fortyninethousand322 Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I don't think women like being approached. Which is why guys shouldn't approach them. We wouldn't want to be bothered like that, so why bother others? Link to post Share on other sites
Author communityFan Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 Sure. I love compliments. Don't you? I don't want to waste my time, just to give some girl a self esteem boost. Link to post Share on other sites
joe zufo Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 DING DING DING screening process successful!!! If you feel getting to know me is 'tough' or a 'chore' (lots do) then it's a good day for both of us, eh? females make a suposedly fun process a chore 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I don't want to waste my time, just to give some girl a self esteem boost. What's wrong with making others feel food about themselves? Whenever the smile/hello thing happens, I smile back and say hello. The self-esteem boost ends up being mutual. I'm currently practicing checking guys out more often, so I also contribute to making others feel good about themselves. If you resent it when you show women you find them attractive unless they respond the way you want them to, then approaching strangers isn't for you. A compliment is freely given, with no strings attached. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 females make a suposedly fun process a chore I guess it all depends on what you define as 'fun'... Link to post Share on other sites
joe zufo Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 What's wrong with making others feel food about themselves? Whenever the smile/hello thing happens, I smile back and say hello. The self-esteem boost ends up being mutual. I'm currently practicing checking guys out more often, so I also contribute to making others feel good about themselves. If you resent it when you show women you find them attractive unless they respond the way you want them to, then approaching strangers isn't for you. A compliment is freely given, with no strings attached. how dare a good man exchane phone numbers or meet you for coffee. females. Link to post Share on other sites
joe zufo Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I guess it all depends on what you define as 'fun'... not particpating in females silly tests. just going on a real date. but females spoil the fun Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 not particpating in females silly tests. just going on a real date. but females spoil the fun ... and what constitutes a real date for you? What I've observed a 'real date' for alot of guys is coffee (that I pay my share for), followed by getting my leg humped in one form another. This is not my idea of fun. Especially from a complete stranger. Link to post Share on other sites
Author communityFan Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 What's wrong with making others feel food about themselves? Whenever the smile/hello thing happens, I smile back and say hello. The self-esteem boost ends up being mutual. I'm currently practicing checking guys out more often, so I also contribute to making others feel good about themselves. If you resent it when you show women you find them attractive unless they respond the way you want them to, then approaching strangers isn't for you. A compliment is freely given, with no strings attached. Like I said, I am not trying to waste my time giving out compliments to women who have no interest in dating and just want a self esteem boost. If I compliment a woman I want to talk to her, I am going to try to engage her in conversation and I want to get those digits. Link to post Share on other sites
joe zufo Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 ... and what constitutes a real date for you? What I've observed a 'real date' for alot of guys is coffee (that I pay my share for), followed by getting my leg humped in one form another. This is not my idea of fun. Especially from a complete stranger. females want the just coffee instead of a fun date. i offer fun suggestions of all types and its no, just coffee or no how about burger king. they wont even do a fair or amesment park or a more intesting restraurant. females want boring places with broing atmophere and boring food. im 29 and my number is 3. i had one one night stand but that was both of our intentions after being at the bar. two relationships with one cheating one me and one being high mainnace so i ha to end things. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Like I said, I am not trying to waste my time giving out compliments to women who have no interest in dating and just want a self esteem boost. If I compliment a woman I want to talk to her, I am going to try to engage her in conversation and I want to get those digits. Who says I'm not interested in dating? What I said is this: when men approach me in a context where I don't expect it, I get anxious. I took responsibility for that: it's my own issue. The reason I said it was to explain why some women "clam up". You're looking at my statement with only your own self-interest in mind: what you care about is getting the digits so that you get validation. Face it, you like your self-esteem stroked as much, if not more, than I do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author communityFan Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 Who says I'm not interested in dating? What I said is this: when men approach me in a context where I don't expect it, I get anxious. I took responsibility for that: it's my own issue. The reason I said it was to explain why some women "clam up". You're looking at my statement with only your own self-interest in mind: what you care about is getting the digits so that you get validation. Face it, you like your self-esteem stroked as much, if not more, than I do. No, getting those digits is about the opportunity of creating a relationship with someone. If I get those digits I am going to follow up, and I will not like it if the girl ignores my call or says no because, it is an opportunity lost. I am not looking to just get attention or waste a woman's time, so no I don't agree with what you said. