Ryan_1988 Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 My wife is an amateur model and we constantly fight over her doing nude modeling (im not okay with it). However, now she wants to do a one time job where she serves drinks in a bikini at a bachelor party with 4 other girls. I have a lot of jealous/insecurity/trust issues already since she spent the night at another mans home while I was deployed months ago. Am I overreacting or is it right for me to not be comfortable with this? Link to post Share on other sites
nonexistent Posted August 6, 2012 Share Posted August 6, 2012 Of course it's right for you to be uncomfortable with the situation. My wife and I ran into some troubles in the past regarding situations like this, but we've come to an agreement. You have to make sure she takes responsibility for her actions. Just like you, I was in the service too. And being in the military, they always hold us accountable for our actions. Same thing with her, if caught her with another man and you felt that it was wrong then tell her and have her understand how it feels. Have her think of the situation being in your shoes, for example ask her how she would feel about you spending the night in another woman's home in her bed maybe? Regardless of what she does, you have to maintain faith and confidence in her and yourself. Trust her word until she messes up but also maintain guidance. Don't set her up for failure and don't automatically destroy her because of your assumptions or disagreements regarding her modeling. In the end, it's her life and I've learned that you can never change someone. So if she wants to model, you should support it, but set the obvious limits regarding nude physical contact and cheating, etc. I hope this helped! TLDR: Communicate with each other and find a happy medium. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted August 6, 2012 Share Posted August 6, 2012 Amateur model? :rolleyes: hope she knows exactly where the photos are going. serving drinks in a bikini is tacky and not modeling. I wouldn't dream of suggesting I model nude or serve men while I wear a bikini to my bf, cause I have respect for him and our relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 You know it's not right. You don't need us to tell you that it's not right. She cheated once and now her choice of career is driving a wedge between the two of you. This would be a dealbreaker for me. If you cannot trust her and/or she's untrustworthy then the writing is on the wall, in my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
FryFish Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Girls in bikini's who serve drinks at bachelor parties get ****ed for money... Is your wife getting ****ed for money ok with you? Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 I modeled when I was younger and was offered to pose for play boy, I turned it down because of my boy friend he did not want me to and regretted it. Also I was offered a job to do run way modeling in japan and had to turn it down because I could not bring my daughter. Has she tried going to any agency's so she can do professional modeling? Some girls think nude modeling will take them to the top. But to succeed and make good money, they need a good agent that sends them to places that are clean and ligament. Would you feel different if she did partial nudity or are you totally against it. Most men do not want their woman doing nudity and that is understandable. Maybe encourage her to go further in a different way so she has no regrets. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NoMagicBullet Posted August 7, 2012 Share Posted August 7, 2012 Serving drinks in a bikini at a bachelor party... definitely not a modelling job, and definitely not going to help a modelling career. Its also a situation where you can pretty much gurantee that she's going to be groped or cajoled into giving lap dances or whatever else. Even if she has honorable intentions of just serving drinks, it's hard to believe the men at the party will have similar honorable intentions, especially after they've had a few. Apart from the jealousy/trust issues this knowingly aggravates, I'd be worried for her safety, depending on who else besides the other 3 girls was present to look out for her. I think you have a number of valid reasons to be concened about this "job". Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted August 13, 2012 Share Posted August 13, 2012 My wife is an amateur model and we constantly fight over her doing nude modeling (im not okay with it). However, now she wants to do a one time job where she serves drinks in a bikini at a bachelor party with 4 other girls. I have a lot of jealous/insecurity/trust issues already since she spent the night at another mans home while I was deployed months ago. Am I overreacting or is it right for me to not be comfortable with this? No, you are not overreacting. She likes the attention. And women who like this kind of attention from other men are not trustworthy. Link to post Share on other sites
GLDheart Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 Expect her to make "extra money" while she is there. She will never tell you about this. Link to post Share on other sites
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