communityFan Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 When answering this question please keep in mind we are talking about an average looking guy approaching you not an underwear model. Out and about on an average day do you want to be approached and asked out more often or do you get approached too much and it is annoying? Thanks in advance for your responses. Link to post Share on other sites
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 More often. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 When answering this question please keep in mind we are talking about an average looking guy approaching you not an underwear model. Out and about on an average day do you want to be approached and asked out more often or do you get approached too much and it is annoying? Thanks in advance for your responses. I like being approached. I enjoy talking and getting to know people. I've accepted meetings many times from men I met out and about. Here's the deal though... no matter who follows up, men need to understand they are still strangers. They are totally starting from scratch with the woman. Don't get all excited and assume that just because she gives you her number or accepts yours that she is easy or that you are getting it in on the 3rd date or less. All it means is that she is willing to continue the conversation you initiated at a later time. That's it. That's all it means. And if you aren't willing to go to the effort of getting to know her, don't bother approaching... Frankly, I'd prefer NOT to be approached by men looking for a hookup or something casual in places where I work, do business, or relax. Save that for OLD, bars, and other more plebeian locations. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I like being approached. I enjoy talking and getting to know people. I've accepted meetings many times from men I met out and about. Here's the deal though... no matter who follows up, men need to understand they are still strangers. They are totally starting from scratch with the woman. Don't get all excited and assume that just because she gives you her number or accepts yours that she is easy or that you are getting it in on the 3rd date or less. All it means is that she is willing to continue the conversation you initiated at a later time. That's it. That's all it means. And if you aren't willing to go to the effort of getting to know her, don't bother approaching... Frankly, I'd prefer NOT to be approached by men looking for a hookup or something casual in places where I work, do business, or relax. Save that for OLD, bars, and other more plebeian locations. I thought you only date people you "know"? Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I thought you only date people you "know"? That's true. I do. Having someone's phone number doesn't mean I have to agree to meet them one-on-one for a 'date'. There are lots of ways to get to know someone without making it romantic right off the bat. Link to post Share on other sites
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 That's true. I do. Having someone's phone number doesn't mean I have to agree to meet them one-on-one for a 'date'. There are lots of ways to get to know someone without making it romantic right off the bat. You said go on dates... if you you don't plan on dating someone you don't know... why would you get a strangers number? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 When answering this question please keep in mind we are talking about an average looking guy approaching you not an underwear model. Out and about on an average day do you want to be approached and asked out more often or do you get approached too much and it is annoying? Thanks in advance for your responses. Sure. If you are not high/drunk and can make normal conversation...I am all for it. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) You said go on dates... if you you don't plan on dating someone you don't know... why would you get a strangers number? It means I will get to know them (phone, email, meeting in public with other friends/family) before going on a one-on-one 'date'... It's not much different than screening people from Craigslist when you are looking to buy/sell something. I never even give out my actual cell # or full name to complete strangers where personal type info might have the potential to be divulged (like where I live etc). I give them my Google Voice number. Hopefully that clears things up... Edited August 4, 2012 by RedRobin Link to post Share on other sites
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 It means I will get to know them (phone, email, meeting in public with other friends/family) before going on a one-on-one 'date'... It's not much different than screening people from Craigslist when you are looking to buy/sell something. I never even give out my actual cell # or full name to complete strangers where personal type info might have the potential to be divulged (like where I live etc). I give them my Google Voice number. Hopefully that clears things up... ... So you are saying you would like to meet a stranger, have them exchange numbers, introduce them to your family/friends as a complete stranger, and THEN go on a date? Please tell me how much success you have with that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bobsmith76 Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 More often. I have found that approaching strange women in public just doesn't work. I only approach strange women at events where there is a common interest such as a book reading, a poetry reading, or a political event. I know as a woman I would be flattered by the attention but all too often women just seem to freeze up and you can't get anywhere unless you have that common interest that brings you to the same place. Maybe I'll change my mind but I get tired of all the rejection. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Janesays Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Honestly? Less often. Link to post Share on other sites
