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Me personally I am an African-American male and I think for most of us black men the reason why we end up dating women mostly outside our own race is because maybe that is just our preference but also because dating outside of our race, we see that the women outside of our race aren't so crazy and they actually generally are nice girls but also I like black women too especially because they know how to hold their man down, especially the light-skinned black women since I am with a light-skinned black girl and I'm dark-skinned, but also you will generally see other black guys go after white women or even Latina women

 

So generally dating outside of your own race, could sometimes be a bad idea but also it can be a good idea, it depends really

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our eyes should be color blind so that only personaly would show. There is beauty, in all skin colors, there is ugly in all skin colors...depends n the person....i have been with a gorgeous man, but he was s currupt and rotten on the inside that io longer could see the beauty on the outside...make sence....

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lmao @ this thread

 

A woman been good at holding down her man is individual. Skin color doesnt make one a better mate or not, or able to keep a mate or not.

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Me personally I am an African-American male and I think for most of us black men the reason why we end up dating women mostly outside our own race is because maybe that is just our preference but also because dating outside of our race, we see that the women outside of our race aren't so crazy and they actually generally are nice girls but also I like black women too especially because they know how to hold their man down, especially the light-skinned black women since I am with a light-skinned black girl and I'm dark-skinned, but also you will generally see other black guys go after white women or even Latina women

 

So generally dating outside of your own race, could sometimes be a bad idea but also it can be a good idea, it depends really

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Skin color doesnt make one a better mate or not, or able to keep a mate or not.

 

I agree with this. However, skin color often does play a role in whether one would even be considered for a mate, even before the quoted above is even relevant.

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Why 'African american?'

I never hear 'Jamaican American, or 'Trinidadian American'...

 

When was the last time you lived in Africa?

Were you born in Africa?

 

Africa's a massive place - Do you mean Moroccan-African American, or Angolan-African american?

 

You're AMERICAN - period!

Who the hell cares about the rest of it?

If you were born in America - you're American! no matter what your colour!

Have you seen the Olympic Games?

did you see who won the 10,000metre marathon?

 

His names Mo Farrah, and he's BRITISH!!

 

We never get people calling themselves African-British people over here.....

 

And don't tell me it keeps you in touch with your roots.

 

it's about as much about your Roots as Alex Haley's book was about his....

 

 

Ridiculous.

Cut it out.

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Well I guess it depends on what constitutes as race. Do you lump all white people into one group? British, French, German and Russian people are very different.

 

In terms of attraction, I find myself attracted most to white girls. Eurasian can also be beautiful. While I do find people of all races attractive, this is what I am most often attracted to. It's not racist, it's just personal preference. I'm sure others have their own.

 

Skin colour is not a good indicator of personality.

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Yes, but it seems to me that only 'African American' people insist on making this distinction....and frankly, it's almost segregational, and smacks of elitism.... sometimes.....

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Yes, but it seems to me that only 'African American' people insist on making this distinction....and frankly, it's almost segregational, and smacks of elitism.... sometimes.....

 

I've seen a lot of American people describing themselves as Irish-American...and one man told me in a very Texan drawl that he was Scottish. He seemed pretty certain that he was more Scottish than I am. In terms of the number of Scottish ancestors he had, maybe he was right...who knows?

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Taramere, promise, this is the first i heard of anyone else something-American, hyphenating their origins... and surely, I've never heard it here... although if pushed some will say "I'm British, but with *some~nationality* blood.... or as I do, "i'm half this, half that"... but I would never say I'm Anglo-Italian....

 

Just strikes me as an odd thing to have to quantify....

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I think its a habit usually to the U.S.

If you ask a white person what their heritage is they will say where their ancestors came from. The American part is assumed. If you ask a Hispanic person where they are from they usually tell you where they were born (if outside of the US) or where their parents were born (same deal).

But you're correct in that despite most of the black people in the US being of Island descent due to slavery, they usually say the city they grew up in or claim African descent. Perhaps it is due to a feeling that the first slaves were African and then the rest were from breeding them as stock with islanders in the Caribbean? Its an ugly part of history; I can understand not wanting to be associated with it.