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) No, getting those digits is about the opportunity of creating a relationship with someone. If I get those digits I am going to follow up, and I will not like it if the girl ignores my call or says no because, it is an opportunity lost. I am not looking to just get attention or waste a woman's time, so no I don't agree with what you said. Good. Happy if I'm wrong. Then, since this isn't all about you and you're a genuine guy looking to offer a lucky woman a happy, healthy, mutually self-supporting relationship, I take it that in two three months from now you will be dating someone exclusively. Oh, and ps: if someone approaches me, I am not the one who's wasting their time. I have the right to refuse their approaches so neither of us waste our time. I get the impression you purposefully misunderstand me. Edited August 4, 2012 by Kamille 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I like being approached. I enjoy talking and getting to know people. I've accepted meetings many times from men I met out and about. Here's the deal though... no matter who follows up, men need to understand they are still strangers. They are totally starting from scratch with the woman. Don't get all excited and assume that just because she gives you her number or accepts yours that she is easy or that you are getting it in on the 3rd date or less. Oh really? Aw, that's too bad. I really thought we'd be talking about the sleeping arrangements since I already booked a cheap motel. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 females want the just coffee instead of a fun date. i offer fun suggestions of all types and its no, just coffee or no how about burger king. they wont even do a fair or amesment park or a more intesting restraurant. Do you know many women who have similar interests to your own? Do you have a circle of friends that includes women as well or only men? Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetheartt Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Sure. I love compliments. Don't you? yup lmao! I loooovvvveeeeee compliments about anything on me except a typical "hey ma u gotta nice ass or boobs" it just seems that guys just do those stupid remarks but have no guts to actually start a nice convo. Link to post Share on other sites
Author communityFan Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 Good. Happy if I'm wrong. Then, since this isn't all about you and you're a genuine guy looking to offer a lucky woman a happy, healthy, mutually self-supporting relationship, I take it that in two three months from now you will be dating someone exclusively. Oh, and ps: if someone approaches me, I am not the one who's wasting their time. I have the right to refuse their approaches so neither of us waste our time. I get the impression you purposefully misunderstand me. I understood what you were saying, it's just that I have seen too much attention seeking behavior from flaky women to know I don't want any part of that. Hopefully if you get over your fear of being randomly approached you can be open to more guys and find someone too. Thanks for explaining why some women clam up though, that makes sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I don't think women like being approached. Which is why guys shouldn't approach them. We wouldn't want to be bothered like that, so why bother others? Women like being approached. Everywhere I go, everyday, I see women that obviously want to be approached. Nearly everytime I do approach, it works out well. You just need to stop doing it blind or "cold". Link to post Share on other sites
NYC-BigKat Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Women like being approached. Everywhere I go, everyday, I see women that obviously want to be approached. Nearly everytime I do approach, it works out well. You just need to stop doing it blind or "cold". Um..how do u know? I really cant tell so I just take a chance & just do it. It dont work out much 'cause I never see any signs of a girl wanting to be approached. Can u give me examples? Link to post Share on other sites
yongyong Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 So if they say they like to be approached, what are you going to do? I know you don't have balls to approach anyways. Do sales men ask 'if I walk into your business and try to sell something, would you buy it?' if they say, they don't like to be approached, you've got a great excuse! 'hey I can approach any women I want. but I know they don't like that. so I am going to just respect her space' No they like other guys approaching her except You. Haven't you heard, there are no stupid questions only stupid people who answer them? Link to post Share on other sites
brahmabull117 Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) Women want you to approach if you're good looking and charismatic They don't want you to approach if you're ugly and boring There's the answer to the thread, why is this still going? We wouldn't want to be bothered like that LOL Wut? I love being approached Hell I love being approached by gay guys even when I have no interest in dick. It's always good to receive positive attention Edited August 4, 2012 by brahmabull117 1 Link to post Share on other sites
yongyong Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Don't listen to women like this. Let me ask you. The last cock you rode, how did you meet him? Oh he was in your social circle for a while or you guys grew up together right? I don't think women like being approached. Which is why guys shouldn't approach them. We wouldn't want to be bothered like that, so why bother others? Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 The poster you're quoting is a guy. Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Women like being approached. Everywhere I go, everyday, I see women that obviously want to be approached. Nearly everytime I do approach, it works out well. You just need to stop doing it blind or "cold". I don't really believe this, but ok if you say so. Don't listen to women like this. Let me ask you. The last cock you rode, how did you meet him? Oh he was in your social circle for a while or you guys grew up together right? Wait, what? I'm a guy. Link to post Share on other sites
brahmabull117 Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 I don't really believe this, but ok if you say so. You would dislike it if somebody came to you and said you look cute/handsome? Link to post Share on other sites
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