yongyong Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Don't ask this kind of Stupid question and find out on your own. Obviously you never had this kind of relationship 'hey what if I didn't ask you out at that time', 'it's crazy we met there' It can happen anywhere and anytime. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 This isnt a good question to ask. Even if 80% of women wish you didnt approach them and only 20% of women would be glad you did, your target market is the aforementioned 20%. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chocolat Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 It's hard to answer the question as posed because it's not about the number of approaches but the quality of them. Organically started conversations are the best. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
joe zufo Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 More often. by the hot male model whos slept with a hundred females before you Link to post Share on other sites
Author communityFan Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 Don't ask this kind of Stupid question and find out on your own. Obviously you never had this kind of relationship 'hey what if I didn't ask you out at that time', 'it's crazy we met there' It can happen anywhere and anytime. Haven't you heard, there are no stupid questions only stupid people who answer them? Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) ... So you are saying you would like to meet a stranger, have them exchange numbers, introduce them to your family/friends as a complete stranger, and THEN go on a date? Please tell me how much success you have with that. I've had great success watching how they interact around my friends or how they act around their friends. These are not intimate house parties, bbq's or things like that... it is always something the general public is also available to attend... When they come to a function where my friends are around, I introduce them as just another friend. No big deal. Keep in mind, I've had at least phone conversations before then. I'm not 'texting' blah blah blah... and calling that communication... It can be amazing what you learn about someone that way. ... now, if you'd like any more information about my screening process, you will have to be more polite. Edited August 4, 2012 by RedRobin Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Approached: Less. Appreciated: more. I enjoy when guys smile, say hello, show they think I'm cute and continue on their way. I don't enjoy being approached. Being approached makes me feel uncomfortable, mostly because I'm not good at rejecting people. I'm not saying I reject everyone who approaches me, but whenever I am approached, I get anxious. That's on me however. That being said, if I am in a bar, then I appreciate it when a guy approaches me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author communityFan Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 Approached: Less. Appreciated: more. I enjoy when guys smile, say hello, show they think I'm cute and continue on their way. I don't enjoy being approached. Being approached makes me feel uncomfortable, mostly because I'm not good at rejecting people. I'm not saying I reject everyone who approaches me, but whenever I am approached, I get anxious. That's on me however. That being said, if I am in a bar, then I appreciate it when a guy approaches me. That just sounds like you want a self esteem boost. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
joe zufo Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I've had great success watching how they interact around my friends or how they act around their friends. These are not intimate house parties, bbq's or things like that... it is always something the general public is also available to attend... When they come to a function where my friends are around, I introduce them as just another friend. No big deal. Keep in mind, I've had at least phone conversations before then. I'm not 'texting' blah blah blah... and calling that communication... It can be amazing what you learn about someone that way. ... now, if you'd like any more information about my screening process, you will have to be more polite. no thank you i dont desire to go through your touch screening process just to have another female. go through a tough process with litle reward. i won't do that Link to post Share on other sites
joe zufo Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Approached: Less. Appreciated: more. I enjoy when guys smile, say hello, show they think I'm cute and continue on their way. I don't enjoy being approached. Being approached makes me feel uncomfortable, mostly because I'm not good at rejecting people. I'm not saying I reject everyone who approaches me, but whenever I am approached, I get anxious. That's on me however. That being said, if I am in a bar, then I appreciate it when a guy approaches me. what is the mater with you? so a good man on the street makes you uncomfortable but not a drunk in a bar. females. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
joe zufo Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 That just sounds like you want a self esteem boost. thats just your typical female Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 That just sounds like you want a self esteem boost. Sure. I love compliments. Don't you? Link to post Share on other sites
joe zufo Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Sure. I love compliments. Don't you? you love men telling you how wonderful you are like a princess Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 no thank you i dont desire to go through your touch screening process just to have another female. go through a tough process with litle reward. i won't do that DING DING DING screening process successful!!! If you feel getting to know me is 'tough' or a 'chore' (lots do) then it's a good day for both of us, eh? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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