 

Its just a reflection of the US being a comparatively young nation and a place many people immigrated to unless they are Native American.

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Yes, but it seems to me that only 'African American' people insist on making this distinction....and frankly, it's almost segregational, and smacks of elitism.... sometimes.....

 

Taramere, promise, this is the first i heard of anyone else something-American, hyphenating their origins... and surely, I've never heard it here... although if pushed some will say "I'm British, but with *some~nationality* blood.... or as I do, "i'm half this, half that"... but I would never say I'm Anglo-Italian....

 

Just strikes me as an odd thing to have to quantify....

while the UK may be a nation of immigrants, it is not one in the American sense. As you have heard it is not only Black's, who use a hyphen but because aside from recent immigrants and Alex Haley we have no ideal what our actual ethnic, tribal or national heritage is African is the term we use. When Oprah first went through that DNA project and they proclaimed her a daughter of the Zulu nation I cried she had been scammed because I bet that only a very few could identify any African nation besides the Zulus or Kunta Kinte's Mandingo.

 

My bio; my parents went to the "colored school" and while my grandmother used the term until her death today it is just a legacy used by the NAACP who keep the term to link politically with other "peoples of color". I was born a negro but by the time I was a child "negro" was increasingly used as an insult, a cute way to to change the "nigh" sound to a "knee" sound. Afro lost out to Black which I am most comfortable with, much as my grandmother used colored.

 

A high profile TV performer in the 70s Lola Falana, used to describe herself as "Brown" but politically non-black Latinos won the usage of that term. African however did come in response to things like the proud Italian Americans of the Jersey Shore and our inability to actually link ourselves to Cameroon or Nigeria

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Taramere, promise, this is the first i heard of anyone else something-American, hyphenating their origins... and surely, I've never heard it here... although if pushed some will say "I'm British, but with *some~nationality* blood.... or as I do, "i'm half this, half that"... but I would never say I'm Anglo-Italian....

 

Just strikes me as an odd thing to have to quantify....

Really?

 

Everyone I have met says exactly what their background is. Be it Korean, Chinese, Black (African American), Jamaican, Irish, Italian, or Euro mutt.

 

And they usually add American at the end of any one of those backgrounds. Its very common

I think its a habit usually to the U.S.

If you ask a white person what their heritage is they will say where their ancestors came from. The American part is assumed. If you ask a Hispanic person where they are from they usually tell you where they were born (if outside of the US) or where their parents were born (same deal).

But you're correct in that despite most of the black people in the US being of Island descent due to slavery, they usually say the city they grew up in or claim African descent. Perhaps it is due to a feeling that the first slaves were African and then the rest were from breeding them as stock with islanders in the Caribbean? Its an ugly part of history; I can understand not wanting to be associated with it.

 

Its just a reflection of the US being a comparatively young nation and a place many people immigrated to unless they are Native American.

Most blacks are of island descent? Hmmm dunno about that part. People who are Caribbean generally know and say they are Caribbean and dont want to be called African American...because they arent. They are Jamaican American, Haitian American, or any other background

 

African Americans are descendents of mainland US slaves, and thus cant trace their roots. All we will at most know is our black origins are from Western Africa...thats about it.

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Sir Thomas Beecham, principal conductor of the London philharmonic Orchestra was in New York as a guest conductor of the New York Philharmonic, and one evening, he and his wife took a walk around new York.

They unwittingly wandered into Harlem, and found a small bar in which they wanted to get a drink.

The place went silent, you could have heard a pin drop.

 

He eventually asked if they might possibly be served a drink...

The bartender wandered over, and told him that only coloured people could be served there.

 

"Good!" replied Sir Thomas. "We're pink!"

 

They got served.

 

sorry, off-topic.

but I think it was a great way of ensuring fellowship and camaraderie.

If I were blind, what would I care what colour people were....?

