Gosh Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 Hello again. Ive posted before about a crush i have on this guy, he eventuallly invited me over to his workplace for a beer. Wasnt a proper first date, but i guess it was close to one. Stayed late, he insisted on driving me home. Everything seemed to be going well. I did make a mistake and invited him in, cause he kept asking me questions about my house etc, and it came naturally to me, as if i totally forgot that it would be awkward. Anyways, i took it back right away, but we still continued talking in the car for like 20 minutes or something. So of course i freaked out that he may took me for easy. Anyways, thing is, the next couple of days he seems distant, yet he still does things that shows interest, like..i go for a coffee and he stalls my order and at the same time tells some regulars that are all set to go, to leave, as if he wants us to be alone. He acts nervous, yet smiles alot. So my "good"explanation is that he has no time for a relationship cause he's working 2 jobs, he seems like a shy guy and i may scared him off cause i am totally crushing on him. I can go on and on with all the excuses ive found, but the plain truth seems to be he is just not that into me. :/ Im starting to try not to flirt n stuff, but just in case im making a mistake..how do you deal with a shy guy? or is the case (besides the somewhat obvious "doesnt like me back"), does he just want the chase?Cause last time i backed off, he asked me over. Dunno, its weird cause some of the stuff he does is like a big green flag that he likes me and then he just acts weird. I guess im just gonna back off and see what happens? Link to post Share on other sites
venusianx13 Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 In my experience, you need to really take the reigns in a situation where a shy guy is involved... And no, i don't believe he thinks you're easy. If you were easy, "it" would have happened (sounds like it had the potential to!) Don't smother him, but yeah, I think he's in the early stages of "like" for you. Maybe try reciprocating an invite to your place of employment for a drink, and see what happens? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gosh Posted August 7, 2012 Author Share Posted August 7, 2012 And no, i don't believe he thinks you're easy. If you were easy, "it" would have happened (sounds like it had the potential to!) Hi venusianx13, thanks for your reply, i really needed this confirmation and you do have a point. Im still not sure as to if he's shy or just not that interested so... I havent made any move on him , cause im still confused by him. he gives some signs of interest but still no move. Can he be shy only when it comes to me? Cause in general he isnt a shy guy, it just seems that all of a sudden and after that "date" he is looking at me with this kinda like puppy eyes face, i always catch him staring at me from a distance and he catches me doing that too, when he does realise im staring his way, he actually stays there and continue to do what he's doing with a smile on his face and with in a kinda "show off" mode(in a good way). He's a pretty serious guy, so another excuse i have for his behaviour is that maybe he thinks im just a flirt and nothing more, cause he did give me the feeling that he has met alot of shallow people in his life. He kept asking me if i understood him on the most simple things you can imagine. I was like "wth?how many stupid people has this guy dated?"... So im pretty split on what to do. Now, im leaning towards letting him make some move, cause i think ive already shown him im interested, what else to do? Thing is, if he really is shy, that would be like the worst move to make. Then i think, its not me to ignore someone i like, i hate it when people do that. Gosh ive been out of the game too long Thanks for reading this far if ya did, im on a chatty mood again Link to post Share on other sites
GLDheart Posted August 10, 2012 Share Posted August 10, 2012 ...I did make a mistake and invited him in, cause he kept asking me questions about my house etc, and it came naturally to me, as if i totally forgot that it would be awkward.... Hmmm.... Question for the "players" out there: Is that an actual technique? Getting the girl thinking about the inside of her house to spur on an invite? ...it sure sounds like one. Link to post Share on other sites
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