy I'm interested in and I'm going to date him and keep you in limbo just in case" or " I just need some time/space" but they really mean: Yep you got it! "there's this guy I'm interested in and I'm going to date him and keep you in limbo just in case" she had said these things a few times during our relationship after the first month..and later after about 3 months. Apparently she maybe did want to get back with her ex except i kept winning her back. Is there another card that i can play in my current situation to win her back? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jjtwo Posted July 12, 2004 Author Share Posted July 12, 2004 I think i may have answered my own question. I think that I should see her tonight and act the same way as if it were the firt night that we met. I will not cry or anything because I know that crying will only make everything worse. I will show her that I have my **** together. I will say goodbye with a better impression that me crying on the phone yesterday. As a camp counselor my days are very busy and I can play the no contact game and wait for her to call me. Either she will miss me and want to get back together...or her resurfaced feelings for her ex-boyfriend will only become stronger. I guess its the only way I can play this game. Love is tough isnt it. Link to post Share on other sites
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