She Left Me For Another Guy. NC UPDATES.

[aliveagain]

She is not hurting you, your doing it to yourself, wake the f**k up. You can stop this any time you want but I think you must crave the drama because you keep putting yourself in front of the freight train. Let all your calls go to voice mail than call back those that are legit. The other option is to have all your calls sent to an answering service, just instruct them to screen her calls. Contact her boyfriend by email, expose her contact. You need to stop the drama and get yourself into counseling, this codependent relationship has to end or you will never move on and meet the woman your destined to be with. It was painful reading your entire post, I don't feel as manly as I did before I read it. Please stop doing this to yourself, you can't keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

[heartshaped]

You need to seek therapy.

 

You're a glutton for punishment. Not just from this woman, but from all your partners. Something is wrong that you would keep doing the same thing over and over again.

 

Please, seek help.

[316]

Here we are nearly a year later and without hardly any progression so I'm just gonna copy/paste my previous post...

 

I have been lurking this site for the past month and this thread is what tipped me over the edge to finally create an account.

 

David I have read through this entire thread (sad I know... too much time on my hands these days). You're probably not going to like what I have to say but I'm going to be 100% real here and you NEED to listen... You need PROFESSIONAL help.

You are currently in the middle of a never-ending spiral of emotional abuse...

1)The girl cheats on you.

2)You break up.

3)You get sad/angry and pretend that you're over her but deep down you STILL want her back despite the emotional abuse that she has caused you

4)You attempt to go NC. <--- Most important step!!

5)She feeds you breadcrumbs that makes you feel guilty for ignoring her/ feeds you breadcrumbs that make you think she really wants you back when in reality SHE DOES NOT TRULY WANT YOU BACK.

6)You cave and allow her to come over and use you for sex and to stroke her own ego.

7)She goes back to her other guy because SHE DOES NOT TRULY WANT YOU BACK.

8)Repeat steps 3-7 over... and over... and over... and over!

 

Listen man I know breakups are some of the roughest crap anyone can go through, and everyone here sympathizes with you (we WANT you to get through this man! You deserve SO much better!!). But you have been going through this same cycle for over 5 months since posting this thread DESPITE the 10+ pages of great information everyone has been giving to you. We can only help you so much but it's at the point now where if you are unwilling to take advice from us then you need to seek professional help. You're a victim of emotional abuse and this ex of yours is a vampire that is thriving off of your weakness. It's really upsetting to read and I can only imagine how hard it is for you. The people on this site clearly haven't been able to knock you out of this vicious cycle so professional help might be what you need at this point.

[Zahara]

I don't even want to start fresh, I just want to know I ment something or get closure or know she feels bad about being the definition of both a psychopath and a cunt.

 

I don't hurt over it. I'm just confused by the game and reasons behind it.

 

Hmm...if you define her having psychopathic tendencies, why would you expect kindness and compassion from someone of that nature?

 

Psychopaths are manipulative and they have zero empathy as to how you feel. It's all about what they want. Phuk your feelings. If you're going to label her one, make sure you readjust your expectations because if you don't you'll forever be waiting for a reasonable explanation and closure.

 

Confused by the game? Nah. You're just weak.

Edited September 26, 2013 by Zahara

[Mariposa10]

Wow, it's been longer than a year and you are still dealing with her??? What happened with the new girl, btw?