FireCadets Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 im 13 and i like a guy who's 24. would it be wrong to text each other? he's my instructor and find it hard to talk to him because it feels awkward talking to someone i really like. what can i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author FireCadets Posted August 3, 2012 Author Share Posted August 3, 2012 thanks i'll do tht Link to post Share on other sites
HumptyDumpty Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 Well, thing is, there's nothing wrong with it in general! I dated a guy 12 years older than me! But the relationship is no more too.. However... as long as one is still under-age (not even having the legal age of consent for sex which is about 16 in the UK for example), it's not only illegal but morally wrong! What does a guy his age want with a 13 year old? Maturity, etc, just isn't on the same level and well, having a crush is one side but dating him could get very creepy trust me... Just stick to the law and forget about it! Daydreaming doesn't cost anything but that's your only choice, sorry! Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 im 13 and i like a guy who's 24. would it be wrong to text each other? he's my instructor and find it hard to talk to him because it feels awkward talking to someone i really like. what can i do? FireCadets, you are only 13. He is 24. While you are much more mature then you were at 10, you aren't anything cloes to 24. And there is something wrong with a 24 year old man that would encourage a 13 year old girl. If you are only texting him to talk about "instructor" things, I don't see a problem. But if you are texting him to tell him you like him and flirt, that's really not a great idea and you really wouldn't want to be a guy anyway that is 24 flirting with someone 13. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
brahmabull117 Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 :sick::sick: Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 It's just a crush, it will go away. But if something happens between the two of you, someone will figure it out and his entire life will be ruined ... he will be seen as a rapist. As you go over 18, the 11 age difference will mean less and less. You could wait untill then, and you won't ruin his life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 It's just a crush, it will go away. But if something happens between the two of you, someone will figure it out and his entire life will be ruined ... he will be seen as a rapist. As you go over 18, the 11 age difference will mean less and less. You could wait untill then, and you won't ruin his life. Her being 13, he basically would be a rapist. This isn't about her not ruining his life. Only he can do that considering he is the adult. I am way over the age of 13 and an 11 year old differnece doesn't seem "less"! Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 That's not an age difference, that's a you're a child and he's an adult difference. Just plain ick. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 im 13 and i like a guy who's 24. would it be wrong to text each other? he's my instructor and find it hard to talk to him because it feels awkward talking to someone i really like. what can i do? Hello, You are very young, please be careful when you read messages in this board, they aren't really aimed at your age group. It would be best if you spoke to your mum about this. I don't think it would be right for you to contact him and I think he would feel uncomfortable if a 13 year-old wrote to him as well. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Hello, You are very young, please be careful when you read messages in this board, they aren't really aimed at your age group.... ....And don't use a personal photo as an avatar, either!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FireCadets Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 i only talk to him about stuff we do at cadets, but i like him and he knows tht my sister told him but it hasnt changed anything so i dont mean to be rude to any1 but if theres nothing going on between us then theres nothing wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) My niece is 13. I think if she was caught doing this, her phone would be confiscated and she'd be grounded foreverrr. OP it's very inappropriate, don't text him and if he texts you I really would recommend letting your parents know that you guys are texting one another. Just to be safe. He is in a whole other world from you, one you cannot possibly understand yet at your age. When you are 24 you will realize just how terrible of an idea it would be for you and him to be texting one another. Oh okay I see you already do text with him. Well, in that case...do your parents know? As long as it's about your cadet things, it sounds okay, hopefully it does not turn into personal conversations. How old is your sister that knows about it? Edited August 4, 2012 by veggirl Link to post Share on other sites
Author FireCadets Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 ok thanks i'll take tht into consideration cheers Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 i only talk to him about stuff we do at cadets, but i like him and he knows tht my sister told him but it hasnt changed anything so i dont mean to be rude to any1 but if theres nothing going on between us then theres nothing wrong. If anything happens between the two of you this is what will happen to you : - you will grow up not right, always seeking older men - you will at a point in your life regret what you did and you will end up in therapy For him : - long prison term; easier if you were just 16 or so, but 13 ... he can get up to 20yrs in most countries - when/if he gets out he will be a known sex offender so any chance of him starting a family is long gone - he will never have a meaningfull job as any serious employer would run a background check - he will be raped in prison, this is 100% sure ... anal rape, many times; prisoners don't take kindly to pedophiles So i don't mean to be rude to U, but talk to your mother right now. Or else you will ruin 2 lives, yours and his. PS: If that sister is significantly older, and she approved of this, i am seriously questioning right now the competence of your parents. Link to post Share on other sites
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