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African Americans are mainland descendents of American slaves, and thus cant trace their roots. All we will at most know is our black origins are from Western Africa...thats about it.

 

Truly no one kept good track of how many African slaves were brought to Jamaica or which of them were bred with Jamaican slaves. It being closer to the US, however, it is where most of the slaves for the US came from.

Many slaves did come from Africa as slavery was a common practice even among Africans. But the majority of those slaves, when not owned by an African, were owned by the British and Spanish.

 

My reference for this is pretty new to me; much of this was discussed in the movie "Marly" where it talks about the history of where he grew up. Its not like we learn much truth about that time in schools in the US. Hell, I didn't even know that there had been a slave revolt in Orleans where slaves took over the area and held it until the National Guard came in and slaughtered everyone.

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Truly no one kept good track of how many African slaves were brought to Jamaica or which of them were bred with Jamaican slaves. It being closer to the US, however, it is where most of the slaves for the US came from.

Everything you can find on this subject will tell you most African Americans are direct descendents of Western and Central Africans. As in most got off the boat in North America with little or no stop over in Caribbean. The Atlantic slave trade was pretty well recorded in history.

Many slaves did come from Africa as slavery was a common practice even among Africans. But the majority of those slaves, when not owned by an African, were owned by the British and Spanish.

Firstly, slavery was a somewhat common practice in Africa, but it was much different from the American system of chattel slavery. Just thought Id throw that out there as a good fact to know.

 

Secondly, the Caribbean wasnt used as a source of slaves. Africa was the main source of slaves. Boats were sailed from Africa to North America in a straight shot at times, though some did stop over in the Caribbean. But a stop over doesnt make the descendents of those slaves Caribbean.

My reference for this is pretty new to me; much of this was discussed in the movie "Marly" where it talks about the history of where he grew up. Its not like we learn much truth about that time in schools in the US. Hell, I didn't even know that there had been a slave revolt in Orleans where slaves took over the area and held it until the National Guard came in and slaughtered everyone.

Well, I think a movie about Bob Marley and Jamaica is going to give you more a history about him and Jamaica...not America and its history.
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Most blacks are of island descent? Hmmm dunno about that part. People who are Caribbean generally know and say they are Caribbean and dont want to be called African American...because they arent. They are Jamaican American, Haitian American, or any other background

 

African Americans are descendents of mainland US slaves, and thus cant trace their roots. All we will at most know is our black origins are from Western Africa...thats about it.

Most Blacks in Briton perhaps was the meaning. Caribbean Black people have an intermediate identifier in between the US and Africa they can adopt. Be it Latino, Puerto Rican, Cuban, Dominican... or an ex-Anglo nation like Jamaica Trinidad Tobago, or even a mixture like Belizians.

 

There was a movie about a Harlem Globetrotters like baseball team with Richard Pryor as a player dreaming of being the first "colored" player in the major leagues. As such he tried to 'pass' himself off as a native American then a Latino to little effect, Black latinos were black as far as segregationist were concerned. On the east coast being a Latino because of so many Black Cubans, Ricans....etc. made you another race as in the play West Side Story. Meanwhile on the west coast being Mexican you were white, you can watch old episodes of Dragnet and Adam-12 and hear the officers officially describe Latinos as Caucasian. It was a later political part of the brown power movement when they won the fight to a racial as opposed to merely ethnic descrimnator. Jump to the future many Black Latinos primarily self identify as Latino and not as Black as their physical features would have had them identified during segregation and Jim Crow.

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My bio; my parents went to the "colored school" and while my grandmother used the term until her death today it is just a legacy used by the NAACP who keep the term to link politically with other "peoples of color". I was born a negro but by the time I was a child "negro" was increasingly used as an insult, a cute way to to change the "nigh" sound to a "knee" sound. Afro lost out to Black which I am most comfortable with, much as my grandmother used colored.

