Happyface Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 Somebody wrote recently and I cannot quote verbatim, that an A is a life changing event. I am wondering how it changed you and maybe your future, I look forward to reading your responses, Happyface. Link to post Share on other sites
cocorico Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 Somebody wrote recently and I cannot quote verbatim, that an A is a life changing event. I am wondering how it changed you and maybe your future, Before the A, I thought love was a Hollywood invention. The A taught me that love can exist, that two people really can respect and care for and desire each other so deeply that their being together makes the world a better place - not just for them, but on balance. It changed me from a cynic to a lover, from inward-looking to outward-looking, from hard nosed to open hearted. And it changed my future - what I do, where I live, who I live with, what I want. It's all so much brighter now. For all of us. Link to post Share on other sites
LFH Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 Somebody wrote recently and I cannot quote verbatim, that an A is a life changing event. I am wondering how it changed you and maybe your future, I look forward to reading your responses, Happyface. It's opened up my world to a love I didn't realize existed. I'm a better person for knowing him and my life is fuller and happier. Link to post Share on other sites
sleepie Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 It changed what I thought about myself. And not for the better. I learned I'm weaker, sadder, and less emotionally stable than I thought I was. But I've always been a "grass is greener" type, and the A also taught me that the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It's greener where you water it. That lesson, applied to various aspects of my life like career and family, has been a positive change for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 It changed what I thought about myself. And not for the better. I learned I'm weaker, sadder, and less emotionally stable than I thought I was. But I've always been a "grass is greener" type, and the A also taught me that the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It's greener where you water it. That lesson, applied to various aspects of my life like career and family, has been a positive change for me. That's a really great lesson to learn - good for you! I learned it wasn't enough for me to be honest, I needed to encourage it in those I am close to, too. Life's just better without that kind of deception in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Well it was definitely more complicated than my "regular" relationships with SGs... but I wouldn't say it was any more life-changing. I firmly believe it did not change the course of my future. I know myself too well by now. I still would've done & said the same things - and it still would've ended up the same way - if my MM had been S at the time. It just wasn't built to last. (And neither was my own "legitimate" M for that matter.) Maybe I'm just not cut out for lifelong R's with men. My MM and I were friends for several years before the A. When it ended, I think I grieved the loss of the friendship more than anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
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