 

A high profile TV performer in the 70s Lola Falana, used to describe herself as "Brown" but politically non-black Latinos won the usage of that term. African however did come in response to things like the proud Italian Americans of the Jersey Shore and our inability to actually link ourselves to Cameroon or Nigeria

 

My grandmother too always used the word 'colored' as well to describe black folks, and she never meant it in a negative way, it was always just a descriptive term without negativity attached when she said it. Actually she generally spoke it with compassion, as in 'I saw this poor colored man on the side of the road with a flat tire and the sun was beating down on him to no end, shame he couldn't have found some shade to change that tire in' or something like that.

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Let me first start out by saying...

 

African American Women and Asian Men have gotten the ****-end of the stick. Fact.

Nobody wants a neck-talking attitude, as generalized by an African American Female. You go to African, and you will find the most beautiful African women. Who, are the sweetest women you could ever want to spend a day or life with. I'm not against dating African women, but more so against the generalized African-American ones.

 

But in regards to race and procreation... I don't consider it racist to feel this either, but you can and will be your own Judge. I (German/Irish/Polish decent) wouldn't want to have babies with a black woman or a full blown Asian women because I want to be able to spread my genes as far as possible... And in procreating with an African/Asian, I doubt the babies would even look like me.

 

just sayin'

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I get really annoyed when ignorant people assume your race by color. I am brown/black american, not african american. If I was born in Africa and live in america, I'd be African American. Everytime I sign a work application, I scratch out African American or put other. I'm dating a white guy and it's my preference. I do not date black guys because I never met one that interested me or they questioned me being "white", just because of the tone of my voice and vocabulary. Plus, I feel more compfortable around other races to be honest because they do not question my nationality in order to know if I'm good enough.

 

Another tbh, I've dated a black guy before and it was really difficult. He didn't appreciate me as the white guy did..personal experience. Oh yea, a woman is a woman and if she know how to hold her "own", that's what it is. I hear a lot of black men putting black women in these offensive categories, which causes them to feel hurt and come off as aggressive and defensive. Color shouldn't mean anything but yes if I'm dating a someone of the opposite race, I'm going to be proud of that person in general, can't help that they aren't my nationality.

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i've dated women of all races w/o issues. the key is to tell rest of society to "screw you if you have a problem with it!" and just enjoy one another.

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Why 'African american?'

I never hear 'Jamaican American, or 'Trinidadian American'...

 

Ridiculous.

Cut it out.

You are my new favorite person :bunny:

 

Thank you

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Why 'African american?'

I never hear 'Jamaican American, or 'Trinidadian American'...

 

First of all, AFRICAN American and Jamaican or Trinidadian designation are not equivalent. Jamaican and Trinidadian are clearly "nationality" descriptors, unlike African, which is continent. Another thing, as it has been all too clear, the USA is most fixated on RACE. Remember, the Constitution itself was created with the immoral acceptance of slavery and relegating people (slaves) of African descent to 3/5 of a human being in legal terms.

 

People who get upset about why the need for African American seem to ignore history and the institutions that mostly white America placed on its citizens. For the better part of this country's existence, the government and general population found it necessary to know what race you belonged to for purposes both progressive and, unfortunately, nefarious.

 

You have a choice (now) to choose "other" or something less general than African American, but even your Carribean Islanders would likely check off African American as they are of African origin (much removed of course). Aren't there forms that have Caucasian or White then something about whether you are of European descent? I think so. So, even when designating whites, depending upon the form, you may be asked whether you are of European descent or not....not pretty, but the reality and a historical truth to how, even today, it was important to divide, separate, the human condition to color, region, and the infamous and scientifically inaccurate RACE.

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Meh, I don't care really. I would consider my own marriage an interracial marriage because I am 1/2 Filipino (1/2 white) and my wife is white.

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I'm latin and I'm cool with dating any ethnicity. I do it because I love women, all kinds, and I want to experience as many different kinds as I can.

 

I think, in 2012, it's pretty lame to want to stay within your race. That's just my opinion. I think people should be more open to dating other people.

 

We're all humans at the end of the day.

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